to expect sister in law to have brought extra kids bedding for Xmas visit?

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Brother, wife + 2DS have come to stay for 4 days. Anyway, woken at 4am this morning to find SIL lookin for clean sheets as 2DS (7+10) had both wet their beds. (reminder - no pepsi tonight). So washing machine now on second load before 6.30. Anyway, appears this is now nightly (good job I had covered the mattresses eh?) She has said can she have extra sheets tonight? FFS - there are 5 extra in the house anyway. How much bedding does she think I have?

YANBU, but why your SIL why not your brother? Someone should have discuss it with you.

send them to the supermarket today to buy extra or pampers caremats

yanbu

It depends on whether this is a regular event or not. I wouldn't have even thought to have brought extra sheets for children of that age, so it might be a totally unexpected reaction to the circumstances.

op says

appears this is now nightly (good job I had covered the mattresses eh?

so a regular thing it looks like

but could it just be that the children are in unfamiliar surroundings iyswim? so not expected.

They were always late developers in this dept and I knew that. Runs in family. Suggested to SIL that she gets some Drynites but apparently they wont wear them - used to until the summer. Its a real PITA and if only she had asked/let me know in advance then I could have got her to bring spares. I don't mind washing/drying - but I can see me being a FT laundry/kitchen slave/manager over Xmas. Better be a bloody good pressie this year! Ho hum, worse things happen. Bit more chilled now than 5.50am. Do I open the wine now....

the pampers care mats would be OK, then when they wet she can jsut chcuk it and put another one over your shheets

Yes, I'll get her to get some as they are braving the shops soon. I did suggest using cot sheets too as there must be some in the loft somewhere - I don't chuck things but I wasn't heading loft-wards at 4am. Probably have returned to a bed (somewhere) the direct route...

I'd make them wear the bloody dri nites. They can be as insistant in their own home, but they can't be going through x amount of sheets in someone else's house! And plenty of drinks (not fizzy/sugary) early afternoon, then limited after 6.

all of my ds's dry at night before 3, but 2 of the 3 sometimes have an accident when we stay at grandparent's house. Never anywhere else, eg on other holidays, in hotels, camping etc. Just at grandparent's house. SO now I go prepared. And the reason there? fruit shoot/capri sun

Tell them to go to asda,tesco etc and buy several packets of cheap sheets.

I can't understand that if they know their children still wet the bed then why didn't they pack extra.

I'm with ernest on the dry nites front. Just say to them "that's what we do in our house, and you can stop wearing them when you go home" or something, otherwise, as you say, you'll be washing the sheets all Christmas nad the place will stick of wee.

stink

I do think they should have warned you if it's a regular thing. What if you hadn't covered the mattress? It wouldn't occur to me to cover mattresses for children that age. I'm with the people who say you should insist on Dry Nites, just while they're with you. There's enough to do at Christmas without worrying about extra laundry.

I agree. With all the extra hassle at Christmas and guests staying, the last thing you need is washing sheets every day because 2 boys are refusing to be considerate.

Tell them, it's Drynites in your house or they can go and wee in their own beds. Your SIL - and brother - are being terribly inconsiderate failing to warn you that this happens and also for failing to bring extra sheets.

Dry nights deffo - it's the middle of winter. I'd be pissed off and it's summer here.

YA definately NBU, however she is.

They are her kids she knows they regularly wet the bed but she fails to
a) warn you
b) bring replacement bedding
c) INSIST they wear drynites when guests in someone else's house.

I agree with the other posters, tell them to go buy some drynites, pampers care mats and new sheets.

would it be possible to use a bath towel/sheet across the bed and tucked in like a draw sheet in the hosp - might cut down washing?

Could you make up double bedding with some sort of protection inbetween, so if they do wet you can just whip off the wet sheet.

I also agree they shoudl be made to wear the dry nites if they can't be dry.

YANBU Can't beleive the cheek of some people! How can someone abuse another's hospitality in this way?Agree with other posters about forcing them to wear something (e.g. dry nites) but what about those new pyjama shorts things? They are not like nappies but supposed to keep kids dry- get her down the shops quick before they shut.

Another agreeing with the dry nites. Tough if they don't like them it's your house and you don't want to spend the whole of thier visit washing. Pampers care mat will be too small. Alternatively ask you sister to take them to the toilet a few times in the night.

I can see how it is perfectly reasonalbe for you to expect her to bring some sort of protection for thier beds and extra sheets on the stay, and also to make sure that they dont drink after say 6.30pm.

But would you really like to say to your nephews mother. "sorry invatations withdrawn cause your kids piss the bed."

Believe me many more elderly visitors will be pissing beds over this festive break and not a word will be said about it.

Mmm... well SIL hasn't seen my rant.... but guess what? Drynites (the new sleep shorts Smartiejake) and Caremats bought this morning! I think the penny might have dropped . Yes Fruitymum, thats what I was going to do with the old cot sheets, make the bed up with a couple of layers like drawsheets. Had years of practice doing it with my two - and hence mattresses still covered MummyDoItUndertheMistletoe -its a family thing! Thanks for the support. I think I shall go and stuff the turkey instead of SIL now . See how we get on by tomorrow morning!

Why does your SIL get it in the neck whilst your brother gets away scott free?

Well... she hasn't really got any of my ranting - (thanks for listening Nametaken and others!) she certainly hasn't got anything other then a slight "mmm... well it would have useful to have planned ahead" sort of comment, and in the nicest possible way. DB/SIL/DP and me get on really well and she has been a 'wee' touch embarassed today. I just think she kind of forgot. She doesn't make an issue of it at home and TBH she didn't bat an eyelid at coping with my two a few years ago. I am probably a bit knackered - long and busy term and all that.
DB? 'Gave-up' on him a long time ago! He is a bit vague and so laid back he's upside down most of the time. Anyway after a couple of glasses of a good red it really doesn't seem to matter so.... Have a good one too!