To think it's odd to give other people's children advent calendar?

[Vijac]

I know this is a first world problem. My 3yo (just 3) has received advent calendars from both the neighbours and my mil. I have already got one too. Whilst obviously these are kind gifts, aibu to think that it's a bit of a strange gift. I don't really want my son to have multiple pieces of chocolate every day for the whole of December. But what am I meant to do with the calendars?!

[Thisvehicleisreversing]

It annoys me too. My MIL has always tried to beat me to getting the DSs theirs every year. As soon as they are in the shops she gets them so I don't even get chance to get one first. I wouldn't mind if it was to have a second one at her house, but she takes pleasure from bringing them in and putting them in the kitchen when I'm out.

I know it seems pathetic but as she's always done it, it takes away the pleasure I'd get in seeing their faces as I gave them one they really wanted.

Luckily I managed to beat her this year and was pleased to be able to text her and tell her not to bother with getting them.

She wasn't happy mind.

[Boomtownsurprise]

Mine have 3. One from both nannas, then one from great gramps.

They might get ones from God parents or friends.

I used my brain. I didn't buy any.

[GraysAnalogy]

It's nothing to do with 'being nice to a kid' for god's sake. If you want to be nice to a child there are plenty of gifts to buy, not an advent calendar which for the majority of families is something only the parents buy.

They need one, just one. Nothing to do with the amount of chocolate involved, just the fact why duplicate a gift like that?

[tippytappywriter]

Odd? Seriously op! That is really kind of others. Donate them.

[EndoplasmicReticulum]

Yes it's weird. Husband's aunty used to bring one for my children, but they already had one - especially as she didn't visit until the middle of December.

[RaisingMen]

It's an advent calender. That's all. It will last for 24 days.
Some people really do pick at eveything, I can imagine you stamping your feet and whining about how you wanted to be the only one to buy them an advent calender. You have people who love and care for your children enough to want to buy them treats at this time of year, or join in with their christmas preparations in some small way. A bit of perspective wouldn't go amiss for some of you.

[cindydog]

God forbid these kind people try and buy your son an easter egg.Advent calenders contain teeny tiny chocolates ,3 is no big deal.

[Hulababy]

I have known grandparents to get advent calendars for their grandchildren. Can't see any issue in that tbh. It's an extra square of chocolate - heck I can even pinch one in that case!

I would never buy one for another person's child (excepting grandchildren and I am nowhere near crossing that bridge.) However, I would not be offended if anyone gave DD an extra advent card. I would simply thank them for it.

[RaisingMen]

Can imagine some of you*

[Marmiteandjamislush]

YABU it is a gift to a child. Not high grade Uranium, for goodness sake. Be grateful that people care for your child. I think if you give them away it is very wrong. Give yours away, sure, but not other peoples' how ungrateful would that be.

[squoosh]

I'm really struggling to see how this is weird or odd in any way.

Definitely see some odd people on this thread though.

[MagicMojito]

~unnecessary stress~ sorry but Wtf
I wish somebody would come stress me out with too much chocolate

[KnackeredMuchly]

Yabu.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

I think you've had some harsh responses here OP, I've got 3 ds's; 15, 17 and 19 and they've only had advent calendars off us, a kind thought off your neighbours but you think otherwise, fair enough.

Ignore the arses here and donate the extras.

Job done.

[squoosh]

Arses for disagreeing? Boo hoo.

[Pico2]

I think it's odd. Last year we agreed that the PIL would get DD a refillable advent calendar. They absolutely stuffed it, instead of putting in one treat per day. I had to politely decline their offer to fill it this year as she is looking a bit podgy and we are cutting little things out where we can.

When I was a child, we got picture advent calendars only.

[Shetland]

I agree it's an odd thing to do without mentioning it first, as you do really only need one.

I am being a bit a lot unreasonable with my thoughts this year because not only did someone buy them an advent calendar, they're are glittery pink Disney Princess ones.
In my mind advent calendars should at the very least be Christmassy. Not to mention the fact that they already have a reusable one. And said relative will be round my house so she'll know if they don't have them. How do you explain that?!
I'm compromising and giving my youngest her Disney one and using the reusable one for my eldest. Hopefully relative will see that and not buy again next year.
I do appreciate the gesture though.

[naty1]

I dont think its thoughtful - more like i cant be bothered to think ---- chocolate.
They may be small but it depends on childs age.
Im not gettibg 1 for DD 2. I dont want to get into choc every day.
Why is every holiday chocolate.
But anyway most kids will get more than enough over xmas.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

Yeah, boo bloody hoo to you too.

One Advent calendar is enough, anymore loses the magic.

[squoosh]

I've never had an advent calendar in my life. I might start dropping heavy hints to my elderly neighbours.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

squoosh

I've managed to persuade my parents to still buy me one...I am 26

[YackityUnderTheMistletoe]

Get a different one then! My DSs adore the lego advent calendars, so if someone were to give them a chocolate one as well they (and I) would be delighted!

[Bogeyface]

Perhaps they just thought it would be a kind thing to do, perhaps the neighbours dont have other children to buy them for, perhaps you should try being grateful that there are so many people who care about your children as you might need them one day.

Just donate them if you dont want them, but I hope you tell your neighbours and MIL what you have done so they dont waste their money on someone so ungrateful next year.

And as for the amount of chocolate, even with 4 pieces thats barely a mouthful, its hardly a bar of dairy milk per day.

Jeez unclench love.

[Yarp]

I think the present is fine

What I find a bit sad is that Advent Calender = chocolate.

In my day, the thrill was in finding the door and guessing what would be behind it.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

It's not just about the chocolate is it?

My boys loved coming downstairs looking for that number on the calendar, counting down the days and having a chocolate before breakfast . Anymore than once would be an arse.