Thank you so much, I don't want to hijack your post, when you need support. It's taken a while to find the right words.
It is totally gruelling at the moment, despite being old enough to know better, I kept putting off getting it organised, as I'd hoped DH would have come round. I found out pretty much a year to the day my Mum died, that's been hard as I know she'd have her way of talking about things, so I'd either feel better about doing it, or I'd have the courage not to.
I saw something about infertility, it made me feel sick that I could even contemplate abortion after such desperation. All those times in the EPAU hoping for good results on the scan.
It sounds like a cliche, but we have been blessed with a miracle. I was convinced that my fertility journey was over, you do come to terms with it. We were told a big lottery win was more likely, with all the additional factors found at a specialist MC clinic.
Although now I'm back to having my good old radar, spotting pregnant women a mile off, plus families with pushchairs.
I have so many questions, I don't know if you're even meant to have them, given what is proposed. I know this promotes confusion as to why I'm doing it. I'd like a final scan picture, I want to know if possible what the sex is. I told the place helping me I wasn't keen on surgical abortions, as I've heard so many horror stories, I was told this quaint tale about low suction & it would be fine. I can't find any info on this, so I called back to clarify, I got a very straight to the point nurse who said I'd basically been lied to, which isn't the best start.
I spoke with DH about switching over to a medical procedure, I think he's of the opinion (which is sort of true) that I'm indeterminably putting it off. So stick with what's booked, it needs doing.
I had a melt down the other day, merely because the booking in MW had said oh it's this day & date. I got given the right date, but it's a day earlier. I don't know why it upset me, I thought I had longer.
I'm well aware afterwards I'm going to be a wreck. I don't know if DH will go down the stoic, there was no other option route. Or if he's going to be all TLC.
Sorry again for posting this on here.
I stand by what I said, I love this baby as much as any I've lost, I just don't know how I could do it alone. Some may disagree with me, but judging how I feel, I'll possibly mourn this baby more than the others. The way you feel post abortion is individual to you, nothing makes the next woman more have a greater claim.
I'll also say since studying ethics a loooooong time ago, I always thought I was strictly pro life, but others had the choice to do what they want. I would support no matter what. I never thought I'd ever do it though.
It goes to show you never know what's going to happen. I never thought I'd get pregnant naturally, let alone at my age, plus not having risk of mc hanging over my head, which I've always had before.
Drinks & cake all round.
Just scrolled back & ive written an essay. I hope it understands things more.