not to want the teacher to give my 5y old dd a lollipop and choccies?

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I am new at this primary school parenting thing. presumably this is normal teacher behaviour and I am just a raving healthmanic. I've always tried not to use sweets as bribes or rewards or whatever.

so I put my foot in it with the teacher suggesting something healthier next time. I think I should have kept my mouth shut.

I do not object in the slightest to my ds being given any sweets at primary school for treats or other kids birthday. he eats a healthy diet at home and we do eat sweet things also but because he is not denied them he doesnt automatically choose them either. its the same with the healthy(or unhealthy school lunches), i dont have a problem with what choice he makes. if one day he chose maybe chips for lunch then thats fine cos when he gets home he would ahve a healthy dinner. what annoys me with some parents is that they dent their kids treats but secretly eat them themselves when kids not around!i hate to use this old line but it never did me any harm! i had sweets as a treat most days after school and im not a junk food or sugar addict! quite the opposite, iam vegetarian and generally eat very healthy

Anyone who says food and drink should not be used as a reward is not thinking straight. It is exactly what most adults do-special meals out,fizz for parties,nice chocolates and so on.

My kids get no sweets at all at home but it wouldn't bother me. As they are doled out so rarely,when they get them, they are a huge treat.

Dd did an hour's reading and writing with me last night (happliy) for 30g chocolate.

At my dd's school they get house points during the week for good work, good behaviour, etc. On a friday the children in the house with the most points gets a treat, usually a funsize bar. I don't really have a problem with it, my dd has a healthy balanced diet, I don't think the occasional chocolate bar does any damage and the system seems to work well.