With all due respect an individual who can't write down a telephone number correctly and phone me as agreed and who then says that she did her because she phoned me back when I chased her two weeks after that is not intellectually capable of dealing with a paper bag let alone taking responsibility for my child's MH care. It is not very hard to think, ooh, I must have got that number wrong; I'll write Mrs Belle a note and ask her to call me. But no, that would have been too much trouble and would have involved initiative.
Also, with due respect, I know my child better than a primary mental health worker who has met her for 30 minutes. I know that my child needs support to stay in school and to achieve because that's what makes her tick; I know that if my child loses six weeks of 2.5 hours of key A'Level tuition, within six weeks of starting a new school, my child will fall behind and get even more distressed about that and will probably drop out and suffer even more. I think any healthcare worker who refuses to listen to a mother's concerns is a far greater arse than me.
My dd went under a psychiatrist's care, she had four sessions of CBT with a clinical psychologist that weren't very helpful for her and she was escalating, we saw the psychiatrist again, the psychiatrist felt her exhaustion wasn't in line with a classic depressive pattern and ordered bloods, dd was diagnosed with an underlying chronic medical condition, that is now being treated alongside the depression which was exacerbated by it. I don't think you can seriously believe that a primary health worker or a social worker could have linked the pattern of exhaustion beyond the depression and referred for bloods - therefore they could not have treated my daughter holistically and probably wouldn't have referred upwards because they would have realised the need to. First appointment early October, turning round by December.
My daughter is happy again, her condition is being treated, she is doing incredibly well at school and applying to universities, including Oxford.
I don't think any of that would have been achieved without escalation and a suicide attempt if we'd stayed with CAMHS. It's a pity the CAMHS staff aren't striking for the sake of their patients rather than the junior doctors because they've been offered an 11% pay rise.
I don't think ensuring one's child receives the best possible care when those responsible for providing it in the NHS/CAMHS services only provide services between 9-5 (but actually they don't, because they aren't available for work at 9am in my experience).
If you still think I'm an arse be my guest but I did my best for my daughter when CAMHs spectacularly failed - oh hang on they didn't, when I told them I'd was meeting my MP they found an acceptable intervention. At least I wasn't such an arse that I accepted it at the expense of other children when we had an alternative.