Posted to AIBU since, it's quite likely I am being unreasonable, but since I feel a little irritated, I wanted to unload :-)
Last year some friends asked if they could stay with us. They live some distance away, so they wanted to stay for a few days. Unfortunately, we didn't have the room so offered them our holiday home in a nearby major city, which they accepted.
For the last two days I've invited them for dinner but each day they've made alternative plans. Tomorrow they want a lift to the airport. Given that I'll need to drive an hour each way, and they'd made no plans, I really am not in the mood to do the airport run (especially since it's only a short and cheap bus ride away for them...!).
Now, if they had booked into the holiday home straight off, I would just assume they wanted a nice break away, and I wouldn't be upset about being knocked back.
But that wasn't the original plan - they were meant to be visiting us, and presumably we'd have seen sights and eaten together, you know, like friends do? The sole reason they're in the holiday home is because we simply don't have room at our home any more.
They aren't being charged, of course - but I have had to decline a paying guest enquiry since then. Normally this wouldn't matter - but you know, since they're basically using it as holiday accommodation in the way a run of the mill guest would, I feel a little put out.
Anyway, posting this because I'm feeling a little upset and wondering if they ever wanted to actually visit me at all, or had they been accommodated at our home rather than away from us, whether things would be different, or what.
Someone tell me I'm being silly and that it's not unreasonable for them to decline my invitations to dinner? :S
AIBU?
To expect visiting friends to spend some time with me?
infife · 24/01/2016 23:53
for you, OP.
You sound like you have a lovely nature, they sound like users taking advantage of it.
Do they have form for this behaviour?
OP picked them up from the airport as well and they took it for granted!
Unless they left a wad of cash to cover all the cleaning/washing/bills for their stay or like somebody said a crate of champagne and thank you notes and flowers in the flat, they just completely used you!
I too suspect that they might have known about the existence of the flat and when asked to come and visit you were hoping to be directed to the flat. Could it be the case?
they didn't even leave anything!
You must Invoice them. You won't lose anything.....as I very much doubt that you will be staying in contact after this.
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