to fantasise about another man?

[candymom]

I have been married for 10 years and have 2 kids but cannot stop imagining myself with another man.

I have a good life, for example 2 great kids, a nice home etc,and feel guilty for imagining myself with another man.

I have been a SAHM for 5 years now and feel now is the time to return to work. The last 3 months I have been applying for jobs but have not even been invited for an interview. I feel totally useless. i take ADs for anxiety which seem to help and because of these tablets I now feel ready to get a job.

Sorry to go off the rails a bit but I feel my life is going nowhere. I know I should be grateful for what I have got but I do not feel happy and it is frustrating me. Any shrinks on tonight

candymom, how often do you see this man? Are you friends with him already?

admylin - i am not friendly with this person he was a doctor that looked after me when I was in hospital.

It is just a fantasy and I know it will never come to anything.

Hmmm...has he performed intimate examinations on you then?

Everyone does. Don't worry about it but don't act on it.

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Could be down to the white coat syndrome?! My SIL also had this syndrome with a German doctor. I would say, enjoy it as long as it does no harm. I totally enjoy my little fantasy, makes my day when I've seen him in the morning - he even walks to his bus stop with me somedays and I watch him drive off and feel like a teenager in old hag disguise!

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No. He just had a friendly and caring personality which is quite unusual for doctors . I know realisticaly that his friendliness was just his nature but I really fancied him.

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I think it could be the fact that when you have an internal examination or something by a male doctor - especially if they are good looking - you have a level of inappropriate intimacy with another man. If you get a slight kick out of it adrenaline will get pumped around your body, and if you are slightly aroused too it's like having a mini-affair.

I know I know - I just fancied him rotten.

that post was for Dior btw

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ooh candymom..when i was pregnant with dd (on my own, daddy not in sight). it was when the very bad flu virus was about, four years ago almost and i was terrible with it, started having pains. they took me in, were concerned about how fast baby's heart was going and kept me in for four days in isolation . (me big wimp for being kept in hospital with flu!)

there was a doctor who apart from being drop dead gorgeous, had such a lovely manner about him, as if he really was concerned which ime is rare these days.

i think feeling hormonal and a bit lonely too had a lot to do with it but i thought about him a lot afterwards! was maybe a bit vulnerable at the time i guess.

nightowl - it seems rare that doctors are nice - however ours proved lovely.

Are you watching Glasonberry btw?