to want to hear the word thanks once in a blue moon?

[meowmix]

AIBU to expect the people I employ to just once in a while say thank you?

This month they've had appraisals, some have had promos and payrises, they all have clear action plans and career paths, I do weekly training sessions and have a detailed induction programme, I make myself available when they need me to advise or counsel, I listen to their boyfriend troubles and 2 weeks ago took them all out for dinner on the company. Two are about to go off on secondments to other offices in our network thanks to me and they all get 25 days holiday, mobiles and laptops. Expenses and salaries are paid properly and they earn above industry average.

and yet all I ever hear are complaints and groans. FFS I haevn't had training in 7 years, or an appraisal in 2, or been able to take holiday. I GIVE UP.

(yes I know, live with it. where else can I go to rant tho?)

You sounds a very nice boss to me. Can I come and work for you? I'll say thanks

i'm not today am in FOUL TEMPER OF MUCH CROSSNESS

and scowling

does sound like you are employing the wrong people. My lot are lovely and go above and beyond on a regular basis

nah they're good 90% of the time its just this expectation that they're entitled to everything. I feel like making them go and work somewhere else for a reality check somedays.

I'm one person ffs - there's 28 of them and one of me, how much more can I do?

well this month apparently has a blue moon, so you never know

Can you promote someone to take on some of these responsibilities? Delegate some of it?

What sort of work is it? Are you in a small or big company?

It does sound like you need to set some boundaries: please don't take it as being condescending- i have been exactly where you are and it is v difficult to take a step back at times. And you should get at least as good a deal as you give them- even if sometimes the buck ends up with you. [empathy emoticon]

no - no one to delegate to but am recruiting

we're a consulting firm, part of a large multi-national. 28 people, all nationalities, all expats (not in UK so much more emotional and a different management style), majority on 1st or 2nd job and so quite young. normally its fine but this month its been like toddler grand central

what prompted this was someone sulking this morning because I wouldn't let her leave at 10am to catch a flight she'd changed to today without taking the day as holiday - she thought I should because if she caught a later flight she'd arrive late at her destination to meet friends for dinner. And it wasn't fair because its not her fault that the flight times are that way

I'm just sick of it. Partly because its fecking annoying and partly because its tiring and I'm missing the sensible nature of work in the UK.