to think a mum at school shouldn't tell another little child in yr3

[wishywotz]

"If you talk to my @@ anymore I will come and get you !

upsetting yr3 child so much, that Head has to call horrid woman in to have a word.

Happend to one of my dds classmates, who is a very nice child.

Don't know cicumstances, but I think whatever they are, they are quite unreasonable behaviour for an adult to say to an 8 yr old.

Sadly, wishywotz, most 'Bullying Policies' aren't worth the paper they're written on.

The problem is that schools are usually over-ruled at the final point of the procedure ie. exclusion.

I have known two sane and sensible parents who have been driven to distraction by the bullying their children have received at school, and the school's apparent inability to address it.

Interestingly, both of the bullies were grade A high-achieving children who were popular with teachers and this was most of the problem.

I am not condoning an adult threatening a child, of course not.

BUT

I would just advise you to be aware that 'lovely' children often aren't away from adult view. And a parent's first instinct is to protect their child.

Agree with Bubble.

Even the most level headed of parents can become irrational if their child is being bullied and the school is doing nothing about it. I think you have to keep an open mind - perhaps there is bullying, perhaps the school has been dragging it's heels, and perhaps the parent's last resort was to speak very harshly to the 8 year old.

haven't seen anybody condone the mother's actions on this thread .. I think you're reading that out of nowhere ... but I do think that you don't know the full picture and probably can't categorically say 'the girl is nice' because its different when you're 8 and there's no adults watching

if my dd was coming home in tears every night and refused to go to school because she was being bullied, i would try speaking to the teacher and then the parent, however, if nothing was achieved through this i can not guarentee(sp) that i wouldn't have a quick word with the child, sorry, but mothers are instinctively protective over their children and some parents do reach the end of their tether when dc's are being bullied.

i can't comment on this situation as i don't know the facts, but i do not agree that an 8 yo is frightened of a another childs parent.

"I am surprised that some of you think it is OK for an an adult to threaten a child of 8.

I wonder where they learn from "

Well, first of all, nobody has said here that it was OK for an adult to do that (or use those words), but if you are implying some bullying children get the idea from people like us who are wondering what the child did... you may get surprised, have you ever wondered how many mums had to cope with bullying during childhood themselves?

Perhaps that's why some of us are asking you to double check what the child did.

I won't be checking circumstances as I said in op, whatever the circumstances I stand by what I think.
If there is more to it, so be it, the school is involved.

Yes to I have been bullied.
Yes to have I had my own child bullied.
Yes to wanting to have my own words, but no I didn't, bit like KerryMum.

Isable I am not implying anything, although some have posted that they have approached the other child.

Interesting.