We had DD 6 months ago getting on as expected, loving being a mum but aibu to be so sick of being asked / pressured to have a sibling already / if at all!!!
4 days after birth it began and it just doesn't stop from friends and family!
We are married and in our thirties but currently are happy and have no plans for another at all. I know this may well change but I just don't understand how it is everyone's right to ask/ badger about the subject. My sister in law is a real smart arse about it as they have three. It's getting to the point where I want to tell everyone to F**k off and mind there own business.
I feel incredibly annoyed by it all and just feel if / when we say we are happy as is that it's all going to be rammed down our throats how selfish we are. Surely it's OUR decision and isn't anyone's business except maybe DH, DD and the person who's vagina the sibling will come out of?!
AIBU?
Sick of being asked when the next one is coming
user1470064958 · 15/01/2017 20:46
YANBU
OH and I have 6 kids between us from various relationships (none together). They range from 21 to 10, OH AND I both have careers. We are in our early 40s (so a pregnancy for me 15 yrs after my last could quite possibly be high risk).
We struggle to collect various children from various places and spend quality time with them and struggle to get time alone as he is away a lot too.
People still ask "but wouldn't you want one together?!". Erm no 
People are nosey idiots.
This makes my blood boil. I almost died having DC1 and then went through many years of secondary infertility whilst desperately wanting another baby. I couldn't believe the way people thought it was okay to chide me for not providing DC1 with a sibling. Many of them even continued to do so even knowing what I went through previously and after I finally had enough and informed them that I didn't know if I could have any more in any case. Others had no idea if we even wanted another child and thought it was okay to lecture us about the evils of having an only child or a large age gap between siblings.
When I eventually fell pregnant with DC2 after many years, I still got rude comments along the lines of, "why did you wait so long?" RAGE!! WTF is wrong with people?
Pretty much immediately after giving birth, family become obsessed with when the next one is coming. Not long after that, I was being asked "Sooo you started trying for the next one yet?" "Are you working on a little sister?"
This is from my brothers and my parents and I feel like just saying 'yeh we're pretty much shagging constantly really'
Maybe that might shut them up lol who knows
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