I want, I want, I want

[NamesNick]

from now on I am not responding to any request which does not include manners

I seem to be treated like a slave in this house expected to respond to every demand.

I want a cookie....no
I want a drink...you can have water (cue crying and whinging) maybe if you want cordial you will remember manners in future
do this
do that
get me this
get me that

I am ignoring all future demands

I am so pissed off with lack of manners in this house

may I hear some of your tips please? I am going out of my mind

[AgentAlice]

I respond with:

'I want doesn't get'

'He/she who shouts loudest goes last' so if they are all waiting for something to be handed out the person sitting the quietest gets served first, this includes play-date guests when they are here, the person making the biggest fuss goes last. It works really well in this house.

'can you ask properly please'

When they are small I look at them and say 'P....' and they get the message and say 'please may I...' It is not ok for them to just say 'please' I make them repeat a whole new sentence.

DH and I are now in the habit of not saying 'want' ourselves.

I also like a 'thank you' afterwards, I give them a thank you if they have passed something to me or brought me something.

'I am not your servant also works well' if they are demanding, the have learnt with me that if they carry on being rude they simply will not get what they are after.

I think it also helps that both sets of parents expect the same as we so there is none of this, 'oh, don't be hard on them...'

[NamesNick]

I have today implemented a behaviour chart for each dc.

all have the same heading
manners
tidy
dinner
behaviour

I explained to them what they need to do to gain a smiley under each category and wrote it all on a poster for them.

it is now hanging in the kitchen and is visible to all.

The conversation went very well, I felt they were all listening and taking in

manners have been impeccable since

early days, but a start at least.
thanks for the opportunity just to vent yesterday

[QTPie]

I hate "I want" :(

I always say "sorry?" or, if I have to, say "how do you say it nicely?".

I always aim for "I would like ... Please"

[Summerisle1]

"...and what's the magic word?"

Another of my mother's sayings. Unfortunately when I addressed it to ds2 he answered "Abracadabra".

[BirdhouseInYourSoul]

I always answer with "really?" and carry on with whatever I'm doing.

If he keeps repeating I want I eventually ask if he knows the proper way to ask for something and he gets it. However, the really? thing works well enough now. He is generally asking nicely the first time now.

I have him utterly convinced that my ears don't hear whingey voices though. I kept saying I couldn't hear what he was saying and asking him to repeat it in his nice voice...

[AlexD72]

I ignore until they remember to use manners. I also say I want does not get and please say I would like or can I please have.
I was always taught to ask in a polite way to say please and thank you and be polite.
It really gets to me if people are rude.