to be planning a letter of complaint to the PTFA for poisoning my children at the Christmas fair?

[Mincepiedermama]

Why does it have to be so packed with sugar? After the fair at the juniors my nearly three year old was sick several times in the night because someone gave him those disgusting sugar walking sticks.

At the Infants fair yesterday I gave my kids pocket money and sent them off browsing reminding them about the sugar poisoning incident so ds3 decided to go for the lucky dip. He pulled out a handbag which I thought was great. I later discovered it was FULL of lollies FGS!

I can;'t watch them all every minute of the Christmas Fair because it's one of the places they should be given freedom to roam. Also I was running a stall.

I love school fairs but the sugar thing really ruins them for me and poisons my kids. Why are people so obsessed with sugar for kids?

I have many years to go at these schools so am thinking of writing or talking to the PTFA people about capping the amount of sugar available at these events. Is that reasonable?

Now if you'll excuse me I have to put some more vomitty bedding in the washing machine.

pmsl @ "you poor disillusioned oafs"

hey we may be oafs but i for one never let me ds's wander around a school fair on thier tod at the age of 3 i escpecially wouldnt have they had been diabetic

i urge you to write to your p.t.a....go on give em all something to laugh about over the christmas break!

perhaps a better way to deal with this is to teach your children when enough is enough, then they can have control over their sugar intake(to a certain extent) my kids would only eat a certain amount never enough to make themselves sick.
A healthy relationship with food is the key if you teach your kids that sugar is poison then that is not a good relationship.
I agree that it is also down to schools, the government and other people to ensure that we try to promote healthy eating but it starts at home

hmmm. I have a bit of an inclination to think that it might not be a bad idea for schools to make a bit of an effort to reduce the total available sugar at your average christmas fair. however ultimately it's up to parents.

also it's rubbish to say - which you pretty much did - that those of us who tolerate this are bringing up fat badly-behaved kids. mine are certainly neither of these. (dd1 can't get clothes that fit her waist she is so not fat).

my personal bug bear is the stall we always have which is like a tombola - except you always get a prize - and the prize is a jar of sweets. fine. I have no problem with kids having a jar of sweets - what I can't quite get my head round is parents who allow their kids to buy 3 or even 4! - but it's the parents who allow excess not the stall that's at fault.

YAB totally unreasonable. The ONLY fault here is with you; the parent. If you don't want your kids to have stuff, supervise them.

It's unreasonable to 'send kids off browsing' at an INFANTS fair, one of them being two years old!

Don't write complaining to others - you're the one who 'poisoned' your children if that's how you see it. It's your job to care for your children's welfare not the schools.

At a school christmas fair with half the schools selling sweets, what did you think your kids were going to do without you guiding their choices?

NAB, a little sugar will not harm them. Certainly not in the case of a homemade muffin.
Feeding them tons of sweets is a different matter, but don't worry about the cake.

begs the question why this stall is my "bug-bear" - it's not really. I just don;t understand some parents. though nothing to do with me who am I to judge etc.

rofl @ "you poor disillusioned oafs"

...re the vomiting - there wasn't a bottle stall was there. A couple of tinies will make your average tot puke quite a lot.

ho ho ho

Well I just lost any slight sympathy I had with you, mincedpiemamma, when you called everyone you just asked advice from ' poor disillusioned oafs'. Whaaat? I'm suprised you didn't choke on your own smugness never mind your children being poisoned by sugar. I think the diabetes is incredibly relevant, actually - the fact you didn't mention it is just weird. I feed my children very healthily - they have five portions of fruit and veg a day and all the relevant protein etc but I do think there are situations where you just have to let go (Unless your child is diabetic when you obviously can never stop watching) and Christmas fairs are one of them. As for your comment " Look at all the fat, sick, out of control children we're bringing up' all I can say is you've been watching too much Supernanny. As someone who works in television I can say tell you now that only the most extreme cases get on so stop being hystercal. My children - who are allowed sugar on special occasions on the grounds a little in moderation wont kill them - are neither fat, sick or out of control. Neither are most of the children I know who are in the main happy, healthy children not turned into monsters by a little bit of sugar. Your post made me feel like a donut - with extra sugar

Why do we do it?

Funds. Purely that.

Just done the accounts for our school fayre (no not me- I'm Sec- I cant add up LOL) and the sweetie etc type stalls amde the most money.

which in our case raised a total of £1370, imagine what we can do for the kids with that!

We do send home plastic boxes for the kids to fill, decorate and then to sell for £1; we deliberately edited the wording from sweetie box to treat box and put small crafts ites, toy cars, etc in the notes- they still came back from the homes filled with sweets.

Who supplies most of the sugar available at these fairs? The parents!

If you don't want your children eating so much sugar make them bring whatever they win over to you so you have control over what they eat.

Spidermama btw ds1 is intolerant of milk- I would not class that as a poison, neither the gluten which he can tolerate but which exacerbates his behaviours so badly.

Its a PITA having kids on a special diet, mroe so if you're on one yourself (me and casein dont mix at all) but you have to find ways to deal with thoccasions it comes up- DS1 takes special bars into school which he has for birthdays etc, and ds3 will get small cartons of soya drink at break time. Its just part of the deal.

Maybe your child wasn't 'off his face on sugar'

Maybe he's just badly behaved?

And maybe he was sick caused by the stress of having an irrational kill-joy for a mother?

I mean, obviously I don't know....just trying to help you get to the bottom of this awful incident

Look after your own kids fgs and take responsibility for them.

IF you don't want them to have something, make sure they don't.

Ooo Jeremy, what a wag you are.
Luckily for my kids they don't need sugar in order to have fun. Sorry yours do but if you ever need any help in that direction I can certainly guide you to better ways.

'disullusioned oafs' and yet ROFL

as in my humble opinion the only 'poor disullusioned oaf' around here is the one who controls their childrens' diet to such an extent that they have no self-control and pig out and make themselves sick and then tries to be all 'holier than thou' about it

what a giggle

I do look after my own kids at fetes. It's just a shame there are so many dealers on stall corners waiting to corrupt them.

I can't believe the extent of the denial on this thread. Actually, I can but I never cease to be alarmed by it.

Well, he's only 20 mths so sugar is not really an issue at the moment, but i will remember your kind offer if and when the sweet stuff raises it's deadly ugly head.

I think your post is utterly ott, minced, and I don't really want to be associated with it.

But, I do think there is too much sugary crap at school fairs

Tis sweets at a school fete... not a daily event.

DD is 4 1/2. She knows that she cannot have squash as it makes her bounce and gives her a stomach ache if she has too much - the same with hot dog sausages and sweets (sweets only if overdone). I can trust her not to eat too many sweets and to refuse the others unless I have ok'd it.

At 3 she wouldn't have been let loose alone.

The friday tuck shop full of penny sweets does irk, thankfully she doesn't know it exists yet so it isn't a problem. We are trying to get fairtrade choc etc in it so that it is more in keeping with the ethics of the school.

So.... what was my point? Erm, tis a one off, get a grip.

I did pmsl @ Twig's bafflement as to why JV was amused

But what are people denying?

I'm always glad to touch so many nerves though. Perhaps my message will get through to even one person who has the intelligence to stop and engage their brain and wonder what this sugar is doing in the short and long term.

I love to be able to perform this public service. You oafs ladies are clearly quite emotional about the whole issue.

Spidie its not really teh deal to post AIBU and then call anyone who disagrees with you disillusioned is it?

Ultimately your kids are your responsibility- if Dh hadnt been about )he isnt always) then the boys simply wouldnt have attendd the fayre when I was manning the stall; either that or I wouldn't have run one.

oooh, i;ve never been called a disillusioned oaf, even as part of a mass name calling, how very exciting !!

i might even change my name to camillatheoaf, has rather a ring to it !!