To think my DH is being ridiculous?

[Collectorofcookbooks]

He's just announced he's going to give me a Christmas card.

Apparently I am a miserable old goat as I refuse to give him one. He did say that in an affectionate way, honest...

My face looked like this -->

We live in the same house, why on earth he feels the need to give me a card is beyond me! What a waste of paper, and money...and this year we've cut right back on on cards as it was getting out of hand, so it feels a little hypocritical of him to give me one when we took a joint decision not to send as many this year!

What's an ETTO?

Each to their own vita

I buy carefully selected cards for my DM because it's important to her, it's not important to Dh and I, it's just stuff and nonsense so we don't bother, just as buying gifts for each other at Xmas is a bit naff...we do buy things for each other year round, at Xmas we only do it because the dcs get excited about it.

Yes, what's ETTO?

I love receiving cards, especially one chosen with some thought and effort. Always swap cards with dh. Call me weird but I really, really love a nice card. Why should it matter if you live together; a Christmas card is no different from an anniversary, birthday, valentines card, is it not?

ETTO - each to their own?

Somewhere around 1955 my dad gave my mum a lovely padded Xmas card. He wasn't a card man so this was a bit of a shock. In 2005 he gave her another, this time he wrote, in a very shaky hand 'merry Christmas, this is number two. I love you'.
He died a few months later from terminal cancer.

Every year since 1955 the first card had been placed on mum's mantle piece and I used to laugh at it. Now there are two cards, the first and the last.
Every Christmas when they go up I have a little cry and wish he were here to send another.

Oh bugger, I thought ETTO might be some sort of interesting personality inventory.

Oh Sisters I'm so sorry about your dad, but what a lovely memory to have

Not remotely unreasonable. I know dh loves me at Christmas. He speaks to me in person. Mind you, I don't do cards really. Waste of money and something not gorgeous to find a home for in the house. I can never work out the best way to display cards

Sisters that made me well up. I'm sorry about your dad xxx

I don't think I've ever given dh a Christmas card. My mum insists on giving all 4 dc their own card and one for dh & me. I don't see the point when she's seeing us on Christmas Day.

We don't get each other presents either. I used to buy for him, but he's so busy just before Christmas that I never got one back!

Thanks ladies
The 1950's card is a beautiful thing, it's like an easel with a tasseled edge in silk with padding. I think its probably something that will stay in our family for many years to come.
If they made cards like that today I'd probably treasure it myself. Most of todays cards seem cheap, thin and mass produced.

My DH got all sad the first Christmas after we married because I didn't get him a special "husband" card. I thought this was hilarious as I can't see the point in buying a card for someone you're spending Christmas Day with (surely the point is to send Christmas wishes to the people you won't see).

Anyway, since it is important to him I buy him one every year now, though it's always exchanged with a bit of a sly grin.

I don't bother getting special cards for anyone else though, the notion seems bonkers to me.

DH keeps buying them for me. We have been together for 21 yrs and I regularly tell him not to bother because they are for people you don't see but every now and again he forgets and gets me one or on occasion 2 . Then of course I feel bad because I haven't bothered to get one for him.

I love getting cards from DH and always get him one too. He writes such lovely messages for me.

I thought all couples did cards. Am clearly sheltered.

It's kind of mad in and English way. I've today purchased, all 50% marked down but not because I'm cheap...at m and s , my usual husband, difficult this year cause we've totally pissed each off all year, I opted for " My better half..". It evaded "love" but kind of suggested I appreciate he thinks he's better than me. It's just a busy year not an angry one of not having time for each other. We will be fine .. Hopefully?!
Son daughter cards bit dull.
To a happy couple, both of you etc etc...m and s used to be better . All a bit random today and would rather pay more for better. Yet I detest putting them up..it's just the fact you never know how many you might have to accommodate on top of the decorations etc. I'm really Christmassy btw not a miserable bugger!!

I must clarify ..not my usual husband ...my usual husband card! I've kept the same husband for some time.

My grandparents were married for over 60yrs.
On their first Christmas when married they sent each other Christmas cards.
Then every year following they'd take the card out again and add a kiss.

Stuff the money and jewellery when they died, we fought over who was getting the Christmas cards.