To be peeved at DH and DS going out this afternoon.

[redgoat]

I've not been well. I'm a terrible patient so this may be clouding my judgement.

DH and DS watched the football here. As soon as it was finished, got DS to put his jumper on and said they were popping out. Wouldn't say where they were going. (He uses a stupid phrase similar to ' to see a man about a dog'.

They are still not back. DD is upset (and now in bed). I know where they are. They've gone to s local sporting fixture (the joys of being able to check payment pending on a joint account lol).

I'm pissed off. DD was initially worried (she's 8) and now upset they didn't take her. So am I. I wouldn't have wanted to go (I'm not well) but why the fuck not just say and take her?

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Agree with post above.

Dont agree with you Bert, sorry.

Everyone in our house gets told when they are behaving like a prat; the kids, DH, even me

I would certainly be telling both my kids that their Dad was out of order. I would expect him to acknowledge the fact, then we all move on from there and plan something nice to do as a family.

Not saying where he was going = not fine

Taking just DS = fine, provided of course he is taking DD to next week's match :)

Op why did he say he didnt take your DD?

Methinks there are a number of posters projecting their own experiences onto this question, and twisting what has actually been said.

I think children seeing a healthy amount of disagreement and even heated discussion between their parents is a good thing. Seeing some conflict, seeing each parent stand up for fair treatment of themselves and the kids, and seeing the resolution teaches children all sorts of valuable lessons:

• you should stand up for yourself
• you should not put up with being treated like shit
• people who love each other can disagree and still love each other
• a disagreement does not mean the end of a relationship

So no I don't agree with hiding everything from the kids and "not involving" them in family disagreements / discussions. I don't think it means you (generic you) are using them as pawns or whatever.

Well said Hearts

I agree Hearts.