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Taking baby to cinema

178 replies

Dancingfairy · 24/07/2017 11:18

My baby is 14 weeks old and my ds really wants to go to the cinema today to watch captain underpants, I have no one to watch the baby, would it be ok to take her??

OP posts:
cuckooplusone · 24/07/2017 13:14

I would recommend using noise reduction protection designed for babies - I used them for baby cinema, festivals and fireworks and my DD slept through it all

worridmum · 24/07/2017 13:17

Just hope she isnt like the mum in spiderman last week whos baby cried and refused to take the baby out saying why should see miss the film abd people should be more tolaret of said screamibg baby

RiverTam · 24/07/2017 13:20

I would get ear defenders as it will be very loud. Otherwise, as long as your DS is fine if you have to leave to change or settle the baby, I'd go for it.

I'm utterly anal about silence in cinemas - but not for a kids film like this.

walkinganhouraday · 24/07/2017 13:44

I took mine at similar age and sat on the end of the back row and breast-fed almost all the way through the film to keep her quiet.

Pumperthepumper · 24/07/2017 13:47

It's fine, I regularly take my baby and three year old to the cinema, neither of them have ever cried there. Enjoy!

Hudson10 · 24/07/2017 13:56

Just hope she isnt like the mum in spiderman last week whos baby cried and refused to take the baby out saying why should see miss the film abd people should be more tolaret of said screamibg baby

That right there is why you should stay at home. Selfish, inconsiderate parents who only give a shit about themselves - not what's best for their baby, or mindful of the comfort of others.
Nope, it's just about what they want to do (see the film) and screw everyone else.
You can bet half of those saying "it's fine, can just whop a boob in their mouth if they cry" wouldn't take their baby out if they failed to be placated and would just leave them to be unsettled.

Hudson10 · 24/07/2017 13:59

Humans of all ages can be noisy/annoying/inconsiderate. If your enjoyment of public entertainment is that contingent on the perfect behaviour of every individual around you, I suggest you are the ones who should stay home.

Yes, humans of all ages can be noisy/annoying etc. It's common sense not to take tiny children, just what is the point if they're going to fidget/cry through it?
Wait until you know they're ready to go and enjoy the experience properly, otherwise it's just about what the parent wants and not really what's best for the child (and others.)

PersianCatLady · 24/07/2017 14:03

Could her father look after her?
Am I sorry but I cannot believe this comment at all.

The OP did not mention a father anywhere in her post so for all we know he may not be around for a whole host of reasons.

I cannot believe that anybody would just assume in 2017 that the father was involved with the baby.

m4rdybum · 24/07/2017 14:03

We went to watch Spider-Man the other day (at a normal viewing) and a couple brought their tiny baby in - slept all the way through.

I didn't have a problem with it - was quite refreshing and shows you don't need to stop having a social life/trips out when you have a baby.

Hudson10 · 24/07/2017 14:04

I took mine at similar age and sat on the end of the back row and breast-fed almost all the way through the film to keep her quiet

See, I just don't get that attitude, sorry. Would you like food stuffed in your mouth for approx two hours solid just to keep you quiet?
I'm assuming not.
Just take the baby outside! Not fair to others who have probably saved up for ages for a treat at the cinema, and not fair on your baby either who by your own admission had to be constantly breastfed to keep her quiet. As long as you got to see the film though, that's OK.
Sorry, but that's how it comes across.

PersianCatLady · 24/07/2017 14:05

Can't the child's dad look after them for a while? Grandparents for a couple of hours?
Honestly, here we go again assuming that there is a father and / or grandparents to call on.

Some people clearly have no idea of how other people live and how little support there actually have.

AtHomeDadGlos · 24/07/2017 14:06

Persian

I felt the same - what if he's dead? Those people suggesting the dad should watch the baby would feel like right twats then. All the OP asked was IABU to take the baby. Not 'please tell me that I should have other people to look after my baby'.

Original poster
Dancingfairy · 24/07/2017 14:06

I can assure you it's not what I want, I hate the cinema believe me it's not me who really wants to see captain underpants. (come on!) I don't have child care and baby is breast fed anyway so wouldn't be able to go unless I am there, I also don't have any family members who can come, apart from my sister but she's gone on holiday today.

OP posts:
AtHomeDadGlos · 24/07/2017 14:07

And I think take the baby. It's a kid's film after all. No one will really give a toss.

Hudson10 · 24/07/2017 14:08

No one will really give a toss

Speak for yourself, lots of people will "give a toss" if babies cry through it or children talk all the way through it.

AreWeThereYet000 · 24/07/2017 14:11

Baby screening - yes
Normal screening (even for a kids film) - no.

Best part of £30 I wouldn't not want wasting if the baby cries, whinges etc and it wouldn't be fair to your DC to keep removing him from the viewing everytime the baby starts if it does

MidniteScribbler · 24/07/2017 14:11

I think it's one of those situations where you need to consider the rest of the audience. A midday viewing of a kids movie on a holiday might tolerate a baby making noise (assuming you take them out as soon as they start to fuss). The midnight screening of the new release Harry Potter when you're standing in front of the screen with your screaming baby and refusing to leave to because 'I paid for this fucking ticket and I'll see the fucking show', not so much.

AreWeThereYet000 · 24/07/2017 14:13

Just read your update, if he really wants to see it, do other activities until your sister is back and let her take him

PersianCatLady · 24/07/2017 14:13

I felt the same - what if he's dead?
That was my first thought but there could be many other reasons why the baby's father is not around.

To me the comments smacked of either complete ignorance of how hard other people's lives are or as a bit of a snidey retort.

Either way I think that the comments about the father were in poor taste.

megletthesecond · 24/07/2017 14:14

It's a kids film so I'd take her.

I'm usually far more worried about my 8yr olds behaviour than what other kids are doing.

TefalTester123 · 24/07/2017 14:16

I expect all these people on about spoiling other people's enjoyment (even though OP has said she would leave if any crying) would have no trouble taking the same baby on a flight for a couple of hours where she can't get off!

Hudson10 · 24/07/2017 14:19

(even though OP has said she would leave if any crying

That's what every parent says before the event, but when it becomes reality and have to actually take them out they don't.

would have no trouble taking the same baby on a flight for a couple of hours where she can't get off!

How is that comparable? Having to travel - unavoidable. Going to the cinema with tiny babies and children - no need. Purely for selfish enjoyment.

mrsplum2015 · 24/07/2017 14:19

Absolutely no problem. Family life involves juggling. I have no support network and used to dread school holidays trying to entertain a 8 yo, 4yo and baby. While youngest was tiny the cinema was a great option as she only needed cuddles/feeding. Cinema was not an option for 3ish yrs once she got mobile. Im so glad I made the most of those times as oldest dc is now 12/13 and we rarely get to go to the cinema together as she goes wrh friends. Glad I made the effort to go when she was 8 even though baby was in tow, good memories for all of us.

MrsJoyOdell · 24/07/2017 15:00

I took DD loads when she was a baby. She BF and slept in the sling and never made noise. If she had I'd have taken her out.

Llanali · 24/07/2017 15:04

I'd go and not think twice. I'd leave if it was noisy.

I'd also consider leaving my five year old in the screening, assuming one exit/entrance and I stood just outside the screen doors with the baby. Only for a few minutes etc. And assuming the 5 year old was sensible and not concerned.

Hope you enjoy the film!

As an aside- if for example I had a 5 year old and an 8 year old with additional needs who might make noise and disturb people, would everyone say I couldn't take my 5 year old to see a much wanted film??