A few couples (me and DP included) have agreed to meet for dinner tonight. Originally we weren't invited, it was two couples who agreed to meet, and then we got invited too, I can't quite remember how. Not a big deal (I don't think). Anyway, turns out everyone has organised to meet at a place that doesn't take bookings. I'm 6 months pregnant, and just can't stand for long in a queue (so as not to drip feed, I've got PGP that seems to come and go but is worse if I sit down for a long time, or stand up for a long time).
I've said I can't do a long queue, but totally understand if everyone still wants to go there and queue for as long as it takes, rather than see what the queue is like, and head to a pub or something if the queue is longer than 15/20 mins. It's gone down like a lead balloon, but I don't think I've been unreasonable? I was very clear that I knew they'd made plans to go there before they invited me, and so I understood if they wanted to stick to the original plan, and I'd just meet them another time.
AIBU?
About no-bookings restaurant tonight?
mrswhippy99 · 09/09/2022 13:44
Am I being unreasonable?
448 votes. Final results.
POLLCantanka · 09/09/2022 13:51
YANBU to not want to stand in a queue while pregnant. I’m not pregnant and can’t be bothered with no reservations placed but when it’s painful to stand due to PGP I totally sympathise.
you're not unreasonable because you haven’t asked them to change their plans and accept they can carry on without you, but I suspect they are worried that to do so is a bit mean and don’t know whether to offer to move venue or not
mrswhippy99 · 09/09/2022 13:44
A few couples (me and DP included) have agreed to meet for dinner tonight. Originally we weren't invited, it was two couples who agreed to meet, and then we got invited too, I can't quite remember how. Not a big deal (I don't think). Anyway, turns out everyone has organised to meet at a place that doesn't take bookings. I'm 6 months pregnant, and just can't stand for long in a queue (so as not to drip feed, I've got PGP that seems to come and go but is worse if I sit down for a long time, or stand up for a long time).
I've said I can't do a long queue, but totally understand if everyone still wants to go there and queue for as long as it takes, rather than see what the queue is like, and head to a pub or something if the queue is longer than 15/20 mins. It's gone down like a lead balloon, but I don't think I've been unreasonable? I was very clear that I knew they'd made plans to go there before they invited me, and so I understood if they wanted to stick to the original plan, and I'd just meet them another time.
mrwhippy999 · 09/09/2022 13:55
I think this is the crux of the issue, they really want to go to the no reservations place but also don't want to seem mean. I don't really think that's my problem though - I have given them the choice and they need to decide amongst them which they want to go with? Should I have just declined?
Cantanka · 09/09/2022 13:51
YANBU to not want to stand in a queue while pregnant. I’m not pregnant and can’t be bothered with no reservations placed but when it’s painful to stand due to PGP I totally sympathise.
you're not unreasonable because you haven’t asked them to change their plans and accept they can carry on without you, but I suspect they are worried that to do so is a bit mean and don’t know whether to offer to move venue or not
MoggyP · 09/09/2022 13:48
You know they want to go to this place, and you two were the add-on last inviteds.
Of course you don't get to change their plan!
Would think differently if you'd been part of an original group trying to find somewhere that suited you all. But you werent
MarshaMelrose · 09/09/2022 14:51
Don't take a chair to a queue. It just looks manipulative. And of you have to wait that long, surely there'll be no tables by the time it gets to you. Just wait somewhere else for the call that they're in.
Horatioshelmet · 09/09/2022 14:52
Dishoom by any chance?
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