My ex husband every now and then takes my children to Scotland when on leave from the army and in March this year during a conversation with DD1 on the phone I found out that my ex husband had been allowing my 6 YO and 4yo DDs to the local park on their own. At the moment I found out my 4yo was there on her own as DD1 had come home. I was distraught about this at the time that anything could happen and told DD to pass me onto her dad. I told him to go get DD from the park and call me back. He clled me back and I explained that I never want to hear that they have gone to the park on their own again and explained my fears that anything could happen't them in a very amicable way.
Anyway the girls are there this week and as always everyday I call DDs for my daily "love yous". I asked dd1 if she was ok and she told me she had hurt her back. I asked her how it had happened and she said she fell off the climbing frame. I asked her if her dad had been there and she told me NO . So I asked her to put me on to her dad and freaked out and said it was the only thing I have ever asked him not to do in the three years of us seperating and he just told me "Their ok" and he then put the phone down!!
I started panacking then as am suffering with PND and the biggest symptom at present is massive fears that something will happen to one of my children, so I contacted the NSPCC as I didn't know what else to do as he won't listen to me. The lady was lovely although she kept bringing the depression up
Anyway the lasy has said that she feels it should be refered to social services and they may send him a letter explaining that it is not appropriate to allow young children of the ages 6 and 4 to be on their own in a public place at any time.
I am now frightened that he will kick off and I don't know if I have been irrational but I keep flitting from yes of course if he won't listen to me when it comes to the safety of our children then so be it and then back to OMG what have I done??
Oh I don't know
Thanks for reading