To hate the word "pudding?"

[Misswrite89]

I hate it when people use the word pudding instead of dessert. AIBU?

Surely the key difference is that a dessert wine is something like a moscatel or a Gewurtztraminer, whereas a pudding wine is a Muscat, Tokaj or Madeira (malmsey)?

Just coming on to say the same thing BigDamnHero "PUUUUUDing" !

Dessert course is fruit if you're somewhere very posh or very formal. There may well be pudding and cheese as well.

It'll be at the sort of do where you can also expect a separate fish course.

Yup, I'm with you OP. There's something about it that really annoys me. No pudding, no sweet, no afters....dessert all the way!

The only proper pudding is a black one.

YABU. I can't stand 'dessert' or 'sweet'. 'Afters' is OK at a push.

Although tbqh I never hear people in ireland angsting over sofa vs settee or sitting room vs living room, so maybe it doesn't matter much here.

Pudding sounds childish and twee.

Yes it does, Iora - it's couch...

Ahh couch. See I work with lots of kids who live on American tv, couch long ago left their vocabulary!

Dessert all the way.

Pudding is a type of dessert, it doesn't encapsulate all desserts. Dessert being "a sweet course eaten at the end of a meal".

I know it's a cultural/regional thing as well but I hate "tea" for lunch or dinner. It's confusing, especially for foreigners like me, tea is a drink not a meal.

Couch is what they usually say in America too.

"It'll be at the sort of do where you can also expect a separate fish course."

But most definitely not fish knives!

Pudding here, but I think it's a poor class marker as working class northern use pudding too.
Agree those trying to be posh use dessert.
So if you have pudding after tea you aren't posh, but if you have pudding after supper you are!

I often think foreign born people must be totally confused with the English.

Yes, in the US it's all dessert. Pudding is a category of desserts, unless it's corn pudding which is a side dish.

One of my favorite desserts is banana pudding, which is really a sort of trifle.

My Yorkshire in-laws use pudding ( after tea a lot.) I am NW and use afters.

As long as it's not "perrr-ding" I don't care what you call it.

I correct the kids saying dessert to pudding.
I correct serviette to napkin.
But I do say toilet. Although I'm aware it should be loo.
The English, eh?

Jam roly poly = pudding
Strawberries & cream = pudding
Cheesecake = pudding
Zabaglione = pudding
Fruit & dates & stuff why bother when you can eat pudding or CHEESE??- = dessert

But (and follow me closely here): it doesn't really matter. If you don't like the word, don't use it. I hate the word "pocket".

That looks amazing, Seneca

What do you use instead of pocket, Fair? Although you could technically live your life without mentioning them at all if they pissed you off that much, I suppose.
Pudding / Dessert on the other hand...

I think it's a poor class marker as working class northern use pudding too.

One element of class markers is that upper- and working-class ones often resemble each other. It's the insecure middle classes (so the narrative goes) who try to distinguish themselves by using pseudo-posh terminology. The upper and working classes are happy/resigned to be where they are in society.

I don't care what you call that pic that senecafalls put up - I want to eat it now!

Agree with pp re tea for dinner, annoying but that's what happens when you insist on calling lunch your dinner. If you called it lunch in the first place....

Dawn, I was one of the ones who said ^dessert is cold and light.
^
What I meant was that if someone says dessert, I make the connection as cold and light, if they say pudding then I instinctively think of hot.

I actually call pudding 'pudding', and only say dessert if I'm asking for a dessert menu.

Pass the fish knives Bertrand Norman...