To let someone else clean it up?

[itsrainingandpouringgg]

My gran is 99 and lives in a council flat in a high rise building on the 11th floor.
I've been her full time unofficial carer for over 15 years.
She has advanced dementia and moved Into a care home 7 weeks ago.
She broke her hip,now she is in the final stages.
My aunt lives abroad and hasn't visited in 6 years.
None of my other cousins visited.
I've been left to sort everything out.
Had to find home,make hard decisions,wore myself to the ground.
No friends no family of my own.
Now the council have told me I have to remove the large items myself from the flat
The items are really old and shabby and no charity organisations would want them.
I can't carry a bed,a cooker a wall unit etc etc on my own.
The council said it's my responsibility
It's not my flat it was my grans.
The council will remove them for a charge but I would need to carry them downstairs.
I don't have the strength.
Aibu to just leave them?

[InDeoEstMeaFiducia]

I'd just leave it.

[1forAll74]

It is obvious that you won't be able to get heavy stuff down from a high rise flat. Is it possible for you to advertise the furniture etc, as in a free collection by someone, and not a house clearance firm or the council.
Maybe ask around, if anyone knows a Man with Van kind of thing, who will willingly help you out under the circumstances.

[mrsBtheparker]

BTW, I second what previous posters have said about hidden money. We often came across £££££££ that had been stashed away in little hidey holes.

Oh yes! When my Aunt died my mother put a small wardrobe in the boxroom for winter coats. Three years later she asked me to go up and get something off the shelf, I couldn't find it but when I rooted right to the back I found paper wedge between the shelf and the wardrobe back panel, it was almost £500!

[itsrainingandpouringgg]

Strangely housing officer just rang.
He said he's spoken with the social worker.
We have 10 days to get rid of what we can and anything else to just leave and they will sort the rest.
Maybe speaking with the social worker has made him a bit more sympathetic.
I am relieved.

[Catmaiden]

So sorry you are having to deal with this, and thirding the pp who suggest checking for money in the most unusual of places. Rolls of notes stuffed down the fingers of gloves, inside books, down the spines of hardback books, in the sewing machine tool compartment, we found nearly thousand £ when clearing out an elderly relative's house after they died.
Plus similar in uncashed cheques for share dividends, etc. Very sad as they could have enjoyed a more comfortable last few years, if they had spent it

[Zilla1]

Good for you, OP. Take some time to rebalance yourself, remove any personal effects, check for hidden cash (I'd forgotten about mentioning that but see PPs have) then if you want, either mention to any neighbours or mention to your relatives so the 'locusts'/'vultures' can go (at least that way they can't have a go at you later for depriving them of anything) then enjoy what time you have with your DGran.

Well done.

[SleepingStandingUp]

Ah good news op

[HowFastIsTooFast]

Ugh....So this explains the fly tipping that has been blighting open spaces recently!
Getting stuff removed ''Properly'' costs a lot..as the removers have to pay to dump it.

Cheap vans will drive to the nearest out of the way spot and dump it...A vile thing to do. Pissy mattresses, old sofas, fridges, ...It is areal blight on the landscape 🤬

Apologies; I don't like in the UK and we have a huge recycling/waste centre here that will take anything at all without charge, so the service offered is literally just lifting and shifting for those who can't do it themselves. I didn't realise they were charged to dump stuff over there so that could be a dodgy option. My bad.

Glad that the OP is sorted now anyway.

[HowFastIsTooFast]

*Live in, not Like in!! FFS.

[CaptainMyCaptain]

@HowFastIsTooFast

*Ugh....So this explains the fly tipping that has been blighting open spaces recently!
Getting stuff removed ''Properly'' costs a lot..as the removers have to pay to dump it.

Cheap vans will drive to the nearest out of the way spot and dump it...A vile thing to do. Pissy mattresses, old sofas, fridges, ...It is areal blight on the landscape 🤬*

Apologies; I don't like in the UK and we have a huge recycling/waste centre here that will take anything at all without charge, so the service offered is literally just lifting and shifting for those who can't do it themselves. I didn't realise they were charged to dump stuff over there so that could be a dodgy option. My bad.

Glad that the OP is sorted now anyway.

You can take your own household waste to the council tip where I live including furniture, mattresses etc. I took several van loads when I cleared my dad's house and nobody queried it. I think there is a charge for trade waste but there is no excuse for fly tipping.

[HowFastIsTooFast]

@CaptainMyCaptain No there's no excuse, and it didn't even cross my mind, living in the somewhat sheltered little part of the world that I do!! Everything domestic is free to take to the dump/recycling here, whether you turn up with it in the boot of your car or in a massive van, it's only commercial waste that's charged for.

Fly-tipping thankfully isn't really a thing here; there's nowhere really remote enough for people to get away with it for long (and the dump is free...)