To think £40 is not too much to put in a wedding card?

[Chuckitinthefuckitbucket]

Going to the evening reception of a wedding tonight. Dp wants to put £20 in card, I say £40.
It was a small wedding ceremony and I've known the bride a couple of years. I think £20 would probably just cover what she's spending on feeding us and feel £40 is better to give.
How much do you guys put in cards (when they've asked for money instead of gifts)
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[viva100]

£40 or more is what I would put too especially as you're not giving a gift.

[crazykat]

Put in what you can afford. I agree mn is a different world sometimes. When we got married we got between £20-£50 from most guests and was surprised that anyone gave us £50, a couple of my aunts gave us more which was really generous and unexpected even though they're well off.

We usually give £20 for friends weddings which have all been of the small registry office ceremony for family and then back to the pub for a buffet and disco. When bil gets married we'll be giving £50 as that's all we can afford.

[Wittynewnameifonly]

Yes I'd also go for £40.

[knittingbat]

Yeah I would say £40, but also depends on how much cash you have! There are people who didn't give me anything at mine but travelled LOADS so obviously I wouldn't expect anything from them. Also close friend, pretty skint, gave me a lovely bunch of flowers, it was one of my favourite things. Think the £6 fizz and card is great too. I think it mostly depends on if you are minted/flush with cash or not and also different cultures, different expectations sometimes. If she is a nice, gracious friend, she will be delighted to see you and to share evening with you and delighted with whatever you bring.

[DeladionInch]

I was gobsmacked that people gave more than £20 at mine recently. And the cash has all gone into an isa ready to spend on the cosmetic building work we want done but couldn't afford, thanks

I invited people because I wanted to spend time with them. The £10 from a friend on disability benefit and a low income was as appreciated possibly more so as the much bigger sum from well-off bil.

I'd go for £20. Because I was grateful to each and every person who thought enough of me to turn up and wish us well, not because they might fund my holiday

[ilovesooty]

I haven't been to a wedding recently. I'm not too keen on them anyway so I'm in no hurry to go to another but I'd no idea people seriously expected to give so much.

[Rosieliveson]

I tend to go £40-£60 on a wedding present if vying from a gift list or if invited for a full day wedding. For an evening do I'd be more inclined to buy a bottle of champagne or similar so 25-30

[AuntyMag10]

I would do 50+. 20 seems a bit too low, what could you even do with 20.

[DeladionInch]

AuntyMag, a damned sight more than without £20!

15 couples (at ours) x £20 is a significant amount of money to those of us living in the real world

[HuftysTrain]

What could you do with £20?

Seriously?

[BlairWaldorfLovesShopping]

Wow - I got married a couple of months ago, and only a small handful of evening guests gave us anything at all (was cash when they did, and £20 seemed a normal amount). I'd say £20 is fine. We spent a lot more than that on feeding and watering them, but weren't thinking of it in that way at all!

[Almahart]

£40 way too much IMO. Most we were given for a day wedding was £50

[expatinscotland]

For an evening do, £20 totally reasonable.

[hellsbellsmelons]

Well if there are 50 guests and everyone gives £20 then they'd have £1,000
That's not to be sniffed at.

[nuttybananas]

We do the same as rosie lives on so I won't retype it!!!

[Gottagetmoving]

Its a question with no definite answer.
I know people who would think £40 was a ridiculously small amount and would put in at least £100 and yet others who would think £20 was plenty.

It depends on what you can afford. I don't think people should expect a wedding gift at all but be appreciative if they get one.

Buying a gift looks better than giving money. An evening guest could buy a photo frame, that doesn't need to cost a fortune.

[VinoTime]

Compromise.

Give them £30.00

[Naoko]

Give what you want and can afford to. I gave 50 euros when my childhood best friend got married. It seemed low considering how much she means to me but if I gave her more my bills would go unpaid that month, and she wouldn't want me to do that! I travelled from another country and bought a new dress and helped her get dressed in the morning, and it was fabulous and neither of us would've missed it for the world. Who cares what was in the card.

[PesoPenguin]

In this senario I'd split it down the middle and go with £30, which incidentally is what I'd give myself.

[redshoeblueshoe]

£20 is fine. For people saying what can you do with £20 - they asked for cash, so they will have lots of £20. (Or you could ring someone who is actually going and see what they are giving)

[MissBattleaxe]

If you can't afford it, you can't afford it. I hope the tone of some posters isn't an indication that poor people who have no money should not accept wedding invitations.

£40 is a hell of a lot if you're broke, or a fair-enough amount if you're not. It's completely acceptable for an evening guest not to take anything at all except a nice card. If you're really broke, something home made or creative like the beautifully wrapped glasses mentioned up thread.

I would hate to think that skint people were giving more than they could afford just for appearances sake.

[PrincessOfChina]

That'a a £30 invite in my book.

£100+ - family and close friends
£50+ - friends
£30 - evening do

[5madthings]

£20 is fine. Tbh any gift however small.is fine, it's the thought that counts, we got married last week. It was a low key wedding with lunch at Pizza express after, guests paid for their own food as we simply couldn't afford a due. We did provide prosecco. We said no gifts, esp as people were paying for their own food, however we still got gifts, cash, vouchers etc varying from £20 to considerably more. It was a lovely surprise and we were thrilled, yhe cash gifts were used on our honeymoon, we had three nights away from the madthings fir the first time in 16 yrs we had proper child free time! The cash paid for meals out and a cinema trip etc. It allowed us to treat ourselves without counting the pennies and was massively appreciated.

We went to a wedding recently and gave £50 as it was a close friend, that was a lot for us but she is a special friend.

Everyone's budget is different. There is no right or wrong amount.