To send DS2 to 11+ tutor against his wishes?

[Fourarmsv2]

We live in a county with several grammar schools.

DS1 took his 11+ and will be going to a grammar school in September. He started one hour once a week tutoring in about Nov of Y5.

DS2 is not a reader like DS1. He's also a July baby. So I've booked him in a little earlier (June Y4).

He doesn't want to go and is in tears. AIBU to send him anyway? I'd rather not, but because I don't want to deal with him being difficult about going. DS1 was the same and I sent him anyway. DS2 always feels a little more fragile to me so I know I give into him more than I do DS1.

He's due there in just over an hour.

:(

[dixiechick1975]

Glad things are going well thanks for the update

[YeOldTrout]

I'm glad for OP & I know she's doing what she feels she must.

This thread still horrifies me. It's like a crystal clear vision of everything that is wrong with the grammar or super/selective system.

[Fourarmsv2]

In what way? That people are tutoring kids for the exam? I agree with that.

I remember thinking that free tutoring should be available to PP kids to even the balance.

We can afford a year of once a week but not three years of twice a week with a different (better?) more expensive tutor who comes highly recommended. Partially because DS1 was having tutoring then.

So he's still disadvantaged against those kids, and the kids at private prep schools that don't have a secondary so work on 11+ prep as a selling point.

I'm just doing what I can with what we've got. Not perfect but I can't see how else you could alter the system.