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To expect DH to be around next week when DD starts school..

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MillieMummy · 31/08/2007 08:31

I've spent all summer 'reminding' dh of the date of dd's first week at school. She starts on Tuesday and does half days for the first week. Just spoke to him and he 'may' be able to go into work late on Tues - but that's it. I thought he would have a couple of half days or even take a day off to help/provide support. He has lots of annual leave left and has a fairly flexible boss. AIBU to expect him to around given ?

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Judy1234 · 31/08/2007 19:53

And I think probablky at one school or another with one of the five children it's been the nanny taking them on the first day anyway. I certainliy preferred to go where it was possible and we have some very sweet photographs of them at school. We used to do a photo every autumn of all 5 lined up on the front step in uniforms. It started very sweet indeed and the last one has 3 very very grumpy looking teenagers who have murdered the school uniforms in various ways. Very funny sequences.

Anna8888 · 31/08/2007 16:58

Caroline1852 - thank you

The "first day" is quite gentle - a Friday, from 10.30 to 11.50 am only. And mothers congregate in a café around the corner (this is a daily occurrence at that school) after drop-off so I shan't be alone...

kimi · 31/08/2007 15:30

By ScoobyDooooo on Fri 31-Aug-07 15:23:37
Kimi - How many dh's do you have wink

Just one but we are seperated I have a new DP, but as yet DH1 and I are not divorced.

MamaMaiasaura · 31/08/2007 15:28

lol typical of mumsent isnt it. Do i let on that DP has monday and tuesday off (he has gone away for long weekend with the lads) and therefore walking with me and ds to school for his first day and juniors?

Caroline1852 · 31/08/2007 15:27

Anna - MY DD will be two on the 7th Nov.
I hope it all goes well with school. When my two boys went they were both very easy about it but both times I was emotionally crumpled by it; an end of an era feeling. And I did not treat it like a big thing either. Take some tissues with you for the weepy walk home!

TellusMater · 31/08/2007 15:25

The OP has sorted it out now BTW. It's just the rest of us bickering

MamaMaiasaura · 31/08/2007 15:24

Life is far too short to be stressed by something like this imo. One of the nice things about the whole starting school thing is the new friends they make. Ds's best friend from year r is still his best friend even tho they go to seperate schools. His mum and I have become very good friends and we all went on hols together this year.

Dont make such a big deal out of dp not being there for this. If in general he is disinterested, non helpful etc etc then perhaps you are right to be peeved. If however, it is only this I would just let it go.

ScoobyDooooo · 31/08/2007 15:23

Kimi - How many dh's do you have

kimi · 31/08/2007 15:22

DS1 starts high school on Wednesday and DH1 is going to work late so we can take him to school for the first day together (all be it in a discreet non show up way (grin))

TellusMater · 31/08/2007 15:20

Actually, the OP isn't planning on them both going in. One will stay at home with the baby.

But when we took Ds, there were quite a lot of couples there.

Anna8888 · 31/08/2007 15:20

Two years 10 months.

She'll be three at the beginning of November and in France school starts in the calendar year of your third birthday.

pagwatch · 31/08/2007 15:18

DH has had the morning at home for all the first days at school and will be home when DD starts on Thurs. TBH I would not have kept this going after DS1 but DS2 started special school and had to go off to school in the minibus. Absoloutely hideous beyond measure.
DD starting will be a breeze afetr that because it is such a happy normal thing this time. So DH taking her in first am and me from then on.

Caroline1852 · 31/08/2007 15:17

Anna - 2 years 10 months or 2 years and a tenth of a year?

MamaMaiasaura · 31/08/2007 15:10

millie - I think YABU a bit. It is a big day for your DD but from experience for the first day at school normally only 1 parent takes child in. Surely it will be exciting for your DD to have you and her little borther taking her to school and then telling daddy about it in the evening?

Anna8888 · 31/08/2007 15:03

We have the uniform, the books, the pencils, the scissors and the vaccinations. Just need four photos taken and a few nametapes sewn on

Anna8888 · 31/08/2007 15:02

She's 2.10 and she's starting a week today.

Caroline1852 · 31/08/2007 14:54

Anna - how old is your DD and when is she starting school?

ScoobyDooooo · 31/08/2007 14:51

My ds is starting school on wednesday & i will not be expecting dp to take time of work for this, i also have a dd who is 19 months

Anna8888 · 31/08/2007 14:51

Here it's all one and the same - three years of école maternelle and five years of primary, but all under one headmistress in the same establishment. And in fact uniform is worn in the first three years of maternelle and first year of primary, and then there's a sort of break point - they've learnt to read and write, they take off their uniform etc. So this is "it" next week.

TellusMater · 31/08/2007 14:49

But I don't think there is one right way of doing things. Children vary. And therefore so should arrangements. Obviously.

TellusMater · 31/08/2007 14:47

I felt the same with the start of pre school (when they were the same age as your dd). But somehow school was different. It was exciting. Ds was excited. Nothing wrong with that IMO.

Anna8888 · 31/08/2007 14:44

Tellus - actually, I don't think it is a big occasion at all, I'm totally unfazed by her going to school. And I want her to be unfazed too

Anna8888 · 31/08/2007 14:41

Dino - that would be my second option - him without me. The worst scenario, the one I truly want to avoid, is us both taking her to school on the first day.

TellusMater · 31/08/2007 14:40

Ah. Lucky for us DS is so laid back then really . And used to having us both around for the big occasions. And I don't think only one of us going would have kidded him that it wasn't a big occasion.

We were spare parts of course. Completely superfluous .

Dinosaur · 31/08/2007 14:38

Well, it's whatever suits you best, isn't it?

I am a WOHM married to a SAHD, but I did do DS2's first day at school (not with DH).

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