AIBU to put 2 small pieces of beetroot on his plate?

[Sapeke1]

Week in week out I cook. Seven days a week with a roast on Sunday the same boring food with the same boring vegetables (peas, carrots) that my family will eat but TODAY I cut a BEETROOT into chunks and steamed it put most of it on my plate but I gave the everyone else 2 small pieces to try. My husband reacted like it was a sheep's eyeball or something, shouting "WHY HAVE YOU PUT BEETROOT ON MY PLATE?" and scooped it into the compost caddy thus undermining any attempts to encourage the kids to try this exotic new vegetable. Should I just stop cooking or what?

[Chinks123]

But do we know whether the op knew her DP liked beetroot? If she didn't know she might have thought they would all enjoy it, it's not condescending to put veg on your husbands plate unless you know they don't like it. I'm abit confused about this becoming a feminist issue though I just thought any person who reacted like this is rude, not just a man. If DP knew I hated something I'd be miffed, if he had no idea I'd push it away. Either way I wouldn't shout as the op said he did infront of the kids over a vegetable.

I've put veg on DPs plate before when he hasn't asked for it because he never eats any. I'm not his 'mum or dietician I know'

[BertrandRussell]

It's a feminist issue because women often enable men to behave like toddlers, and excuse them doing so. It's extraordinary that people are excusing this man shouting at his partner at the dinner table in front of children and getting up to put food in the bin.

[BertrandRussell]

"I've aske you is it a feminist issue when a female poster says she would have reacted the same? "

The woman concerned has what appears to be a phobic response to beetroot and her husband knows this. So in that case, him pitting beetroot on her plate would be th actions of a jerk. But, actually, she would still be wrong to shout at him over the dinner table in the presence of children.Unless there is a massive drip feed to follow, the OP's husband is not beetroot phobic.

[Batteriesallgone]

If kids aren't around Bert yes it is in this house

We are somewhat childish and dramatic with each other. Clearly we are enabling each other! I don't see the problem really...I don't have childish strops in front of the kids much

[BertrandRussell]

But the kids were around.

And it's obviously not part of to and fro dramatic interaction because the OP was upset by it.

[BertrandRussell]

She said it makes her gag. That is not a "normal" response to not liking something.

And I said she would also be wrong to shout.

[Batteriesallgone]

I agree it's a parenting issue. I can see it may be a feminist issue if part of a wider pattern of dominance / control / abuse. Without that context though I agree with the previous poster who said beetroot refusal is not a feminist issue.

Beetroot aside, the OP does sound a bit Shirley Valentine. If the day to day set up is boring and unfulfilling OP, you need to chat to your partner and change something or have a holiday in Greece and shag a local

[exLtEveDallas]

Crikey. Does this mean I'm now not a feminist? Or not a woman?

No I'm not phobic, I just detest the taste and smell of the stuff.

Yes I would have reacted badly - there probably would have been a "dirty stinking stuff" and a couple of "Ewwws" in there too.

DD would have laughed because she knows how much I hate it - just like she laughed when DH wrapped me up a jar of it for my birthday (there was method in his madness, and an in joke)

I probably wouldn't have reacted badly when DD was weaning/smaller in case I put her off trying it herself - but that never came up because I did all the cooking then and wouldn't have served it. I don't think she'd tried it herself until last year when DH started growing his own (and funnily enough, she doesn't like it either)

[Oldraver]

If you put beetroot on their plate knowing the didnt like it then YABU.

OH used to insist on putting peas on my plate 'for colour'. Its very rare I eat them so he was told to cut it out

[mumoseven]

celery is the devil's cock. and olives are his balls. you're welcome.
Beetroot is very polarising.
beetroot is a gateway vegetable. you'll be putting jerusalem artichokes in the cottage pie before long.
3 laffs already and its not yet 8 am

Today will be a good day

[EastMidsMummy]

Fussy wanker.

[exWifebeginsat40]

looking forward to the revised edition of 'Fat is a Feminist Issue': 'Beetroot is a Symbol of Opression by the Patriarchy'

Jesus fucking Christ.

[exWifebeginsat40]

*oppression. fuck.

[BertrandRussell]

"Crikey. Does this mean I'm now not a feminist? Or not a woman?"

No. From what you post you have a family joke about beetroot which you all buy into. My dp makes very funny faces if he eats something sour, and the children enjoy trying to trick him into eating things like lemon. When they succeed he will be very outraged, much to everyone's amusement,

That is very different from getting up from the table, shouting at the cook and binning food in the middle of a meal.

[whattheseithakasmean]

Beetroot is the devils work and people who attempt to hide it in cake (cake, I tell you) are psychos with no right to walk our green earth.

I am team DH on this one (I'll hand up my feminist badge on my way out of the thread...)

[blushrush]

It's okay to not like a certain food and not want to eat it.

However, it is not acceptable to throw a hissy fit and leave the dinner table to throw the offending food out. Not exactly setting a good example for the kids.

Tell him to grow up and if he doesn't like something, simply leave it. What a baby!

Don't stop cooking. I would be tempted to cook the exact same thing every day for a month. I mean, the EXACT same thing. If he complains, state you were simply helping him to avoid another 'traumatic food incident' :)

[BertrandRussell]

"I am team DH on this one (I'll hand up my feminist badge on my way out of the thread...)"

Including the shouting and the leaving the table to throw it away?

[BertrandRussell]

But presumably your dp knows you are allergic?