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To think the 'Disrespect NoBody' ad campaign is horribly sexist?

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p4rmaviolet · 28/02/2016 21:22

Not sure if this has already been discussed but has anybody else seen the 'Disrespect NoBody' TV adverts that are supposedly raising awareness for healthy relationships and domestic violence?

Every single scenario in the advert is targeted at men abusing women whether it be physically or emotionally. Y'know because men are never victims?


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OhShutUpThomas · 28/02/2016 21:24

Well, to be fair, it's overwhelmingly women who are victims of male violence.

ZiggyFartdust · 28/02/2016 21:25

I loathe "what about the menz" whingers. Are 2 men every week killed by their partners or ex partners? NO.

ZiggyFartdust · 28/02/2016 21:25

I loathe "what about the menz" whingers. Are 2 men every week killed by their partners or ex partners? NO.

PurpleDaisies · 28/02/2016 21:26
EatShitDerek · 28/02/2016 21:26

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p4rmaviolet · 28/02/2016 21:28

Well in that case, should it not include scenarios for both? Women aren't the victims in 100% of cases.

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StereophonicallyChallenged · 28/02/2016 21:28

Why do you think it's sexist OP? It isn't a matter of opinion that almost all victims of dv are women. It's fact.

OhShutUpThomas · 28/02/2016 21:28

Well then it should include 9 women and one man.

Happy now?

Helmetbymidnight · 28/02/2016 21:28

I just saw it too!

I thought it was good. Not sexist at all - although yes the talking boxer shorts aren't entirely credible.

Maudofallhopefulness · 28/02/2016 21:29

I think it carries an important message actually.

p4rmaviolet · 28/02/2016 21:30

I have previously read that 40% are men, and considering men are less likely to report domestic abuse, would it not make sense to raise awareness on the subject?

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Helmetbymidnight · 28/02/2016 21:30

It wasn't all male to female either.

There were statements such as 'pressuring for sex is wrong' - what's wrong with saying that?

slugseatlettuce · 28/02/2016 21:31

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VoldysGoneMouldy · 28/02/2016 21:31

There certainly needs to be more discussion surrounding male victims, however, the huge majority of DV victims are women having been abused by men.

RitaVinTease · 28/02/2016 21:32

So its not ok to campaign against a thing, because other similar things also exist?

p4rmaviolet · 28/02/2016 21:32

I'm not taking away from the fact that it carries an important message, it just seems disingenuous to only include women, as to suggest it only happens to women is simply not true.

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ByThePrickingOfMyThumbs · 28/02/2016 21:33

The adverts are not sexist at all. Domestic violence is primarily perpetrated by men against women. This is not sexist, it is a fact. 2 women a week are murdered by their partners or ex partners. Should we sweep this fact under the carpet because men are sometimes victims too?

VoldysGoneMouldy · 28/02/2016 21:33

"Domestic abuse is rarely a one off incident. It is a complex pattern of power and control. While both men and women experience single incidents of inter-personal violence, women are considerably more likely to experience repeated and severe forms of violence.

Women constitute 89% of those who experience four or more incidents of domestic violence in their lifetime (Walby and Allen, 2004). These women are likely to have experienced all types of intimate violence (partner abuse, family abuse, sexual assault and stalking). Furthermore, nearly half the women who have experienced intimate violence of any kind, are likely to have been victims of more than one kind of intimate abuse."

From a DV website.

VoldysGoneMouldy · 28/02/2016 21:35

I always feel that the "what about men" when talking about female rape and violence is the same as the bullshit "All Live Matter" in response to "Black Lives Matter".

It's not saying men don't suffer DV. It's saying that women are at much more risk.

RitaVinTease · 28/02/2016 21:36

Where does it suggest or state that its only men against women?

Helmetbymidnight · 28/02/2016 21:36

How do you mean 40% are men?

OhShutUpThomas · 28/02/2016 21:39

I have previously read that 40% are men

Well you've read wrong.

Can't women even campaign against domestic violence without someone whining 'but what about the menzzzzz?'
How many men are killed by their partners each week? 2 women are.

It's not our job to do everything. If men have problems then they can campaign for help, like we have to.
Like we do.

You know what the problem is?? You haven't come on here wanting to talk about domestic violence against men. You've come on here wanting to talk about how unfair women are for not making it all about men, and how sexist it is and how women need to not hog domestic violence.

You want to talk about/campaign about men, go for it.


p4rmaviolet · 28/02/2016 21:40

The campaign itself doesn't appear to be targeted, but in the tv advert, the scenarios all imply that the perpetrator is a male and the victim is a female by the use of voices/parts of the body etc.

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PurpleDaisies · 28/02/2016 21:41

The disrespect nobody website refers to domestic abuse on men. It links to specific helplines for make victims. It isn't sexist.

Helmetbymidnight · 28/02/2016 21:41

40% of what are men?

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