To think this isn't my fault/responsibility

[Dottyy]

I've been seeing somebody new for a few weeks which is going nicely but obviously still very early days.

We speak on the phone before work some days. I am usually up earlier than he is, and he has asked me to ring him to wake him up on a couple of occasions which has been fine and I have been happy to so. On these occasions I've heard his alarm go off so I know he has set them.

Last night we went out separately, and I went to bed without hearing from him. I woke up to a message from 2am saying "I might need waking up in the morning, I have to be up before 8" He had plans to go and see a friend in another city.

My initial reaction was 'I am not an alarm clock', but I tried ringing him once before 8 anyway. He didn't answer but I assumed he had set alarms like normal and I just got on with my morning.

He has only just woken up and is annoyed that I didn't ring more to make sure he was awake.

I really don't think it's my responsibility to ensure he wakes up after a late night. His day out with friends had absolutely nothing to do with me. Or am I being an unreasonably mean cow?

[AntiHop]

I wouldn't tell him that the friend is a reason for ending the relationship though. That might exacerbate the fued.

[IHateUncleJamie]

He's giving me the silent treatment now so i'll just leave it.

Why? Just text him and say “I don’t tolerate entitled behaviour or sulking. Set your own alarms from now on; it’s over.”

Take control back from this utter twat.

[pilates]

At least you’ve only wasted a couple of weeks of your life with this loser

[prozacgirl]

Runnnnnn woman!

[Gruzinkerbell1]

What a pathetic dick. Glad he showed his true colours so early on.

[recklessgran]

Run for the hills for God's sake woman. He's a top of the range willy waver.

[Nairobe]

He went crap very fast, thankfully, as you haven't invested so much. He sounds immature: needing a wake up call, sulking, silent treatment. I'm glad you aren't giving this waste any more space.

[dontfluffthefluffer]

I wouldn't even grace him with a message now if he's using the silent treatment.

He's a brat, block him.

[MiniEggAddiction]

I don’t tolerate entitled behaviour or sulking. Set your own alarms from now on; it’s over.

This is a perfect response. Bloody hell a few weeks in and he's already set you to act his bloody mum and is sulking when you don't jump at the chance. I would find a grown up to go out with instead.

[Oceanbliss]

This

Aquamarine1029
MASSIVE red flag. You can't possibly dump him fast enough.

And this

Eliza9917
Tell him to get fucked. And then dump him

And this

marvellousnightforamooncup
Dump the loser and think no more about it.

Because of this

He has only just woken up and is annoyed that I didn't ring more to make sure he was awake.
I really don't think it's my responsibility to ensure he wakes up after a late night.

You are right, it is not your responsibility. He obviously thinks it is. Which means he doesn't like taking responsibility for himself. And that will become very draining for you.

If you've already come to that conclusion that's awesome, forgive me for not reading the full thread. It's very late here and I have to go to bed and get myself up in the morning to make my child breakfast. Good luck Op

[HomoHeinekenensis]

Ha ha bordering on unbelievable that there are men like this out there but I have met so many total bellends that wouldn't think twice about behaving like this that I do totally believe it!

It's a test and luckily you have failed OP. Rejoice!

[ALongHardWinter]

OMG just don't start buying into this,especially this early on in a relationship! My ex kept expecting me to wake him up for work in the morning,and it caused so many rows. I said it was not my fault that he never heard the alarm going,and I was sick to death of spending ten minutes trying to wake him,then him getting stroppy because I'd woken him up! Eventually,I said 'Enough' and refused to do it any more. He soon got into he habit of getting himself up after being late for work several times.

[CurlyWurlyTwirly]

He’ll try to reel you in once he knows you’re dumping. Be wary of that.
Text him. Say you’re dumped then block.
Go NC.

[needmorespace]

how the hell does a grown man sleep in til after 2pm? like seriously? if he works, isn't his body clock sort of attuned to at least waking up earlier? was he very drunk or something?

[NannyRed]

I think you should apologise and say you make a mistake by thinking he was a fucking grown man. Then dump him.

The s ⬆️

[SukiPutTheEarlGreyOn]

Stay strong and be wary of entering into discussions on this where he can attempt to minimise. If he’s already relegated you to alarm clock mode and chooses to blame you for his own man child failings - imagine what he has in store when he doesn't need to pretend to be on new relationship best behaviour.

[Dottyy]

He's 26 & does work full time, so I don't understand re the body clock thing.

Yes I assume he was drunk, although I haven't seen him 'very' drunk, only after a couple.

He has messaged "thank you for trying"

I'm going to take the advice of the wise women on here who have advised me not to date for a while and work on boundaries.

[coffeeismyspinach]

So why are you still not dumping him?

[pictish]

I also think he’s testing the waters to see how servile you’re going to be and if you’ Going to make his needs priority. Some might say I’m reading a lot into it...but this is how it starts. Small liberties that blur the boundaries.

[Dottyy]

Coffeeisnyspinach because I haven't decided exactly what to say. Although I am taking the advice of posters suggesting not to go into reasons and be blunt and to the point.

[Sparklesocks]

He sounds like a teen, needs a mum not a girlfriend

[ENormaSnob]

Get rid asap.

[RomanyQueen1]

I'd ask if his mum usually does it?
Then, I'd be telling him, it's nothing personal but you'd prefer to go out with a grown up

[IncrediblySadToo]

I’d say ‘Sorry, you appear to be looking for a Mummy, not a girlfriend. That’s not me. Bye’

[IncrediblySadToo]

Oh it’s like a crocodile party in here snap snap snap! 🤣