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WWYD - how honest would you be?

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chelle792 · 06/05/2016 09:33

Someone I know and am relatively close with has asked that I look over an application. We both have backgrounds in the same industry. I've read it and it's just not right. She's been applying for jobs and not getting anywhere.

My honest opinion is that it needs scrapping and starting over. I don't feel that there's really anything appealing in the letter. It doesn't highlight her good qualities and although she outlines her experiences, doesn't relate them to the person specification. She won't get a job with this letter.

She's already really stressed about her contract coming to an end with nothing to move on to and has been to the doctors because she is struggling.

Do I either make a few changes and tell her good luck, knowing she won't get anything or tell her that it needs majorly reworking and potentially make her even more stressed?

The deadline for the application is Monday

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chelle792 · 06/05/2016 13:43

Or agreeing to help, rather

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PirateFairy45 · 06/05/2016 16:06

Be honest so as she'll get a job

EarthboundMisfit · 06/05/2016 17:21

Tell her! I can't see much to lose and a lot to gain. I'd be thrilled if someone helped me with that.

JuneBuggy · 06/05/2016 17:27

Everyone needs a critical friend from time to time. She's come to you for help and you think you've found the issue.

Could you write one for her, suggest she submits that and see how she gets on? People are often really rubbish at seeing and verbalising their best qualities, especially in applications / CVs / interviews!

chelle792 · 12/05/2016 11:54

So I have an update....
I ended up spending most of Sunday on and off on the phone to her. We reworked the whole thing.

I've just had a text from her and she's been invited to interview!!

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chelle792 · 12/05/2016 11:55

So glad I was honest as she's had so many rejections!

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LikeASoulWithoutAMind · 12/05/2016 12:00

Yay! That's brilliant news OP. Well done Smile

sunnyoutside · 12/05/2016 12:02

Aw this is a lovely thread. Being honest without being mean is so important and it really comes across how much you care and how much you think of her. I hope her interview goes well Flowers

AyeAmarok · 12/05/2016 12:02

Great news! Well done both of you!

Winterbiscuit · 12/05/2016 13:12

Fantastic!

HighDataUsage · 12/05/2016 13:21

Well done, it's always good to be honest in situations like this and it has benefited her. So the next stage is to help prepare her for the interview stage. I googled '10 hardest interview questions' and worked through those.

www.theguardian.com/careers/interview-help

FinallyHere · 12/05/2016 13:37

Well done, both of you.

I am eternally grateful to the person who helped me with mine. Im supposed to be good at this stuff, but just couldn't see it for my own CV. Just like you,my friend didn't push the fact that it needed a total rewrite, just concentrated on examples of what i could do differently. I'll be for ever grateful....

magicstar1 · 12/05/2016 13:39

That's great...well done.

I had that conversation with my old boss surprisingly. He was getting no interviews, even though he's highly qualified. I redid his cv and he got some straight away. It was just worded badly and too long.

chelle792 · 12/05/2016 15:28

Interview is Tuesday and it's not far from my house so she's coming to stay Monday night. I hope she can act confident in the interview! Although she's now decided this area isn't manageable as it's too expensive she's right but she should be fine on her wage

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