First time on here so please be kind! I know this is trivial but it really gets to me. Family help us out with childcare in addition to DD's nursery days but when it's the turn of my FIL I find it hard to bite my tongue.
I fully appreciate the favour he is doing for us, but find he acts differently at ours to when he's in his own home. MIL was the same when she helped out - which almost led to divorce!!
He always comes down the night before which wasn't originally agreed, but fine went along with that. For a slim man he eats a LOT! He will happily eat through all our cheese, fruit and veg. I'm not always around but he has never once asked if it's OK. To me this seems rude. On one occasion he'd eaten at lunch what I was going to give DD for tea..... I hadn't had time to go shopping (I work), so had to think quickly!
He never arrives with food or drink but expects evening meal and wine. We don't pay him so you could argue that's fair enough. But once or twice as a gesture of goodwill would be nice.
He also has habit of leaving all kitchen cupboard doors and drawers open. Will spill stuff on floor and leave for me to clean up. Generally there are poo crumbs left on loo seat (!!!!!) and toothpaste all over towel. Never seen any of this at theirs. Although I don't inspect the towels or loose 😄😄
He has a bad habit of undermining me with my DD. His childcare is OK but very patchy when comes to food etc.. he's not aggressive just passive aggressive maybe?
I can't talk about it with DH as I'm told I'm ungrateful and rude. Like I said it's all small stuff but it's been building up all year!
He's also failed to mention to me when DD has fallen over. Am not going to have a go at him because accidents happen. But seriously? How us he being responsible?
Sorry for rant! Don't think he likes me a great deal. 99% sure he didn't speak to me on our wedd8ng day...
AIBU?
AIBU on house guest etiquette?
Rudolphthered · 03/11/2016 14:37
I think nappy/potty emptying would be more likely to end up on the seat than your fils 'poo crumbs'. Not sure about anyone else but I tend to keep my butthole in the bowl without too much trouble when using the loo 
I've always been really jealous of people who can eat what they want
without gaining weight. 
Generally it's believed men cannot multitask, although I have my doubts on this view.
Agree - every man I have ever known has been very capable of reading a newspaper whilst having a poo. 
Time to read your OP back to yourself and maybe cop on.
He's not a house guest, for starters. He's minding your child for free.
The bathroom antics are grim. But other than that, the solution is obvious.
Re-reading your OP myself.
You really do actually think of him as a 'house guest', and expect him to bring wine and food with him, when he's doing you a massive favour.
Hilarious!
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