to be annoyed at ^friends^ not feedingmy children?

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my dd's were invited to play one day last week. We got thre at 11.30. Got a call at 5.00 pm to say could they come home now.. fair enough. but when questioned later it turned out they hadnt fed my dc, nor themselves even! apart from a bag of crisps and a chocolate bar.
i know the family do seem to have strange mealtime behaviour but cannot understand the missing out of lunch?

Ah so the family were busy packing and so on. Can fully understand them not having much food in then if they were going away.

I think when your kids are doing sleepovers or are staying for a few hours at someone else's house, you do have to abide by their rules. They are being good enough to have your kids round to play, don't expect them to live up to your standards though. You just have to go with the flow a little.

My kids always seem to get fed chocolate and sweets in great quantities at other peoples houses, this makes them hyper when they come home and they won't eat their tea. But you just have to accept it as a one-off. When their kids come I take my chance to feed their kids smarties and give them a good shaking before I hand them back!

will bear that in mind
but mine can't have smarties though just their kids.

I agree, and make sure they have plenty of the blue ones. In fact, just empty blue food dye into their mouths and send them off to trampoline just 10mins before their parents are due to pick them up, then hopefully the real hit will kick in when they arrive back home and not in your house.

a friend of DS1s did this to me after a play date. I asked what they wanted for lunch, put it on the table but they were so busy playing nicely that all they did was pick. her mum rung me lateron and asked whether i had gven her DD any lunch as she was saying i hadn't

the fact that the food they did have has changed from crisps and choc to choc and an apple makes me inclined to thnk they did have lunch

Perhaps you might be better off not knowing exactly what they had for lunch. My DD always tells me in huge detail exactly what she's said, done and eaten when she goes for a play date. Recently she had a plate of chips ("from the chip shop mummy" in awed tones), and a bag of maltesers. Later followed by some Barbie cup cakes that they'd made from a packet. Which I'd rather not have known TBH

Guilty confession time! I remember when my brother and I were little (probably 7 and 5 at the time). We'd been to stay with my dad (who had fed us dinner prior to dropping us home) and when we got home, my mum asked us if we'd had dinner. We said "no", having already hatched a plot to get more tucker! We were very well fed that evening let me tell you

If you are concerned about your dds being fed a main meal, and you suspect that the other family has lower standards, then just arrange for a playdate after lunch and feed your dds at home. Next time round.

In which case, it is only a question of tea and it does not really matter if they just have crisps and a choc bar.

Agree that you have to play by other family's rules on playdates away from home.

I look after a little boy once a week and he tells his mum he only ate pizza...everyday no fail!! I don't ever give him pizza (must have had it once or twice here in 2 years!!) I always feed him healthy meals with eg etc..plus endless fruit snacks lol ...caused his mum loads of concern before she finally confronted me about it!

Kids!

Jenna