To think that a mother should have removed her baby when it cried all the way through a schools concert

[christywhisty]

DD school were in a cross school production with 8 other schools tonight at a local theatre.
This baby cried all the way through from start to finish a miserable, whiny cry. Not so bad during the songs but you couldn't hear the narrative because of the baby.
I can understand her wanting to see her child, but as each school was only on for one or two songs, she could have nipped out for the rest of it (she was right by the door)

I could never have sat there if one of mine had cried like that.

jm...hm...think I meant to write op, lol...

apart from anything, you know when yours is the baby screeching its head off...its so embarassing!
One school play my baby who had just began her morning sleep, which usually lasted about 90mins come rain, shine, fire engine, or open air reggae concert, woke up and just started shouting. It took me about 2 mins to gather me and her and get out the door. But boy, what a truly rubbish 2 mins!

I did want to punch people who were giving me evils during that - I was taking her out so everyone else could hear, I was on my bloody way out the door!

oh no, lol...twas hmmm I meant to write...oh god, it's so noticable that I have some red wine, lol...

YANBU

This used to really bug me. When DD1 started school I had 3 pre-schoolers. I managed not to take them to school plays (usually meant farming them out to 3 different friends- no family nearby) yet the same people would always turn up with theirs and spoil it for the pupils.

YANBU. i got pee'd at parents that didnt turn off mobiles while having first meeting with school.
My DD hasnt had school play yet but would be taking dd2 out if she cried if i have to take her (im still bfing)
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YANBU!

I sometimes wonder if I am legally married as my cousin's child (then 2 who I adore) made such a racket during our entire wedding service no one could hear a thing. Still to this day puzzle as to why my cousin didnt take his child outside to play in the sunshine. Surely its in everyones best interests to remove very noisy distressed kids from these things unless you have a very good reason not to?

Although I suspect dh is too far the other way and uses dd as an excuse to get out of sitting through things he doesnt want to. Last sunday he removed himself and dd from a (admittedly rather long) christening - she hadnt uttered a sound and was quite enthralled about being in a church. I found them eventually in a local cafe.

This kind of thing makes me mad. I can only assume the parent thinks her child is so precious/important/better than everyone else's that we should all just put up with it. So if it's any consolation, with that kind of parenting,the kid will probably grow up with a pretty skewed sense of its own importance!

yanbu

It's just extraordinarily rude not to.

I don't understand it.

Especially as the HT always asks parents at the beginning to take children out, points like an air hostess ot the room that's been allocated, so it's not as if they have to go out in the rain or anything. The yobbos who don't understand that you have to remove a crying child from a public performance, have it explained to them, and they still sit there gormlessly. Are they deaf? Or stupid? Or just perhaps very optimistic ("any minute now he'll stop and go to sleep")?

I missed most of my friend's wedding. First one child, then the other. It was freezing as well, January. I threatened draconian punishments.

This is why there were no children at our wedding. We know a couple who do this and we couldn't invite everyone else's and ask them to leave theirs at home (although it was tempting! Actually, the noise level would have been the least of it, these are parents who allow their children to run around the altar, bump into the flower arrangement etc at church. No-one would have been able to hear, and I wouldn't have been able to concentrate.
DD has been to "events", sadly mostly funerals, but we always go at the back, ready to whisk her out. These aren't occasions for babies IMO, and parents should be respectful of everyone else. Rather obviously I think that YANBU!

we recently went to a friends wedding, dh was best man, and the bride is one of my oldest friends, i was stuck with both my two kids in the church alone during the ceremony, i made sure i sat at the back, daughter armed with dummy to keep her quiet, my son decided in the middle of the first hymn he only wanted mummy to sing so was shouting for everyone else to shut up, close to the end of the song i wasn't taking it any more, i ran out of the church with him under my arm absolubtly fuming with him!! i was sat in the vestibule with him telling him why its unfair of him to do that at mummy and daddy's friends wedding, just when i heard the priest say you may now kiss the bride and heard everyone cheering and clapping, i burst into tears that i'd missed it......

anyway later on i admitted to my friend i'd actually missed the 'i now pronounce you' bit but they said no-one heard a thing from him and wondered why i'd taken him out!! so i'd over-reacted at his bit of noise!! there were other kids there too which i believe made a lot more noise than my two put together all the way through!!

i'm glad i took my son out though, i didn't want him to think it was right to do that in a church when we were in a wedding!!

Kerala, am impressed by your dh's scheming.

I too am v. impressed by that.

I missed near on the entire performance at dd's christmas plat as ds was teething and tantruming. I was really upset to miss it, but wouldn't have allowed ds screams to ruin it for anyone else however........on the way out another mum came up to me and gleefully said she'd heard ds crying the whole way through!!!!!! I happily pointed out that she was wrong, as I'd literally taken him outside to cool down, and walked down the steet trying to passify him......unless of course she had super human hearing, and wasn't just being a spiteful cow!

YANBU. Not one JOT.