AIBU not to give a 'rats' about using disposable nappies..

[LadyMcArgue]

I really dont give a rats about using disposable nappies, I dont have a dryer and live in small house, also I dont want to have buckets of sh**ty nappies hanging around my very small bathroom.

I dont go on long haul holidays and have only been on one plane in my 35 years.

Does that make me bad?

yes it's morecambe and wise quip!

Ah, me just being slow then

Why do people say that there is terrible 'pressure' to do the right thing? I use cloth and most people think I am odd, if not insane. I wish there was more pressure, then maybe people WOULD do the right thing environment-wise, eg recycle/buy local/buy less etc etc.

lady mcArgue
you just phrased your op a tad clumsily then

And in case I sounded even pompous than I think I sounded, that includes me too

agree nine..
i was made to feel mad by family, contemporaries, old and young
treated like a ....
like a freak who liked washing shitty nappies infact!

have seen some financial incentive schemes by the council here though and am glad there is pressure for this...
or to recycle the disposables ..
lol as if...

LadyMcArgue -your op is quite confrontattional, so naturally folk will respond

sorry about your PND- i do empathise. it is a debilitating illness. But remember PND is treatable. take care

have the bad CSection issues resolved - again take care

why not use moltex or a different brand of eco disposable?

i agree with scottishmummy re sorting out the PND and the issues surrounding your birth.. there is a thread on here in childbirth section entitled @@@ Birth trauma @@@@ , it might be worth a look. sounds like you are looking at the nappy thing as a why of distracting yourslef from the real issues? no-one can make you use cloth nappies... but why not look into it, might be easier than you think . various councils do subsidised starter schemes and have nappy laundering services.

flamesparrow should be able to help you re questions about cloth nappies

Haven't read all the replies. Agree with sentiments of OP. I can be environmentally friendly in lots of other ways, but I refuse to go back to a time when women laboured on household duties all day - ie, no dryer, no washing machine, no disposables. Sod that. And I'm not angry at all - just couldn't think of anything worse than washing shite out of cloth.

LAG - I don't wash shite out of clothe - my washing machine does all the work for me.

It's not like thirty or more years ago when my mother had to soak and hand wash terry squares.

Hmmm, well I have thought about this issue a lot actually because I am generally pretty eco-friendly but I have used un-ecofriendly disposables with ds for 2 reasons:

• he was a nightmare baby and we had a nightmare bfeeding and adding reusable nappies into the mix was beyond my capabilities
• the ecofriendly nappies were too bulky and gave him red legs and I refused to sacrifice his comfort on the alter of eco-friendliness

But, as I said, I have thought about this a lot and I think that the vast majority of people are never going to move away from Pampers etc so a few people using cloth is a drop in the ocean. So, I believe the solution is that nappy companies should be forced only to produce biodegradable nappies. Actually, I think this transfers to other eco-issues - a few people doing it isn't going to make a big difference, there needs to be legislation to force the major cos to change. IMO this is what the eco pressure groups should be focussing on.

So, to sum up.... NO YANBU!!!

i fully understand the OP's reaction to disposables....i am all for saving the world, i used cloths for my 2 kids for the first 2years of my sons life and the first 6mths of my daughters- but you know what, after suffering bad PNd with my dd and not having anyone to turn to for help me the shitty nappies got on top of me, (shitty as in thats really what they were- poo stained cloths in a little nappy bin soaking in pooey water!!)

and i gave up trying and went onto disposables, i reuse, recycle, shop locally, use less, walk more than drive if its possible, but the one thing i'm not doing is going onto real nappies again.....i just dont think i have it in me any more!!

so i understand where the OP was coming from, but people seemed to have an uproar at her, for years no-one even considered cloth nappies as opposed to disposables, now its all the rage again and everyone wants to jump on the bandwagon- not me anymore i'm afraid!!!

one of the most important reasons why I used cloth wasn't to save the world, but because they saved me so much money

in answer to the op. yanbu.
ic ould do a JP and go into graphic detail about dd who has cp and wears pullups but won't.
you can put it right in other ways

Disposables and jar food here. I sort of want to feel bad about it, but in the granbd scheme of things, I can't. Given that it would be me deciding the make more work for Dh, I think it'd be fairly supercillious of me, but that is just me.

I just don't see how using disposables equates to "labouring all day". Total time investment -- five to ten minutes every couple of days to put on laundry load and hang up to dry. Frankly less hassle for me than carting packets of disposables back from the shop.

(I think the "soaking in pooey water" may have been one significant problem for people -- I don't think I know any regular cloth users who wet pail these days as dry pailing works just as well, is easier and less smelly)

I've never soaked nappies - there's no need to - and I've found that cloth nappies are far less smelly then disposibles.

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Doodledootoo

Well you are in the absolute majority over 90% use disposables I read somewhere. So why rant against us reusable users who are actually seen as lentil weaving weirdos anyway so need all the support we can get! At least we are trying to limit our impact on this overcrowded damaged planet.

I use reusables but there is a fab laundry service in my area so I simply tip the nappies into an air tight bin and every week the nappy fairy (in an electric van or on a bike) takes them away and replaces them with freshly laundered ones. Magic - and only costs £10 a week and get £50 grant from council. Not to mention a christmas party laid on to thank us for using reusables. I have even made nappy friends (but we do keep quiet about how we met!)

i use disposibles but i dont see anything wrong with cloth each to their own

I do think there is quite a lot of pressure on mums to 'get real' - certainly far more than nearly 10 years ago when dd1 was born. I haven't succumbed to it - always been a pampers woman - nor do I feel any sense of guilt about it. Considering my washing machine has been up the spout for 10 days and counting (and breathe) - very long story - it's a good job I wasn't relying on it for nappy laundry purposes. BUT - what nappies you put on your baby are as much a matter of personal choice as what you feed them, where you buy their clothes, do they eat chocolate etc. I wuold like to able to say what I like about disposables without that being viewed as a) an instruction to purchase or b) an enviromental criminal. The same applies of course to those who use 'real' nappies.

Can't we all just get along

Its interesting that OP feels like this as sometimes I feel disposable using friends get touchy and defensive when I change a nappy. I would never criticise or say anything to them about their choices but it seems if you are sensitive about something even seeing others doing the thing you feel you ought to be doing gets you cross.

I think it's ridiculous to suggest that disposable nappy users are 'touchy' about the subject! The majority are not - they just don't want to have to wash nappies. it's quite simple, really.