To ask for weird realisations you’ve had about life?

[goergia]

Things about mundane life that you’ve never given much thought but suddenly think “Now I think about it, that’s weird.”

I had one of these today. I live in a mid-terrace, neighbours are nice and quiet and we don’t hear a peep. A few days ago I had a snoop at one of the next-door neighbour’s house on Rightmove after seeing it was for sale, and realised that they have their bed right up against our party wall as I do mine. So even though I sleep in bed alone every night, there’s actually 2 people who I don’t really know just a couple of inches away from me! I don’t know why but for some reason it creeps me out. I’ve realised that in terraced houses you’re actually sharing one building with lots of people, many of whom you will NEVER interact with.

Men also have a longer back than women, but women have longer legs. So a man and woman who are both say 5ft 6
The man will have shorter legs but longer torso than the woman.

It would make more sense for the woman to have a longer torso to allow more space for babies.

This used to Hirt my head pondering this when I was younger! It still does.

i am averagely intelligent I suppose but it was weird to me when I realised that many people are actually properly stupid, to lack of education just stupid.

That in order to fall asleep we basically lie there pretending to be asleep.

How far the sea goes on underneath you when you fly over it.

During covid and now during the invasion of Ukraine I seem to be constantly seeking an ‘adult’ who will tell me it’s going to be ok. And I’m 45!

The fact that we swan around day to day and the clock is ticking down on the damage we are doing to the planet. No one seems to give a shit.

MN is looking different today and so my comment makes no sense! It was meant to be an answer to there being no end to the universe.

That when you move to a different part of the country, you literally have to start again, and get to know a whole new set of anonymous humans, whilst largely letting go of the last set of humans you knew really well.

Also that at any one time, humans are stuck to their part of time and space, completely oblivious to what is going on in other towns and villages across the globe.

I can't comment on your bosses :) but usually if you're receiving a lengthy legal document to sign, it will have been discussed and negotiated for weeks beforehand, so that at the point of actually signing it the work's been done and you don't really need to review it again

Men also have a longer back than women, but women have longer legs. So a man and woman who are both say 5ft 6
The man will have shorter legs but longer torso than the woman.

Yes I’ve noticed this when you see a couple who are roughly similar height- her waist will be significantly higher than his. I have a long back and proportionately shorter legs and yet my legs were still longer than ex’s, though he was slightly taller.

maybe it’s linked to men’s greater upper body strength.

The one that gets me is the universe thing. I almost always find myself watching people argue thinking just how insignificant it is in the grand scheme of things. We're a tiny spec of sand living on a tiny spec of sand within another tiny spec of sand.

We're actually completely pointless and nothing we do has any impact on the way the universe works. We're all just here shagging our way in to existence thinking it means something when, in reality, it doesn't.

Also can't comprehend the moment the big bang happened. What was around before, how did it get there and what exactly is 'forever' because surely everything has to have a starting point?!

But yeah. The fact my life, everyone's life and anything that anyone does on this planet is utter pointless 😁

I think subconsciously also, many people have been seduced by the myriad of Hollywood films and TV shows where the villain is - more often than not - clearly signposted by their manner, line delivery and so on.

So many times I’ve heard of something bad being done by a person in real life and the shock from friends/associates - “but he seemed so nice!!”. And I always think, what is their thought process here - that the person is going to walk around with a sign saying Bad Guy on it? The scammers and liars and so on get away with it for so long by being good at hiding their true nature from the majority of people.

I concede it can be a shock though when it’s close to home and the incident is severe. I knew a guy from my hometown the same age as me, I remember breaking down one night whilst driving home v late and he happened to be passing, he went out of his way to get my car off the road and help me get home - even insisted on helping again the next day to get it to a garage. 1yr later, he shot a complete stranger in the back of the head (we’re in N.Ireland and it was a sectarian killing) for no reason other than he was a different religion.

I have two realisations that are maybe a bit sad.

My dad died when I was little. His parents and sister have died, I was his only child. My mum was married to him for five years, but when she dies it will only be me and one cousin who loved my dad and who have any memories of him left in the world. I wanted to know if my dad liked a certain thing and I asked my mum and she didn't know, so I can never know now. The whole life my dad lived will be forgotten. And really I suppose everyone's life is like that, unless you do something remarkable.

Another, my half brother and I both live far away from our birth country and mum and dad ( my stepdad that raised me). My mum and stepdad have been divorced for 20 years. My brother recently got married and we all traveled to his country. We were having dinner together, all our family including mum and her partner, dad/stepdad and his partner. My brother raised a toast saying he wanted to remember tonight because it was likely the last time he would ever have everyone he loved in the same room again.
And he's right. There will never be a time again when my mum and stepdad along with my brother and I are ever all together again, especially since we live so far apart. Once we were a family that lived in the same house and now will never all be together again.

Realising we’re so dependent on science and technology to avert future disasters. And then seeing lots of anti-science internet conspiracy theories and wondering if we’re doomed.

I guess every single person makes some small contribution to society by working, becoming a parent, etc, and collectively that’s what drives our species forwards. Even if it feels like only a few of us are remembered by the masses. With billions of people it really couldn’t be any other way.

My mum died halfway through a book. In fact it was the final of a series I think. She took it with her to the hospice but she lost interest in it. I didn’t have a chance to quiz her about it for obvious reasons but when I think of it I think of her being at peace. In the end it doesn’t really matter - the unread book, the unwritten letter, the uneaten cake - compared to one brilliant but brief life. You can just let it go.

That people seem ‘normal’ and then you get to know them, and realise everyone is a bit weird really! Everyone has their own quirks.

How we can bring up two (or more) people in exactly the same way, with the same expectations, the same ethics and morals, the same love and the same boundaries, and yet they can be so totally, completely different. I mean, I know, nature, but also, where the hell does nurture come in to it when you just can't comprehend how they can come from the same household?

That all the time I used to spend worrying about utter crap was a huge waste of time and I should have been savouring my great health.

I just didn’t know I had great health at the time!

Now I have Long Covid my life is reduced to eating, cleaning and resting. And worrying that I won’t get better.

All the trivial stuff was just so… pointless!

My daughter is going to be a mix of my DH and I in one delightful little human and then one day should she choose her children will be a mix of her and an unknown person who may or may not even be born yet. Had I not conceived the month I did she would be a slightly different person.
Being pregnant, I feel my little girl, I've seen her on scans but I've never properly met her yet.
I'm having a C section so one day I will go to bed normally, wake up the next day and I will become a Mummy that day and my life will take a totally different path - but had I not conceived I wouldn't have ever known of her.
My sisters and I have the same mix of genes yet were all so different, think so different and have different traits, how differently we all look yet resemble the same.

I've been saying this for a while with my husband and daughter. Especially with mixes of colour. I'll see blue-green, he'll see green-blue, if that makes sense. Or orange-red while she sees orange-yellow. We see the dominant colour differently, or that the colour is the opposite way on the colour spectrum. And it's not just me! Often one of them will agree with me against the other.

That the people in very old photographs are all dead. Was looking at some street views of my home town in 1900-1910. Adults, kids, people going about their business, some looking at the photographer, the instant was caught, their lives went on and then it all ended. I also wonder who survived the war, who didn´t, they didn´t know what was in store for them, and I do know. The historical events at least.
Someone´s toddler died some time ago and I found myself thinking, that was going to be someone´s husband. That person will never know that he who would be her husband died in childhood.
That we are children of an instant, had our parents done the deed later or earlier, different kids would have been born.

This exactly. So we should choose to do what makes us happy.

That we just follow a set of unwritten rules and codes - mostly learnt by watching other adults as children and these have an affect on the rest of your life pretty much.
And when you see someone doing something different it makes you question the rules as you know them.

I actually think people with additional needs who don’t necessarily follow said rules are the truly intelligent and free people of the world

Yes. I was only saying that to my DP the other day. We think it's so normal to share our home with a cat and a dog like millions of other people, but if you take a step back it's really weird, wonderful, but weird.

Wouldn't it be marvellous to meet, on some other plane, the version of you that exists because your parents DTD on Wednesday at 21:44, not Tuesday at 22:06?

Agree with this one. I remember my GCSEs were the first time I realised I was doing something that depended entirely on me and no one else could fix for me, there was no going back. (Didn't know about resits!)

My mum is 80 and I see her on average once a week for maybe an hour or so.

If she dies at the average age of 82, then I will only see her for about 100 more hours. Ever.