Ok, considered no name change but I am furious at the moment so scared of saying something I'll regret.
Dh and I split last year due to his depression and deciding he didn't like his life anymore.
(married 10+ years and previously fantastic husband)
at the time of our split his parents also split up (mum having an affair). and whilst this had no impact on our problems at the time, it's impacting his current decisions and state of mind.
his mum is living with the bloke she's having an affair with, playing both men off against each other, booking holidays with both men and lying about 'work trips'.
and to top it all, tells my dh everything and asks him to lie for her.
dh is living with his dad. who goes from suicidal to just uncontrollably upset.
last month or so, dh and i were getting on better than ever. even talking of getting back together.
but he's said this weekend that the pressures of his family situation and his depression mean he can't 'give me what i want' and me and dc will be better off without him!
(what planet is he on - we love him to bits and are all truly happy when we're together - but we're better off without him - WTF?!!)
i feel like killing his parents. i hate his mum for the lies and deciet and continuous upset.
am i better off getting the whole lot of them out of my life forever?
(obviously not completely possible due to dc)
or should i persevere with dh? keep giving him my love and support whilst getting nothing in return, in the hope he'll realise he wants us again one day??
(thanks if you've got this far!)