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to be unhappy at a child peeing in the pool?

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NotQuiteCockney · 09/05/2007 21:50

In the pool today, a toddler stood up, pulled down his swimming costume and peed in the pool. His mum just smiled.

Ok, I know the pool is full of pee, fine. But come on! This is just not on, is it?

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wrinklytum · 09/05/2007 21:51

yeeuch!!

Hulababy · 09/05/2007 21:51

No that isn't on. Yes, we all know that little ones wee in the pool a bit, and lots by accident. But not so blatently. Mum should have stopped him and taken him to the toilet.

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NotQuiteCockney · 09/05/2007 21:52

Well, quite.

She was a little way away, she couldn't have stopped him, but some indication of displeasure wouldn't have gone amiss!

(The pool was empty, so he wasn't right with her. I looked over while he was peeing, expecting to see someone doing something, and saw his mum was just smiling in an 'isn't that cute?' sort of way. )

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ChasingSquirrels · 09/05/2007 21:54

noooooo! I saw the title and thought "well don't they all", but when I read the detail - oh yuk!

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NotQuiteCockney · 09/05/2007 21:55

Well, I know they all do - DS2 isn't toilet trained yet, so I'm pretty sure he pees in the pool. But if he could stand up and hold his willy to pee - he'd be peeing in the loo!

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ChasingSquirrels · 09/05/2007 21:56

sorry, i am agreeing with you - YANBU

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NotQuiteCockney · 09/05/2007 21:57

Oh, no, I knew you were agreeing with me, and that the 'noooo!' was one of horror at the child's behavior - no stress.

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MrsWho · 09/05/2007 21:57

If he is toilet trained then he is big enough to be told where the toilet is!

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NotQuiteCockney · 09/05/2007 21:57

I was just expressing my horror some more, not trying to convince you!

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powder28 · 09/05/2007 21:58

Was it the mother smiling or toddler weeing that annoyed you?

kittyhas6 · 09/05/2007 21:58

Horrid, you are right to be peed off

cazzybabs · 09/05/2007 21:59

Maybe she was embarresed. God knows what I would have done the same situation. I think I would have denied all knowledge the child was mine and given them what for out of earshot of other parents.

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NotQuiteCockney · 09/05/2007 21:59

More the mother smiling, tbh. I mean, toddlers will do all sorts of weird things. If the mother had appeared less than thrilled about her child pissing in the pool, I wouldn't have been annoyed at all.

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NotQuiteCockney · 09/05/2007 22:00

She would have had a hard time pretending the child wasn't hers! There were only three adults in the pool, and only two kids, one of whom was mine!

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Whoooosh · 09/05/2007 22:00

nooooooooooooooooooooo-blardy awful!

DD only just toilet training but plan to keep her in the extra tight swimmers which trap it all until I am fully confident she can control it all.Wouldn't be able to cope with the shame....-admittedly-a little less obvious than a boy.

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NotQuiteCockney · 09/05/2007 22:02

Well if he'd just peed sitting down I wouldn't have noticed. It was the proud standing up, pulling down trunks, holding willy that drew my attention!

(I don't think any trunks hold in the wee in a pool. Any pool that anyone non-toilet-trained goes in, is going to be full of pee. I can live with that, largely by ignoring it.)

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ChasingSquirrels · 09/05/2007 22:05

my only guess would be that he is just training - but still, you would tell them it's not the place surely, even after the event. As you say the boy weeing wouldn't matter so much, the boy waving his willy about isn't a massive issue, its the mother smiling about it.

bettythebuilder · 09/05/2007 22:21

eeew- had this on holiday last year, when a Mum actually took her little boy to the filter bit round the edge of the pool so he could wee in it. It may be a russian thing, though, because a little Russian boy also weed in dd's toy truck on the beach
Yanbu (eeew again)

mylittleimps · 09/05/2007 22:29

oh my goodness, i mean the mother not indicating it's not acceptable practice, and the child knew enough to take his pants down...
I know boys will do all sort of things that you really don't want them to do in public but mine if they do, are immediately told of any anti-social behaviour. I mean you don't have to chastise a child to point out something is not acceptable.

didn't any staff see this? what were the lifeguards doing?

lyrabelacqua · 09/05/2007 22:34

DS2 went to a birthday party in a friend's garden and i was talking to another mum when someone called my name. I looked round to see ds2 with his trousers round his knees peeing into the flower beds, watched by all the other mums. I was mortified
I tried to stop him but it was too late. i agree the mother of the pool boy should have done something.

powder28 · 09/05/2007 22:36

Lyra

ChasingSquirrels · 09/05/2007 22:39

see i think toddlers weeing in the flower beds in fine - in the compost heap is better....

mylittleimps · 09/05/2007 22:46

young ds's peeing in flower beds - i think is acceptable as there's always the excuse they've been caught short and used their initative (!) (and i don't think other mothers would have been as mortified as you felt) , just look on the bright side, by the time their 18 and at birthday parties there could be a lot worse ending up in the flower beds!!!

mylittleimps · 09/05/2007 22:47

sorry I meant they're not their

Rachmumoftwo · 09/05/2007 23:05

If they can make that ind of effort they can go to the toilet like we have to! I know they all do it, and DD1 was scared to go in the water at all 'in case a bit of wee comes out' after I told her that if she needs a wee we will get out of the pool, go to the loo and then come back, as peeing in the pool isn't very nice. We were swimming once and the whole pool was evacuated because someone had pooed in the pool. That's what those nets on long poles are for!