To want to get rid of my cat?

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Ive had my cat for 6 years. She has always been neurotic, we have even taken her to the vets a couple of times about it.
Basically there isn't much we can do.

She constantly wees on all the beds and sofas. So much so that we have had to ban her from going upstairs. She poos on everything she can. 5 days out of 7 I will come downstairs in the morning to poo on the floor despite there being a clean, huge litter tray with natural wood litter in it.

On Monday she pooed in her food bowl.

I'm aware this isn't normal behaviour however she has always been like this from day 1, we have tried everything from plug ins, behaviour therapy and (v.expensive) steroid injections. Nothings works.

She refuses to eat biscuits and nags for meat, she throws up quite often and does not like being picked up.

She can go outside whenever she likes. She can be out for 12 hours whilst we work etc and come in and wee on the bed.

Things got worse after I had a baby last year. Her behaviour hasn't changed but I no longer have time to pander to it.

I came down this morning to diahorrea in the lounge and my baby nearly went for it! I had to put him back in his crib screaming and get the bleach out.

I feel like her muck might make us or my baby especially, ill.

Genuinely don't know what to do, shes my responsibility but I don't want to risk my sons health for an animal.

Rehome. There are enough cat charities which will take on a cat, and then it becomes their responsibility.
Ignore all the whiny guilt-trippers - it is not reasonable to keep an animal that is causing you and the rest of the family this much stress.

Adeline - what brand is your organic grain free food?

Tatiana we go between Applaws and Lily's Kitchen depending on what's on offer. We get ours from PaH and one or the other is normally on offer - two bags for £30 or similar.

Have you had her from being a kitten? My dB adopted a Maine coon that did this. He found out through contacting the previous owner that they had got him from a kitten mill as a retired stud and they had procedured to ‘train him to use the toilet’ which caused a breakdown in his normal instinctive behaviour and constant messing. He also has pica and ate odd things which made him sick and unwell. He didn’t groom himself and was constantly anxious.

My dB is a single gay man with 5 Maine coons he spends all his wages on. He sorted the problem but it was intensely hard work and he was constantly at home.

There’s no way I could have resolved it and the vets suggestion was PTS. I’m sorry you are going through this op. It’s very hard and exhausting. No one will think less of you for giving up after 6 years.

Thanks ada!

Some right twats on here today arnt there frankchickens?
The cat needs to go back to the vets and to work out a plan of elimination to try and find out whats going on with it. Cats dont go to the toilet all over the house for nothing. Its either ill or it doesnt like something about its current litter tray set up.
If you really are at the end of your rope with it then look toward rehoming through an agency.

It’s difficult to know whether her mother never litter trained her or it’s a manifestion of distress/discomfort. Was she a rescue kitten?

@Frankchickens I do show as much compassion to humans, thanks. But in your case I'd make an exception.

People who hate animals are dicks.

I feel your pain. My cat is 17 now. She was tricky as a kitten with issues plopping next to the tray but we eventually got her trained so well that we didn't need a tray and could just let her out in the mornings and she was fine.

She used to sleep on the bed with us and was a real family member but the older she gets the worse she gets - she is showing real signs of dementia now.

She constantly yowls - whether in or out - and we had to start locking her in the kitchen at night because she was constantly peeing and plopping all over the house.

The vet can't find anything wrong with her - apart from her usual issues - allergic to flea bites, blocked tear ducks and kelisi virus! She's go no teeth, half a tail, no whiskers etc

She has a litter tray and three puppy pads in the kitchen at night but if you don't get down there quick enough in the morning she pees "near" one of those four things.

Luckily she has a brick built house in the garden so now the weather is nicer she has to go out there - we had to secure our garden to stop her getting out because she also "wonders" and we kept having to get her back from various houses!

I am praying for a speedy death for her if i am honest - she just keeps holding on though! i've never had a cat this old - it is such hard work!

can't find anythign wrong with her at the vet and can't rehome the bugger because at 17 she could die any minute really couldn't she?

She's deaf too! :(

Does anyone want her?!

Frank’s apparently jeluz of the attention given a pussycat.

PTS. Cats are clean animals and she won't like the situation any more than you

I wish there was as much time and compassion shown to humans as there is to ickle wickle puddy cats.

Those who are compassionate towards animals don't generally need to be taught to be compassionate to humans.

In my experience, animals are generally more worthy of such compassion anyway.

Your child cones first. Try to rhome her.

Firstly- don’t use bleach to clean up. It actually encourages further soiling because it smells urine-y to cats. Biological washing solution is best- the enzymes break down body fluids.

Second get loads of litter tray with different litter. Mine will only use catsan. Stand her in it and scratch her paws.

Does she go out? Indoor cats can be a nightmare for this. Do you have other cats? It can be a territory thing.

Ask your vet about anti anxiety and anyi depression drugs. They really helped with mine.

Has the vet considered ibd? Is she ever solid? Common in cats this age. There are standard steroid regimes but mine responded to long term metronidazole. Went from uncontrollable liquid to solid poo within two weeks. Vet should do stool analysis at least.

If you have exhausted all options though then pts or rehoming may be all that is left.

As others have said have you tried different litter. My cats hate the wood litter. They like the catsan smart bags of litter the best. You put the wood stuff in then they get upset tummys as they wont go in and they will have accidents as well. Dont think they like the feeling of pellots on feet as well as smell.

Where are all these people desperate to take on a cat with that many issues. Re-homing the cat will probably be nigh on impossible.

Where are all these people desperate to take on a cat with that many issues.

Like PP's have said, a lot of incontinence/stress cystitis issues can be solved relatively easily with a new diet or environment. Cats generally go on the floor/in inappropriate places because they're unhappy or can't tolerate their diet.

Btw I think you’ve been a star for sitting this out for 6 years

This. With bells on. I meant to put similar on my earlier post but didnt. You obviously care a lot for your cat. Good luck whatever you decide to do.

It's up to you, but you need to know that if you don't keep her she will be put down. Nobody else will adopt her with that behaviour. It's a simple fact. Maybe that will be the best thing for her if she is so traumatised and there is no hope of recovery. But you need to accept that there isn't a happy solution here of someone else taking her on.

I feel for you - not an easy situation at all

Catspaws, not necessarily. As a lot of posters here have said, sometimes this kind of thing is a symptom of a cat's unhappiness with their environment, so may well change if they are rehomed or the environment is changed in the right way.

OP - Watch the program called Nightmare Pets SOS which was shown on Monday on iPlayer. There was a cat with similar problems to yours and they showed how to solve it and why it was happening.

It's up to you, but you need to know that if you don't keep her she will be put down

But that's simply not true, so why would you make the OP feel even worse than she clearly already does? She obviously loves her cat and has tried to solve the problem - telling her her cat will die if she doesn't keep her isn't particularly helpful!

Lots of rescues (especially smaller independent ones) will take problem cats and there are fosterers out there who specialise in problem cats, and who have the time/patience/knowledge to help them out.

Of course most people won't take on a cat that messes everywhere, but lots of rescues WILL help with that kind of issue, and as myself and others have said, lots of continence issues are actually the symptom of something else - stress, poor diet, disliking the litter tray, food intolerance, not being allowed out, living in a multi-cat household, etc etc.

The only practical solution I can think of would be for the cat to live outdoors with a 'kennel' or similar to sleep and shelter in, well insulated and with bedding etc. If that isn't possible I think the only answer is to PTS sadly.

We have a rescue who has had a few accidents. The worst being a poo on the sofa throw which DP didn’t notice until he lay in it. He’s shitphobic 🙄 and I was at work so that wasn’t fun.

But it’s getting better.

I put her bed in the middle of the sofa and books or something else hard either side as suggested by her previous owners and so far this has worked. Also spray Dettol disinfectant aerosol on all the other soft furnishing and rugs. Fingers crossed it’s been ok now for a couple of weeks.