AIBU to think some people just aren’t capable of losing weight and being healthy?

[Parrothead]

I feel so discouraged. My whole life I’ve teetered on the brink of being overweight but managed to stay in the “curvy but normal” category. I never really did anything to maintain that, it was just because I was young, I guess. I have always despised any form of exercise, and I’ve tried them all. Now I’m 40 and I’m 4 stone overweight and incredibly unhealthy. I feel disgusting and I don’t want to leave the house. I have a significant family history of heart disease and at the rate I’m going I’ll be another one to keel over from a heart attack in my 50s. I love my children so much and I want to be there for them. I also know the pain I felt when I lost my own parents and I want to spare them that as long as possible.

I’m embarrassed to say this but time and money are not an issue (within reason.) I have a lovely, supportive DH who somehow still thinks I’m beautiful. He is very active and would love for me to join him but he doesn’t care about my weight. My children are in school, I work p/t mostly from home and I can comfortably afford a gym membership, healthy meal delivery, personal trainer, etc. I’ve tried all of these things but I know in the end it has to come from me. Why can’t I do this for my children, if not for myself? I feel like I’m wasting my life. I know this is a total defeatist attitude but it just feels like I have so far to go to be healthy and happy with my body that even if I start something I won’t be able to keep it up long enough to get there. I really do want to change my whole way of life, not just a temporary diet. But does this ever really happen? Does a person like me who let it get to this point really have the ability to completely turn it around?

I spend so much time thinking about this but I can’t seem to translate it into action. I have ADD (inattentive type, not hyperactive) and I take medication that should inhibit my appetite but it doesn’t really. I’m also on an anti-depressant that I do think has helped, but maybe not enough. (It did not cause the weight gain though, that was there before.) In general I’m absolutely awful at sticking to any type of plan, schedule, or habit. It’s like I’m just unable to force myself to be uncomfortable. Tbh it takes so much willpower to just get my work done, get the kids where they need to be and do the minimum of housework. But I see so many people making healthy choices and it’s hard to believe they are all stronger than I am, but maybe they are.

I obsess about this constantly. It almost feels like if I knew for a fact that I would be like this for the rest of my life I could just accept it and try to make the best of it and enjoy whatever time I have. I know some people manage to make truly major changes in their lives, but maybe some of us just aren’t capable of that and we need to accept it. (More defeatist attitude I know.)

TL;DR— AIBU to think I’m not strong enough to change my life and be healthy?

[Elsewyre]

If they're "incapable" of controling thier own mouths are we really happy with them controlling say a vehicle?

A lot more responsibility there.



Otherwise I say 1% extra on income tax for every % over 30% bodyfat

[allyouneedis]

I was that person 8 weeks ago. I watched a programme on tv about a diet called the fast 800 and decided to give it a try. I’m now 2 stone down and have another 2 to go. Maybe you could give it a shot? I’m not going to lie the first week was terrible and I was starving all the time but it get easier if you can just push yourself to stick to it. I joined a fast 800 Facebook page and seeing everyone else’s successes has also helped to push me on.

[allyouneedis]

I really should check the date on posts 🙈. If your still here and still looking to lose weight then my first post still stands. If after 2 years you have got to where you want to be then ignore my first post 😂

[Thisisworsethananticpated]

Change is hard
But sounds like you have 10000% convinced yourself and won’t even try

Why not leave weightloss for a while
Like don’t even thing about it
But say
I am going to try and walk 8000 steps a day
Every day for a week

It’s all twisted and mixed up in your head and it’s become like a mountain

Baby steps