to put a card through our new neighbours' door

[BobPatandIgglePiggle]

To say happy new house / welcome to the street? ?

I thought it was fairly normal but dp thinks I'm daft. We don't live in a naice area or anything - we're in ex council, they're moving into the council house over the road.

He says I'm daft as they might think I'm a pushy neighbour or something! And he reckons only 'posh' people do thi!

Do you 'welcome' new neighbours? ?

I moved into my house 2 days after having my first baby. Lady over the road popped over to say hello and made me feel fab by saying I couldn't possibly have just had a baby as I looked so great .

She then dropped off (every third day or so) various home made food - we had soup, chilli, a lasagne, brownies, lemon drizzle cake, flapjack.

Best neighbour ever!

We moved recently and several neighbours did this or came and introduced themselves, though live in a nice area - it's a nice thing to do. Just because you live on a council
estate doesn't mean it's like benefit
street though i grew up on a ce and don't think it was the done thing. Maybe have a peep at the new neighbours to see if they look friendly.

seems a pleasant and welcoming thing to do. Our new neighbours did it, we are on chat and wave terms but we don't live in each others pockets. Suits all of us.

not sure where 'posh' comes into it. I call it 'basic manners'.

guessing those against are down south...

When we moved into a house a while ago our neighbour did this.
On the card she wrote something along the line of 'knock and share a glass of wine when you have a chance'.

I think it's a lovely thought.

Oh I'd love that if I moved to a new place - hoping to be moving some time in the near future - I think it's a lovely idea.

I did go and introduce myself to the next door neighbour when I moved into my previous house. The woman just continued to watch a television programme and ignore me completely while her husband and I tried to make polite chitchat. I left as soon as I could without seeming rude and I don't think we spoke to one another ever again.

Agree with others don't do anything until you're all well again.

I would hate this. We are moving next week and I would think the neighbours weird if they did this. I am anti social though.

I'm also down south

I think that's a lovely idea. When I first moved here, 20 years ago, from living abroad, my dear husband having suddenly died, as the removal peope were bringing stuff in, several neighbours came to say welcome, anything they could do to help, etc. Even the postman came and introduced himself.

A couple of our neighbours did this when we moved in, and I thought it was a great ice breaker, as I then felt confident about going round and introducing myself.

I intended to do the same when some new people moved in opposite last week, but DH's amazon habit meant that they took some parcels in for us before I had chance

I'm down south and have had neighbors do this. I think its nice. We're not all anti social down south.

I drop a bottle of wine to new neighbours and say hi. It is nice and it makes it easier rather than after a first conversation about awkward things like broken fences etc. starts things off in a good way !

I recently put a new baby card through my new neighbour's door. I had never spoken to her, she's only been in a few weeks, and been living elsewhere whilst decorating. Anyway, she caused quite a stir by not quite making it to the hospital on time and calling an ambulance, then having the baby at home (unplanned).

I'm in the South too.

What is it that people think's weird about a friendly Hello?
We've always had really great neighbours, not overly involved but friendly and there if you need them, same as we are.

I had it happen with a couple of neighbours years ago I really appreciated it.

I personally think its lovely we were welcomed into the our new home it's made all the difference

I always do this! And makes cuppas etc when people are actually moving in.
If they want to keep their distance afterwards they can, but to have a friendly welcome is IMO important. When we moved in, we had eggs thrown at the car (and it's not a bad area, there was just one family of wild kids here then!)
My most recent new neighbours appreciated the tea and card, and because the ice was broken they did not feel embarrassed to come and knock and ask to borrow stuff.
They have not become our BFFs but that's not the point. You don't have to be in and out of each others houses all day to be on friendly/first name/civil terms.

This was done for us when we moved in to our current house (down south!) and we have done it for new arrivals too - I think it's lovely, it certainly made us feel welcome, and has meant that I know the people I live near which has been very handy on occasion!

Thanks everyone - looks like the consensus is that it's fine and more importantly, dp is wrong apart from a few.

I've no intention of passing on the bug. It's nasty!

Completely normal and just good manners IMO.

I would have liked it. Though might not have followed up. I have moved many, many times into every sort of community, and never once had any neighbor reach out to me until this time, so i might have thought you were weird. Still, if we later crossed paths, and i knew you were card lady, i would be extra interested.

That's pretty much what happened this time. My husband uses the stairs as part of his stretching before running. Something he said prompted her to put some info through our slot, and when I finally met her, we had a nice chat. We are both at home during the day, so i manage to chat once a week or so. It turns out that she is the busybody of the close, who sits looking out her 3rd floor window and noting what the whole neighbourhood is up to. And she has introduced herself to everyone in the building, so has told me so much about each of them that i am very careful what I say about us! But she has also provided useful information on veterinarians, various tradesman, loaned us a ladder, etc. And all of that adds up to more contact with a neighbor so soon than has ever happened in my life.

Our neighbours did this and it was really nice :) Need to find one of the cards to recall all the occupants' names for one side, to do their Christmas card!

I think that it's a lovely thing to do :)

Normal for me, too, even if I'm the mover-in and the neighbours haven't made contact after a few days.

This might go some way to explain why I never had a "don't know my neighbours" problem in London :)

I would in the street that I'm in now.

We live in a new build and everyone in the Cul-de-sac moved in at the same time. We're all really good friends - we go on nights out together, have barbecues, watch our kids play in the street while we chat etc.

If anyone moved out ( :( ) and somebody else moved in then, I think yes, I would put a welcome card through the door or go and introduce myself because I wouldn't want them to feel like they couldn't join in if we were having a barbecue.

However, I wouldn't if I lived in a street where nobody really spoke to each other like my old street. I'd probably just say hello when I saw them outside.

I think it's a lovely thing to do. My now ex-neighbours came over with a bottle of champagne and a card to say hello and it was just so nice. It has been the start of the most fantastic friendship that is stronger than ever even though they have now moved away.

It's so important to make an effort with neighbours, it's a great comfort to know that you are looking out for each other. Even if you don't want to be best buddies with them, cordial neighbourly relations make a huge difference IMO!

We had cards, champagne, chocolates and a present for our new baby when he arrived from our various neighbours (moved while I was heavily pregnant).
Can't imagine why anyone would read something bad into being friendly?