AIBU for what I do for DP

[harrypotternerd]

I was talking to a friend today and we were talking about relationships and how relationships have changed over the years. I made a comment that I make my DP a coffee when he gets home from work and cook most nights. My friend said 'well good way to set feminism back 50 years'.

Backstory: I am a sahm and my DP is an electrician so does manual labour. I do the housework, cook most nights and do the majority of childcare. I do not have a problem with this at all. My DP will call me when he finishes work as it varies each day depending on what he is doing, he will also tell me approx. how long it will take him to get home because he works all over the place. I generally have just finished making him a coffee or will make him one when he gets home, I also have normally started cooking. My friend thinks I am 'too 50s housewife' and I do not have to wait on him hand and foot. I don't feel like I do this, on days he does not work he will cook, make me coffee, look after kids so I have a break etc so really I guess me question is does anyone else do this or is it just me?

[DancingHouse]

Don't worry OP my DH makes me a coffee every morning for my walk to work. So it balances out and all is right with the world again.

Tell your friend to mind her own bloody business.

[SharkBastard]

Your friend is a div

I cook the meals every night. I work full time, am 32 weeks pregnant AND will be starting a masters in October. What a lot of old bollocks she's talking. Tell her to focus on her own life, if it works for you, then crack on

[Niskayuna]

Tell your 'friend' (hint: she isn't) that feminism is about ensuring women live their lives the way they choose to, without barriers. Barriers like bitchy friends telling us what we 'have' to do otherwise our feminism cards get revoked.

For pity's sake, I'm cooking for me and the kids, shall I ensure we're one portion down just so I don't 'set back feminism'?

[BertrandRussell]

"Barriers like bitchy friends telling us what we 'have' to do otherwise our feminism cards get revoked"

And barriers like societal expectations of what women are "supposed" to do......

[SenseiWoo]

As long as you and your husband have freely and fairly come to an agreement that suits you both and does right by your children, you're doing feminism just fine.

Your friend has been unpleasant-is she one of those people who associates doing kind things for people with being a doormat?