To ask how to stop sister talking?

[Pottedpalm]

My DSis just doesn’t stop talking. She and her DH were here for lunch yesterday and as usual she totally dominated the ‘conversation’. It’s not really conversation as nobody can get a word in. She even keeps going while she eats. I just felt so exhausted listening to her, and it’s frankly embarrassing when other guests are there. ( none yesterday). How do I tackle this ?

If it was my sister I'd say bloody shut up and give someone else a chance 😁 but we have the sort of relationship where we can do that.

If you don't then maybe don't invite her round when you have others round.

My SIL is exactly like this and it can be very draining, for all the years I've know her I doubt she could tell you 3 things about me but I could tell you almost everything about her! From my experience the only thing you can do it tune it out or avoid spending time with her as she won't change.

I feel like this can be me… but also when I don’t talk, nooo one else does! So it’s boring, silent, everyone stood there just staring at each other … so I fill the silence 🤷‍♀️ it’s awkward

Does she say the same things? You can play BINGO.

Dh has a relative who talks non stop. His subject matter is predictable. it's about how brilliant he is/does something and how brilliant everyone thinks him.

He got better after the time when he squinted at the carrots and remarked how amazingly peeled they were (the only thing he did towards that meal, and, I will also add, the only complimentary thing he said about the meal too) and we all fell about laughing as dh had commented that he'd say exactly that.

@Oatsandstuff

How do you otherwise get on?

Pretty well

Is she going deaf?
My sister has always been a bit self centered & taken ovr conversations, but she's definitely got a lot worse since started losing her hearing.

Start talking over her. It might come across as rude but I can guarantee that many people feel the same as you and will gladly listen to you.

@ThinWomansBrain

Is she going deaf? My sister has always been a bit self centered & taken ovr conversations, but she's definitely got a lot worse since started losing her hearing.

She wears hearing aids

Duct tape?

Put a warning sign in the middle of the table a yellow triangle with an exclamation mark and give her a 5 minute warning when she has to finish her sentence

You get on “pretty well”
Yet describe her as “dominating” the conversation “just doesn’t stop” you find it “exhausting” and her “embarrassing”

Doesn’t seem like a “pretty well” relationship

My sister is like this, she is a bit (lot) of a drama queen and needs to be the centre of attention. My parents indulged her because she was so awful if they didn't so no one ever stood up to her and it's just too late to change her.
She's always done everything and knows everything and no one else manages to ever finish a sentence because she talks over us all. Sometimes I'll say something and she gets all offended and huffy.
She does basically have a kind heart but she's exhausting and I try to be as low contact as I can.

The hearing loss has a lot to do with it.

It's very possible she can't participate in normal conversation because she can't hear it well or can't single out one voice from a general buzz of conversation.

It's very likely that she can't keep up with fast moving conversation around a dinner table and out of anxiety about missing or mishearing a question or comment directed to her and looking foolish she drones on and on and on without realizing it.

Ask her about her hearing - do the hearing aids help - and tell her the problem you've observed. It might well be that she needs better hearing aids.

She wears hearing aids

I wear bilateral hearing aids but I certainly don't dominate conversation and talk at people for long periods.

It's not a hard of hearing thing...

It can be a living with a HoH / deaf person thing (not needing acknowledgement and carrying in talking and desperate for someone who can head you to talk to that you've saved it all up!