Anyone struggle with abortion regret today?

[Lamplight5]

I had an abortion two years ago and suffered horrendously with it. Time has helped, but I still think about it and regret it every day.

Mother's Day is particularly hard and brings so many emotions back up, and, of course, you can't tell anyone that you're unhappy and no one knows why.

I don't know why I'm posting really other than I'm alone and feeling down about it. Do you ever really get over the regret and stop thinking about it?

[ViciousJackdaw]

@Flowers24

Sorry i was searching and found this, I have teenagers but had an early abortion 2 years ago and still struggle most days about it. Will the pain ever go away x

I think you'd be much better off creating a new thread Flowers, this is a zombie. Are you new then? Do you know how to start a new thread?

[Flowers24]

Sorry i will have a look, yes new x

[Lillylolo]

Yes, I have regrets. However, I still feel I was not in a position to offer my baby a good life. What makes it harder is my nephew is the same age my baby would be.

7 years later, I had my first baby & I truly feel he has a better life than I could ever have offered my aborted baby.

[BobOrKate]

I'm always surprised that the emotional fertility arc of women is not looked at more in art, religion and science. From the monthly cycle of possibility at ovulation to the loss at mensuration. We go through this every single month for decades.

And then we have our lifetime arc from being a teen to the end of life.

I went from not that bothered about having kids, to giving birth, crazy, loved up would have murdered to protect, to a total pendulum swing to grief at a miscarriage, back to crazy off the scale, followed by intense desire for more than to those hormones fading.
I"m now menopausal, and the idea of finding the energy for a future imaginary grandchild is crushing, I just don't have it.

So where are our stories, where are our tales of emotion, pain, grief, guilt and love. My period coming has been a source of pain, indifference, sadness, relief....it's absence spans a different but wide spectrum over the years.

Where are our complicated stories told. We come to AIBU and apologize for lengthy posts, we should be writing novels, box sets, movie franchises.

OP own your story, we mostly get it right, most of the time and that really is the standard we have to hold ourselves to. And we"re allowed to feel all the emotions about the bits we get wrong, for a little bit, out of the time we have left.

[BobOrKate]

Oh dear, didnt realize this was an old thread.
Best wishes to you @Flowers24

[Toffeegal755]

Hi tots
was similar age to you sorry I know this is an older thread
i felt to old but would of liked a another 3rd .. but partner was never that keen.. did you feel like ttc again? Or does that ease with time