A Late Night AIBU thread for you all

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

Had a teeny tiny joint birthday party for DD and DS today. DD said she wanted both sets of grandparents, only one of her many uncles and his girlfriend, and some friends of ours and their son. She also had a friend she has just made who lives a few doors away from us come.

We told everyone 2pm.

Friends rang at 2pm to say they wouldnt be there until 3pm because they were having dinner first (although suspect they wanted to watch the footie).

Uncle turned up at 2.45pm because he wanted to watch the first half of the footie.

DP's parents turned up at 3pm (they ALWAYS turn up an hour late so we expected them to be there at 3pm ish. Often we tell them to come an hour earlier before everyone else so that they turn up with everyone else).

My parents turned up a few minutes after 3pm.

Friends finally turned up at 3.40pm.

Friend from a few doors up turned up at 4.30pm and her mum said she could stay for half an hour then we should send her back.

I have been farking livid with ALL of them because of this. How hard is it to turn up on time when they knew there were only limited people coming?

With the exception of DP's parents because they are always late....no cahnge from the norm.

My parents didnt apologise, and said that the reason they were late was because they were trying to get DD and DS's other uncles to get out of bed to come.

So....over to you...

Shit, isn't it, being the sounding board for everyone else's disappointments about celebratory arrangements? I always get the inside story of why someone is pissed off with someone else, or doesn't like some part of what's on offer or whatever - usually when it's my birthday or wedding or something. Other people seem allowed to just get on with enjoying themselves at their own farking events

Trouble is, if they've done it once, they'll do it again and it sounds like they have. It outrageous! (and Spurs weren't even playing an important match either!)

god you say that, but, if spurs lose - whatever the match - my brother is in a fit of depression for a few days. I am not exaggerating.

I love football, (regular visitor to the better North London team!) but for the love of God, its only a game. Why do men do that?

god i would be furious!! I HATE it when people think sport is more important than a social event.

On easter sunday I spent hours and hours making a gorgeous 3 course meal and my FIL said as we sat down to dinner in dining room, 'i'll just put cricket on in living room so we know what's happening' and then all blokes proceeded to keep getting up from table or looking at tele all through dinner! ARGH!!!

My DH got a good talking to after that and is aware that he shud have taken charge and turned tele off.

VERY VERY rude and you are right to be pissed off!

lol - have wound myself up now thinking of loads of times when sport has affected a social do...breath, breath, calm....

im with you on this one vvqv. Id have been livid. Did they have anice time in the end though.

If it had been anything other than your DC's party you could have opened the door with a bemused look and said "Oh - it's all finished now, sorry, we're just on our way out..."

They did have a great time. They didnt really notice, but, unfortunately I did....

Thank you all.

Roll on school days, then they're friends will turn up on time. I'd be really pissed off too. Sounds like they enjoyed themselves anyway though

At DD2s Christening not a single member of my family was present. My mother was late (traffic dahling - even though other friends had come the same route and arrived on time), my brother was late (no excuse) and my sister's family went to see their 8yo son playing football instead. My late father had such impeccable manners, he'd be appalled.

'their' friends even.

I would be furious, fancy rating a footie match over children. I mean family comes first surely

I dont mind the footie so much, if they had rung and said "hey, there is a footie match on, we'll be over after". I'dve known.

Not even a phonecall.....