Thoughts on taking your DC out of school to enjoy the sunshine?

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DD is 14, year 9. She's just had a message off her best friend to say she won't be in school today as her mum is taking her and her younger sister to the beach for the day. Que DD saying how cool the mum is and how unfair it is that I never let her miss school for fun stuff. I've got to work and even if I didn't I still wouldn't let her do it.

YABU-its a beautiful day, one day off school won't make a difference
YANBU-school is important and you can't skive off just because the weathers nice.

You have certain values and other people have differing ones which means you will not allow yourself to do that. Other people don't have those restrictions on themselves, I'm.unsure if it is anybodies business though - I don't understand how you can get stressed by this.

Goldenbear I don't understand how you can get stressed by this who said I was stressed?

Dd stayed home today. She feels uncomfortable taking her jumper off at school because of the boys and the temperature was ridiculous. I would far rather teach her that I’ve got her back than force her into school where she will be uncomfortable and miserable all day.

We have never been on holiday in term time, and aside from the last couple of years when they had to stay home with every sniffle my kids have always had excellent attendance. Dd is an overachiever and one day won’t hurt. Yanbu to not allow this for your own dc, but yabu to judge the choices of others.

Restrictions on themselves.....what like being a decent person....nah sod that it's a bit too restrictive that is....what I have to work and set and example....sod it that's far too restrictive....is that what you meant?

I pay for private education and whilst i have never taken mine out for a beach day I wouldn't rule it out and I have taken them out for a few days for holidays.

I feel uncomfortable reading your post....the words rod and back spring to mind....

I do wonder how some kids are going to fair out there in the real world.

I haven’t been able to read all of the replies but I just wanted to say that I wouldn’t judge this too harshly based on the couple of years we’ve all had. I understand it’s annoying that they were so up front with your kid about it but that would be my only thought. Some people don’t value education as much, some people have had a really bad time and just need one day to offload for the sake of their mental health. Or they simply don’t care. Either way, I wouldn’t get involved. It’s obviously not the right thing to do if it happens a lot but to each their own. Maybe the parent simply didn’t want to tell you that their kid is really struggling with depression and was in need of this. So no, I wouldn’t get too worked up. Sounds like your kid has a lovely afternoon on the beach planned herself so there you go, that’s fine. 👍

Less well than others I suspect....it explains a lot though doesnt it....

Firmly on the fence then....that's invaluable thanks....I'm sorry I can't help myself....

My mum and dad paid for my education and still let me take days off for holidays and to see family.

What has it got to do with the boys? I’m confused

Ok, so personally I wouldn't feel the need to lie about it, I'd be fine saying we had taken advantage of the weather in this situation. It's all about priorities, and you clearly feel that there is no occasion where any other opportunity can take precedence over a generic school day for your children. That's perfectly fine obviously, we all do what we believe is best. I certainly don't judge you for doing what you think is best for your family.
I have a feeling though that some people, not necessarily you, believe that education is only something that can be verified with a certification or some sort of "documented" merit, and that a "non documented" experience is worth nothing. The "experience " that to you is worth taking a day of annual leave is based on what you feel important. You have decided that for your children the choice of "experience" is to be had only when not in school, so anything that cannot be scheduled around that won't be possible. That's fine, it's also fine for others to make other choices.

Whose "real world" are we talking about though? There isn't simply one "real world", there's life as you perceive it and know it. Everyone sees the world in a different way.

Well out here in the real world I saw the weather was going to be lovely and took a day of annual leave...

Last summer was a huge disappointment so I'm not risking the weather turning for the rest of the season. Sunshine makes me happy.

dessertsun Whose "real world" are we talking about though? There isn't simply one "real world", there's life as you perceive it and know it. Everyone sees the world in a different way

You know, the world where you've got to put food on the table and a roof over your head, where if you skive off because its a hot day and get caught you'll get fired. Where you might have to wear a uniform that makes you feel uncomfortable, where you might have to work in hot conditions. The world where you might find yourself on a zero hours contact, where if you don't do the work you don't get paid, whether you need a 'mental health day' or not. That world.

chiffchaffchiff I think we've established by now that booking annual leave and skiving are not the same thing and not what this thread is about.

Here in the "real world" 3 of my team of 15 highly paid professionals asked for the afternoon off at short notice this morning because of the lovely weather so I happily agreed to their requests.

SweetSakura see above post re. Annual leave and skiving not being the same thing.

how can a child book annual leave then?

SweetSakura and lol at 'highly paid professionals' 😆

Picking up primary school children this afternoon, parking was easy for a change and many children missing. Guess their parents skived them off

ForestFae how can a child book annual leave then?

This thread is cracking me up, well it might be the wine but it's giving me a good giggle. Cheers for the weekend everyone 🍻

I didn't read beyond your first post but if I can pick and choose when to be on leave I don't see the harm in letting kids have one or two days off during the year.

So no logical answer, because you know your stance is illogical. Okay then.