DH and I (both early 30s, no DC) work FT and return home around 6pm. After dinner he’ll head straight to the sofa to watch TV. After I’ve pottered about getting myself ready for bed, I’ll find him fast asleep on the sofa by 8pm in his work clothes...same routine every night. Good conversation and sex in the evening goes out the window. DH doesn’t wake properly again until the morning, but will stumble half asleep in to the bedroom in the middle of the night and get in to bed in his work clothes. I wake up most mornings lying next to him still wearing his shirt, belt, cuff links, socks and suit trousers, which I find very unpleasant, unattractive and unhygienic. He does shower in the morning and change in to fresh clothes.
I’ve told DH numerous times how I feel and have suggested he get changed in to lounge wear before or immediately after dinner to stop it happening. DH says he doesn’t want to get changed straight away, he wants to “relax” first on the sofa (leading to him falling asleep). Ive tried waking him up when I’m going to bed to try and get him to get changed and come to bed but he’ll still be half asleep and will refuse to change because he’s “too tired”.
I have spoken to DH multiple times who feels I am being totally U for being bothered by something so trivial and should leave him to it. AIBU for being fed up? Surely no woman would want to sleep next to her DH fully clothed from his working day every night?!
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To be fed up of DH’s sleeping habits
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Winterriscoming · 15/10/2019 08:08
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