AIBU to put 2 small pieces of beetroot on his plate?

[Sapeke1]

Week in week out I cook. Seven days a week with a roast on Sunday the same boring food with the same boring vegetables (peas, carrots) that my family will eat but TODAY I cut a BEETROOT into chunks and steamed it put most of it on my plate but I gave the everyone else 2 small pieces to try. My husband reacted like it was a sheep's eyeball or something, shouting "WHY HAVE YOU PUT BEETROOT ON MY PLATE?" and scooped it into the compost caddy thus undermining any attempts to encourage the kids to try this exotic new vegetable. Should I just stop cooking or what?

[BertrandRussell]

Not liking something is not rude. Acting like a jerk about it is.

[pearlylum]

If you have ever witnessed poverty and people severely malnourished then you will realise how childish it is to be fussy.

[Obviouspretzel]

Why are people acting like beetroot with a roast is weird? It's a root vegetable, particularly when roasted it's lovely with a roast. And your husband acted ridiculously whether he likes it or not. The funny thing is, many people on here seem to think his reaction was normal.

[StayAChild]

catkind I remember having hot beetroot on school dinners. Did it also involve white sauce? Was it served with horribly fatty lamb?

I love beetroot and keep intending to serve it warm. I'll try roasting some. Thanks OP for reminding me and no, YANBU.

[DailyFaily]

Well fair point pearlylum, and I have to concede that if mushrooms and shellfish were the only foods available to me then I'd get on and eat them. But by that token it's childish to have preferences about where you live, what you wear, where your children are educated etc etc. Mumsnet must seem like a playground to you. For what it's worth, I realise I'm lucky to have choices in life (and yes, I have witnessed poverty) and, that being the case, I would rather food I actively dislike eating ended up on the plate of someone who would enjoy it. But I don't make a huge fuss about it if such food is put in front of me.

[BertrandRussell]

I can't get over people believing this guy has behaved acceptably.

It's all part of this extraordinary belief that it's oK for men to behave like toddlers.

[Oysterbabe]

I wouldn't put up with my DH acting like a 4 year old. I cook, everyone gets what they're given and can eat all or none for all I care.
Let him cook for himself and you can continue trying to broaden your DC's palate.

[BertrandRussell]

No. Women have said they don't like beetroot. They haven't said they would "reacted like it was a sheep's eyeball or something, shouting "WHY HAVE YOU PUT BEETROOT ON MY PLATE?" and scooped it into the compost caddy"

But it's OK for this man to do this.

[Oysterbabe]

But it doesn't sound like this is an issue limited to beetroot.

same boring food, same boring vegetables

[Batteriesallgone]

Did you know he hates beetroot? Whether or not you knew determines whether his behaviour towards you was out of order.

However he should never have acted like that in front of the kids. It is awful when parents don't encourage children to try food and instead encourage them to limit their diet.

[MackerelOfFact]

Beetroot was possibly a bit of a leftfield choice for expanding your family's vegetable repertoire - I personally would've eased them in a but more gently with broccoli/kale/parsnips/green beans/swede etc.

But even so. YANBU.

[Paintedhandprints]

I would kindly suggest to your 'd'h, that he fucking cooks for once. How childish.

[BertrandRussell]

His behavior was unacceptable whatever.

And a good, aware father would not comment negatively about any food in front of small children. Even in a non-jerky way.

[WorraLiberty]

Beetroot removal isn't some feminist thing

Brilliant!

[BertrandRussell]

Beetroot may not be a feminist thing. But a man behaving like an entitled jerk and treating a woman with distain and abrogating his parental responsibilities is.

[BertrandRussell]

He didn't "remove it from his plate" He shouted "Why have you put this on my plate!", got up from the table and put it in the bin.

[Batteriesallgone]

But then if a partner knows the other hates a food and puts it in their plate anyway in a condescending 'it's good for you / your food choices are lazy and uninteresting' way that's pretty bloody patronising. I don't think either side of the relationship have covered themselves in glory tbh.

He clearly behaved unacceptably as a parent. Nothing wrong with being particular about food but every parent should behave in a way that encourages DC to have a wide and varied diet IMO.

[Oysterbabe]

It's ok to not like things. It's not ok to make a huge fuss about it and chuck it straight in the bin, just don't eat it. There's not a chance in hell the kids would be trying the beetroot after that performance.

[BathshebaDarkstone]

YABU. Don't try and change an adult's eating habits, just give new veg to the DC. My ex wouldn't eat fat or sprouts because he'd been forcefed them as a child. It was really too late to change his eating habits at 42, and I was his partner, not his mum, teacher or dietician.

[derwoodgirl]

Please don't boil, roast or steam the cursed beetroot!

Shredded RAW beetroot is the way to go. Tastes completely different to cooked. Sweet and far less earthy. A revelation. No need to adorn with vinegar or dressings. Maybe add to a simple leaf salad to start.

My beetroot hating family now asks for shredded beetroot with their dinner.

[BertrandRussell]

So is shouting "Why have you put beetroot on my plate!" at th dinner table acceptable?