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Original poster

I am offended. (ok rabbit, yes, petty, self indulgent etc)

118 replies

Boco · 10/08/2007 22:08

Well not really that offended. A little taken aback. Too tired for actual offense.

So, Dp has a friend he hasn't seen for a couple of years come to stay. They were flat mates before i met dp, they have lots and lots of hilarious anecdotes that are mostly about special brew, falling asleep in skips, Ralph Maggio, stuff like that.

Lovely dinner tonight - but children a little excited. dd1 did talk about bogeys, was was a bit loud, and bossy. DD2 did prance through wearing my bra, while dd1 lay on the floor giggling hysterically, and then farted.

Apart from that it was going well, until he looked at me and said 'don't worry, i'm a teacher, i'm used to appalling children with parents who can't control them'.

I laughed. He didn't, he was really serious. They're only 2 and 5, they're just a bit noisy and giggly. And they think 'poo on my head' is a really really funny joke.

Are people going to come and tell me to get a grip and some perspective now then?

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CatIsSleepy · 10/08/2007 22:23

maybe he thinks all children are appalling?

Bibis · 10/08/2007 22:23

But he chose to go and visit, he has to accept that people have families and if he is a teacher he should alos accept that kids show off.

i still say tell him to fuck off

send him to me and i will............

Bibis · 10/08/2007 22:24

Think of parents, if kids wake guests up at 6am then maybe parents get very needed lie-in

elasticsortinghandstand · 10/08/2007 22:24

perhaps, perhaps he didnt mean your kids, he was justshowing off about the kids he teaches???

FluffyMummy123 · 10/08/2007 22:24

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Boco · 10/08/2007 22:25

Well no i do agree cod, - dp and him were good friends when they were about 18, there's something endearing about their banter - they both find each other endlessly hilarious. He just doesn't particularly like me and dds.

And yes, my kids were not even cute in my eyes this evening. They were slightly alarming - you know when kids are overtired and vaguely hysterical. Not cute. But not appalling.

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expatinscotland · 10/08/2007 22:25

Then he should have got a room somewhere.

My nieces used to annoy me when I went to visit, so I always made sure I stayed at my mum and dad's where I knew I could get some peace and a lie-in.

FluffyMummy123 · 10/08/2007 22:26

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hunkermunker · 10/08/2007 22:26

Children might be annoying when you don't have them, but to refer to them as "appalling" and say that Boco and her DP can't control them - to Boco, in her own home - that's not cuttingly honest, that's fucking rude.

I'm sure he has something you can be cuttingly honest about though, Boco.

Describe him to us...

snowleopard · 10/08/2007 22:26

And why was it aimed at you, when your children have two parents, one of whome is his mate!

And he was your guest! How rude of him. Your children sound sweet btw and totally normal. I've certainly seen worse when I've been round at people's houses and wouldn't have dreamed of commenting.

Pan · 10/08/2007 22:26

Boco - rise above it. Humour him even. You are too stylish to be upset by this rubbish.

But, nonetheless..give dp a really hard time over it, at a time of your choosing.

This is how the female psyche works, I've come to understand.

Bibis · 10/08/2007 22:27

Who made his bed?
Who sorted out house?

Who cooked meal?

If it was Boco then he should make some effort to be polite.

whoever it was he is a guest and should show some social niceties, bit scary if he is a teacher and cant cope with situation

hunkermunker · 10/08/2007 22:27

(Actually, sometimes children are bloody annoying when you do have them!)

Bibis · 10/08/2007 22:27

Shoot the fucker

expatinscotland · 10/08/2007 22:28

Next time he wants to visit, offer to get him a room nearby .

snowleopard · 10/08/2007 22:28

Anyway, it's the sort of thing that will come back to haunt him if he does have kids. Let's hope he does and then you can haul it up in a few years' time

FluffyMummy123 · 10/08/2007 22:28

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WendyWeber · 10/08/2007 22:28

Being a childless teacher gives him no pontificating rights at all though. Pillock.

What did your DP think about his comments? (Or wasn't he there at the time? )

hunkermunker · 10/08/2007 22:28

Oh, Pan, yes, agree - you must rise above the actual comment, Boco. For he is swathed in twunt.

But you MUST be cuttingly honest about something he holds dear to his heart. You just must.

fiddlemama · 10/08/2007 22:28

Sorry, "from up his a*se" I meant. Like Bibis I have drunk not wisely but too well this evening

elasticsortinghandstand · 10/08/2007 22:28

that would be good snowleopard,
"I hope you can control your kids"

Pan · 10/08/2007 22:29

Hmmm..has drink been taken?

Bibis · 10/08/2007 22:29

pissed is the word fiddlemama

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Boco · 10/08/2007 22:29

I made shit loads of bleeding effort! the house was spotless, he had a lovely meal, loads of wine and beer, and homemade cheesecake! I was trying very hard to provide sparkling conversation while stopping my 2 year old from climbing on him and my 5 year old from shouting bogeys. It wasn't easy - but i was trying, and i although i kind of knew what the thought, i didnt' expect him to say it - TO ME!

They're sitting outside at the table, i've taken the wine, i'm giving them space

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CrookshanksinJimmyChoos · 10/08/2007 22:30

pmsl at 'swathed in twunt'

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