to keep being so emotional over my son all the time?

[lomega]

I have an 8 month old baby boy and he's my world. He is such a good kid. I don't even want to go on about it too much for fear of sounding like I'm bragging and putting my PFB on a pedestal, that's not my aim, but obviously I am smitten with my LO. My DH and I think the world of him, he's such a light in our lives. Of course he has moments where he screams in our ears and throws food on the floor etc like all kids do as well, but he generally is very sweet and well behaved.

The trouble is, I keep getting stupidly tearful and emotional over him. I feel embarrassed and pathetic and fucking stupid if I'm honest (sorry for the language) because other parents who love their kids don't blub all the time (from what I can see.)
I just cuddle him sometimes and I well up, or we'll be reading/watcing TV together and something will just set me off. Is this normal? Do lots of mums have an emotional snivel in private over how overwhelming the love is for their babies? I never tend to cry if there are people around because I try to suppress it (and it makes me feel ridiculous), and I do try not to let my DS see me crying.

For example earlier today I was cuddling him and helping him (he's just learning to crawl so I'd laid a blanket on the floor) and he rolled over onto his back and said 'mama'. And that was it. It was meant to be a cute/special moment and all I could do was cry. :/ It just feels like I love him so much and it overwhelms me entirely.

I've recently returned to work from mat leave and I did have some mild PND (which was treated very quickly), so I don't know if other mums have had this and could comment on their experiences?

Sorry if this is long and/or idiotic. I just don't know if this is normal or not.

[teeththief]

Lovely thread! My DS (nearly 10) still says 'goodnight, love you, sweet dreams' when he goes to bed. I still well up when they get hurt/upset (DD is 7). I've kept the stories we read when they were babies/toddlers and just looking at the books makes me nostalgic.

You're completely normal OP xx

[CheesyBadger]

Totally normal! I blubbed looking at dd today. Just that.

[HauteChocolate]

YANBU. My husband caught me welling up at the thought of our baby getting married one day!

[ToomuchIsBackOnBootcamp]

God yes and mine is a strapping 8 year old who is (almost) too heavy to lift and is up to my collar bones in height already. But I still get emotional, totally. I came in from a late and difficult night just yesterday to find he had left me a wee post it note, directing me on a treasure hunt to find the latest loom band he had made me in my favourite colour. The final note with the band said "you are the best mum in the world" I just sat and smiled, and smiled through the tears as I looked at it.

I also had dreams about losing him when he was little, I think it's totally normal. Of course it's the worst thing you can imagine, harm coming to this perfect little precious person, so for your brain to even begin to deal with that idea is enough to cause some very weird dreaming, perhaps a form of stress control or playing out some of those fears.

If you feel things are getting a bit much, a wee chat with a good GP should check that you are ok. (I had PND, always worth just keeping an eye if you feel you are not coping)

Lovely stories on this thread. Hey, if Anyfucker gets weepy, then anybody can!

[LapsedPacifist]

My baby is 18 and 6'2". and I started crying when I saw a copy of "Each Peach Pear Plum" in a charity shop yesterday. YANBU!

[PowerPants]

I never do this. You're not the only one Derek !

[StrippedPJs]

I've never once done this the only time I've ever welled up over my DS was when he left a mega block on the floor and I stepped on it! Hurt likes bitch!

[Thisvehicleisreversing]

Both DH and I get a bit soppy regularly when talking about our DSs and they're 13 and 9.
I tear up and DH gets a lump in his throat. usually after a glass of wine or two
They're just so damn lovely.

[Hakluyt]

Under no circumstances buy this book Evil grin emoticon.

[TheSameBoat]

TBH it's a good job we do feel like this over our kids. I still well up on a regular basis over my 13 year old. Despite his stinky socks, dubious hygiene standards and the fact that getting him to do housework is like hitting myself on the head everything he does and says seems so clever and mature and just bloody wonderful to me!

There, I'm tearing up just talking about him so you're not the only nutty one here!

[Morloth]

My 10 year old was in a band competition the other day.

I saw him there, with his flute and he looked so wonderful, I got all teary.

Why not? Overwhelming love is awesome.

[Claybury]

Idiotic. but normal.
You probably won't find it happens so much when he's 16

[BertieBotts]

I didn't cry on my wedding day either though (DH almost did!) or when handed my newborn for the first time so I must just be a hard hearted bitch

I cry at TV all the time

[LarrytheCucumber]

You might get over it in 30 years OP!
I cried buckets on DS1's wedding day. I think a lot of women get very emotional over their children.

[Gudgyx]

You lot are making me cry!! Doesnt take much these days.

But you have just made me buy 'Guess How Much I Love You' and 'Each Peach Pear Plum'.

Cue the emotional wreck

[Snapespotions]

I cry so easily over dd still, and she is 9! I even cried at the last parents' evening because her teacher was so lovely about her. I was mortified .

[gildedlily]

YANBU but just to warn you it kind of gets worse. Just wait til first day at school, school plays and assemblies. The only compensation is you'll make pals amongst the other sobbing/sniffly mums - I know I have

[Delphiniumsblue]

I don't think you will get over it in 30yrs- I haven't. I don't expect I will be dry eyed at DS's wedding!
I am 63yrs and my mother still gets emotional about me! Don't worry- completely normal (I hope!)
Mind you I cry with 'long lost families' and anything like that!

[Thebodyloveschocolateandwine]

Oh completely normal op.

I cannot under any circumstances hear slipping through my fingers by Abba. Dds teens now.

Wait until you help your first born heave all their stuff out if your car and move into halls at uni. You see them tentatively nod/chat to other teens and then know they are nervous but trying to mask it.

Leavers services, awards nights. Oh bloody awful.

Then at The same time your own parents get frail and you see them looking frail and vulnerable lying on hospital trolleys and they need you to care for them too instead of them being your rock.

More and more overwhelming.

[Thebodyloveschocolateandwine]

Bloody crying now!!! Good grief.

[Curlyweasel]

I have/had the same with both mine (DD8 and DS 4 months). I can only liken it to those teenage crush feelings you have - besotted and emotions all over the place - going from ecstatic to stinking in a nano-second. Mooning around and wanting to touch and kiss 'em all the time. It's ace, but sometimes a bit weird. xx

[Mondaybaby]

My dd is almost 4. When she is asleep at night I can still sit and watch her for ages like I did when she was a new born. Just staring and wondering how come I made something so perfect and amazing. My love just bursts out of my heart like a pain.
OP - enjoy every second with your ds. 8 months is still so new. Your emotion is normal - like an extreme bonding!

[FlyLikeABird]

This is totally alien to me, it sounds lovely though

[Thebodyloveschocolateandwine]

Littie wellies and seeing my lads then 10 and 11 encouraging their baby sisters to walk/talk/and cuddling them.

Little wellies.

Each peach pear plum is evil.

[Delphiniumsblue]

I think it gets harder the older they get, not easier! Being the parent of adults is so much harder when you can't fix things with a kiss and cuddle.