I'm not am I?! (Christmas one sorry, and it's long)

[lastqueenofscotland]

This year we are doing Christmas at my sisters, which is a small cottage in a remote location (highlands of Scotland remote).
We usually end up with a few waifs and strays and have ended up with more than usual. So we have Booked cabs for those from a nearby town to go home in the evening and those from other remote villages who will struggle if they have been drinking to get home can stay.

One of the people coming is from the town, and is a friend of my sisters and is an Aussie who can't get come for Christmas, she lives nearby my mums brother. Excellent.
Also nearby is a girl me and my sister went to school with, who has sort of guilt tripped us into having her, she has family to spend it with but she had a minor argument with one of them 89472 years ago so doesn't want to see them... Initially she asked me if she could come and I said id need to speak to my sister it's her house etc, she got cross saying we'd invited som random Aussie but not her, an old friend etc. My sister said sod it for the sake of keeping the peace well have her.

However she is continuing to be difficult, I was going to pick up her, my uncle and the other girl from the town where they all live at noon after my uncle would have been to church.
She has turned round and said well she is going out on Xmas eve and might not be awake By then and maybe wants to see her family so she'll let me know on the day when I can come and get her. and we can have dinner when she gets there... More

Then there was the kick off when she couldn't stay... There is a cab booked and paid for and literally NO room in the house. Again apparently it's unfair

AIBU to say she's getting picked up at noon. We are having dinner when we are having dinner and no she really can't stay there is NO ROOM.

She's 30odd ffs

[RentANDBills]

Cheeky cow. I'm sure she'll be a delight at Christmas

[AllPowerfulLizardPerson]

Get one if the other people in the car to knock in her door at 11:55, saying 'hope you're ready, lastqueen is turning the car round and we have to showing off at 12 prompt' and then come straight back to car.

If she says she's not ready, then 'here's the number of a cab firm that's open today. Remember we're eating at 3 o'clock. See you there'

And you say she's likely to get drunk. I don't really approve of spiking drinks, but you could perhaps encourage consumption in the hope she'll fall asleep (leaving you all in peace) and can just be carried out to the car at going home time. Do you have any fit, young (kilted) men in attendance?

[Nirvanababy]

Just checking in and not place marking either

[Gallavich]

I'm waiting to hear her response!

[midsummerwoods]

I just think it's a very rude way of referring to guests.

Op is not being remotely unreasonable with the lift thing, but I think the way she's referred to her guests is ignorant in the extreme.

[zeeboo]

Oh good grief midsummer it's a perfectly common turn of phrase and not remotely offensive or ignorant.

[midsummerwoods]

I feel it is, and certainly I would not wish to accept an invitation to be somewhere with someone who described me as such.

Anyway OP hope you have a good holiday.

[frankie001]

Cheeky cow!

[rollonthesummer]

Have you heard from her?!

[pinkywink]

Placemarking! What are some people like!! Hope u get a response soon!

[schmack]

sounds like.my mother. but you're not even related to her so I don't understand why you are putting up with her shit. I'd say oh you are going to your family on Xmas day now? that's great, see you in the NY.

[SelfCleaningVagina]

And you say she's likely to get drunk. I don't really approve of spiking drinks, but you could perhaps encourage consumption in the hope she'll fall asleep (leaving you all in peace) and can just be carried out to the car at going home time.

That's a terrible idea. In my experience people who are annoying when drunk don't fall asleep they just keep going for hours and hours getting louder and more obnoxious with every drink.

The people who fall asleep in a corner when they get very drunk are the ones who weren't too loud or obnoxious in the first place. me

[Millionsmom]

Some folk are unbelievable aren't they. My story is similar, but not so bad.

My DH took pity on a girl we often give a lift to a couple of weeks ago. He made the mistake of asking what she was doing for Christmas- we live in the Middle East, she's from the Far East - nothing she said. She had the time off as she's a teacher, but all her other friends were working so she'd be alone.
DH asked if she'd like to come to our place, we're going to stay in a hotel with our family for a few days for water activities, then having Christmas Dinner at a hotel and we'd love to have her. Of course she jumped at the chance.
Then DS sprang his engagement on us, we used our savings to pay our share and had to change our plans. I told her the happy news, she's now too busy to 'just' stay at our place and have dinner at the hotel.

Don't tie yourself in knots for her OP, stick to your plans and have a very merry Christmas!

[chartmc]

id say,, "ooh so your seeing your family now, ideal! no need for you to come anymore. enjoy. cyaaa!"

[CoraPirbright]

Has she responded OP? What does your dsis say?

[wictional]

Wow!! Remind her that it's your Christmas and that you have plans sorted. If she wants to join you, she's welcome, but they're your plans for your holiday gathering and you want to enjoy your day!

[AllPowerfulLizardPerson]

Good point SCV

I'd probably make the attempt, though. Because the obnoxious might happen anyhow.

[OhWotIsItThisTime]

Op, what happened?

[ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged]

Yes, come on op. Update?!

[Balanced12]

I need to know what happened !

[DartmoorDoughnut]

Hope she either didn't turn up or behaved herself and was thankful if she did

[AllPowerfulLizardPerson]

Maybe she's still sleeping it off?