putting in a complaint re parents in the cloakroom?

[laneydaye]

My ds is 6 and in last term of y1. He has been hanging his own jacket up in a morning since reception. The last few weeks i have had to bite my tongue at parents taking all the room up and making it difficult for my ds and others to even get in to the coat area!!!! I think 6yrs is old enough to be hanging a coat on a peg fgs!!
If you want to hang your childs coat up then do it after the rest of the class has done theirs...
God i feel petty but its really got my goat today for some reason..(not hormonal honest)
Thanks for listening Rant over!!!

Good lord! - yes you are...

could you please explain youranswer to me?

Not really. DDs school actively discourages parents hanging around and getting in the children's way. The children are encouraged to sort out their own coats/bags etc, and if we want to gossip, we do it outside the school, away from the gates so we don't distract from Wake & Shake (and so they can't make us join in). These cloakrooms are usually far too small, and too many parents hanging around can really delay the start of day.

• Not really as in you are not really being unreasonable BTW.

I think I'd save it til Sept, not really worth getting knickers in a twist about it with just a few weeks to go

Do you mean you are putting in a complaint with the school, or putting in a complaint here on MN?
If on MN, rant away.
If to the school - I think there are more important things to get stressed over, tbh.

Good lord. That was firmly discouraged after Christmas in reception at ds's school. Lingering goodbyes are said in the playground...

In fact, as dd's pre-school they're encouraged to go in by themselves.

But, no, I wouldn't put in a complaint.

you think 6 is old enough, personally I think 3 years old is old enough and get quietly narked at people in nursery doing this

BUT some people don't think 3 is old enough, nor do they think 6 is

and as 6 year olds are really really small in the scheme of things you, and possibly I, are patently being just a tad unreasonable

hia, knickers not twisted yet.... Just trying to make ds more independent but its hard sometimes, when they start y2 the parents arent really allowed in the school they encourage the child to go it alone. This is why i think about now parents should be encourageing it too..

We were never allowed in to do the coats, not at either school the ds's have attended

Its not exactly rocket science is it? coat- hook- let go. I mean ds3 can do it, he is autitstic, barely verbal and has a functioning age 18 months - 2 years beneath huis actual of almost 4

Too late ...... put in a complaint this morning.... only a nice calm little chat with head of office who is going to politely mention it to the head....

we're not allowed in school from reception .. leave them in the playground

I refuse to carry DS (yr 1) things to school (a book bag, a water bottle) because I am not a pack horse and they are his things .. other parents grab their children's stuff of them the minute they see them

I am scathing in my head ONLY

curmudgeonlet are you me? Just 'I am not a packhorse' is a standard answer around here LOL

I know its a bit petty in the grand scheme of things but my ds is so polite just stands behind the parents patiently and they still dont get it! so i say (so everyone can hear) Just say excuse me......

Hey thanks everyone..x

well I'm Twiglett in a curmudgeonly mood so fairly certain I'm not you Peachy

speccy ...i know im so bloody inpulsive/impulsive....hope ds doesnt take after me..... his dad is so patient... Think it will help some of the parents who have just maybe got into habits with doing it....oh who knows maybe it wont..

Ah right! I did wonder who you were LOL- you seemed so familar

and lets fce it,

peachy twigletts is a flavour that doesnt need doing

If it's a problem for you then I think a letter would be worth it. They may not be able to do much this late in the term but if they are not aware that it is bothering other parents then they may not look to "solving" the issue. Although sending out a quick letter wouldn't be a complicated task even with only 4 weeks left of the term.

I wouldn't put in a letter of "complaint", after all it's not the teachers' fault but maybe a letter pointing out how crowded it gets and maybe encouraging the children to become a little more independant and going into school alone would be one solution.

If you have a problem it's always nice to present at least one solution, they may come up with others. I'm sure they would be very accepting of a letter from you with the right tone (IYSWIM) Good luck, hope it's resolved soon

YANBU - at ds' school Year 1 and beyond parents are expected to leave dc's at the gate. My own ds is in Reception so I'm allowed in and next year ds2 will be at the Nursery so again I will be allowed in - the other Reception mums have already asked me to look out for their dc's from September.

Well I do have some sympathy. My DS (year 5) has to seperate lunch box and snack, put lunchbox in a crate to be taken to the place they eat lunch - take PE kit out and hang on one peg and take HW book out and put it in a box in the classroom. There are usually loads of children in there - all you need is a couple of parents standing around chatting slap bang in the middle and it's nearly impossible. I think that the first few terms of reception are quite long enough for parents to help their children.

Having said that I think a suggestion to the school might go down better than a complaint.

Is it usual to take the children into the cloakroom? At DS1's school we leave them at the school gate and have done since his second day in Reception.

Agree it would be a bit annoying to have parents hanging around though, so not not unreasonable .