I don't work at the moment. If I am buying things for me or for my friends, I dip into my savings. (This is just to set the context for the fact that I don't have money to squander).
This morning I was out at our local shopping centre. I often see a homeless guy there, so stopped to check if he needed a coffee or a sandwich. He said he was fine, someone had just bought him some stuff. We chatted for a bit and I carried on around the shops where there is a Big Issue seller. She has a child a little younger than mine so I often stop for a chat, and to buy a magazine from her. She's a Romanian lady who always dresses very very modestly (feet and ankles covered, long skirts, head covered, neck covered - just her hands and face are visible), and I possibly stupidly inferred from this that she is Muslim. Today she was saying that she was hungry and very cold. I said I'd see what I could do to help as I didn't have much money.
I had to do some food shopping (which is paid for by DH), and having done that I stopped to buy a hot snack for the Big Issue seller. I spent ages looking at everything I could afford and in the end opted for a cup of hot tomato soup as I thought it was unlikely to include anything not halal, and I wasn't sure whether she would eat cheese or eggs (she has told me before she has dietary problems).
I went to give her the cup of soup and she said, "Oh, I don't like tomato. I like chicken, you could have got me a hot chicken sandwich."
Now, forgive me if I'm being judgy, but if someone had gone out of their way to get me something hot to eat when I was cold, I wouldn't have complained. She suggested that she couldn't eat soup in the street (she has a chair in a shop doorway) and again said she'd have preferred chicken. I said that I was sorry but I had now spent all my money as I'd also bought a magazine from her.
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MarklahMarklah · 08/12/2016 13:37
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