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AIBU?

to keep being so emotional over my son all the time?

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lomega · 25/08/2014 21:03

I have an 8 month old baby boy and he's my world. He is such a good kid. I don't even want to go on about it too much for fear of sounding like I'm bragging and putting my PFB on a pedestal, that's not my aim, but obviously I am smitten with my LO. My DH and I think the world of him, he's such a light in our lives. Of course he has moments where he screams in our ears and throws food on the floor etc like all kids do as well, but he generally is very sweet and well behaved.

The trouble is, I keep getting stupidly tearful and emotional over him. I feel embarrassed and pathetic and fucking stupid if I'm honest (sorry for the language) because other parents who love their kids don't blub all the time (from what I can see.)
I just cuddle him sometimes and I well up, or we'll be reading/watcing TV together and something will just set me off. Is this normal? Do lots of mums have an emotional snivel in private over how overwhelming the love is for their babies? I never tend to cry if there are people around because I try to suppress it (and it makes me feel ridiculous), and I do try not to let my DS see me crying.

For example earlier today I was cuddling him and helping him (he's just learning to crawl so I'd laid a blanket on the floor) and he rolled over onto his back and said 'mama'. And that was it. It was meant to be a cute/special moment and all I could do was cry. :/ It just feels like I love him so much and it overwhelms me entirely.

I've recently returned to work from mat leave and I did have some mild PND (which was treated very quickly), so I don't know if other mums have had this and could comment on their experiences?

Sorry if this is long and/or idiotic. I just don't know if this is normal or not.

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Hakluyt · 28/08/2014 19:36

My dd is going to university in 2 weeks. She came home today incredibly excited about some fairy lights she had just bought herself. I had to rush to to the loo to have a quick weep because I was going to buy her some fairy lights tomorrow...........!

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SpaceInvaders · 27/08/2014 22:56

Sounds completely normal to me. Think everyone gets like that at some point!

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TheCunkOfPhilomena · 27/08/2014 22:20

I don't cry but I have whispered to DS,3, on occasion that I don't want him to ever change whilst giving him an extra tight hug Blush

Guess I'd better start saving up for the therapy he's going to need.

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PistolWhipped · 27/08/2014 22:14

I cry sometimes when I'm looking into my baby's face and I see how blessed we are that the IVF worked. She is the result of so many thousands of prayers and petitions to God. And a brilliant embryologist.

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carlywurly · 27/08/2014 22:08

I remember when ds was little it felt like Christmas Day every day when I went into his room and saw his gummy smile in his cot and realised again that I was getting to keep him.

I still love the moment when I first see them each morning, but I think the fact that they've never been early risers has probably helped Grin

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DoJo · 27/08/2014 20:06

All the time. I used to be super-tough and only cried about once every five years, but now I am a swollen-eyed mess approximately twenty times a day over things like the fact that he might wet himself at school in the future (at least two years away) and be embarrassed and cry. Or he might fall over when he's allowed to play out on his own and really want a cuddle but have to shake it off because he won't want to look like a baby in front of his friends. Or, well any one of a near infinite number of things that could happen to him that might only upset him slightly but that I would still like to be able to protect him from but can't...
sniffs appears to have something in eye

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CharethCutestory · 27/08/2014 19:57

On holiday once, my parents didn't enter me for a beautiful baby contest, as "it wouldn't have been fair on the other parents" Grin

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IfNotNowThenWhen · 27/08/2014 19:10

I won't cry when he leaves home either because I'm going with him

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IfNotNowThenWhen · 27/08/2014 19:07

I didn't cry either when handed my newborn bertie. I said "thank god that's over" ! And demanded tea and toast.
DS sometimes makes me go Aaww when he suddenly seems all small and earnest, but I don't actually cry. I'm English!

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cruikshank · 27/08/2014 18:58

I sort of feel bad for those moms with subpar babies.

I definitely felt sorry for all the other mums in the hospital because their baby wasn't as beautiful as mine. I mean, I really thought about it - it came to me in two logical steps: 1) my baby is the most beautiful; 2) how awful for all the people ie everyone else whose babies are not as beautiful. It made fucking perfect sense to me!

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CharethCutestory · 27/08/2014 13:54

I'm an emotional wreck these days. They're 1 & 3. I swing from thinking (not saying) "oh will you just sod off for five minutes!" to "never, never leave home!"

Confused

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BananaToast · 27/08/2014 13:04

I'm newly pregnant with my first and this thread has just broken me. Every time I start to get tears under control I remember something one of you said and I'm off again. Lovely thread.

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popcornpaws · 27/08/2014 12:53

Hakluyt.
The spare room is bursting with storage boxes filled with uni stuff, it hasn't quite sunk in yet i think though!
She didn't get a place in halls so will be living in a flat in the city centre so she doesn't NEED to come home for two weeks at Christmas, and will prob just come home for a few days.
Part of me hopes she'l make loads of friends and will be too busy to spend more than a few days back home, but part of me wants her to spend the whole holiday with us!

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Frustrated101 · 27/08/2014 08:20

I also cried over another child when DD was a few months old. Her hair was so dark when she was born (still is) so when i went to a concert and saw a teenager with the same coloured hair, i suddenly pictured my DD all grown up going to concerts and was teary.

I thought about that a few months ago when i took DD to her first concert and was teary again.

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Frustrated101 · 27/08/2014 08:12

I do this. Not every day mind but then 11, 7 and 2 yr olds arent as sweet and innocent all the time Grin. But if they are all sat cuddled up together watching tv or i am telling DH how proud i am of them for something, i well up. At the end of foundation stage at school for DS1, his comment on his report about how lovely he was made me completely sob. He has MLD and i was so worried about how he was going to cope. Proud tears of relief.

DD only has one year left at primary school and every event this year will be her last. Last harvest festival, last assembly etc etc. Will need to buy a bulk buy of tissues.

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Hakluyt · 27/08/2014 07:25

"She leaves home to go to uni in two weeks...."

Popcorn- it's not long til Christmas, really, is it......?Sad

Have you cried over the university shopping?

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Fabulous46 · 27/08/2014 07:13

I had another "filling up" moment yesterday when I was told I'm going to be a granny and invited by my DIL to go to her scan Smile.

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Flangeshrub · 27/08/2014 06:29

All the time. I can't believe I got THIS lucky. I am so in love with my kids I want to cry very often. My four year old starts reception next week and I just adore her and will spread a tear. My 6 year old makes me fill up all the time, telling me how much she loves me. Even my 17 year old still makes me fill up.
I just cannot read 'owl babies' anymore. When both my littlies grab hold of me and look at me with such love when the "she came!" Bit happens.

Aaa yes it's like being in love.

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StairsInTheNight · 27/08/2014 06:09

Oh yes, I get this. It's the soft cheeks and chubby wrists that triggers it, and when the look at you like you are the whole world. Such unconditional love. Guess you dont get that - or get to give that to anyone else.

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Tikimon · 27/08/2014 05:31

I don't cry overly much (though I do from time to time) but I do occasionally just have to squeeze them. I hug them tight and pat their heads and say "oh my babies, my babies!"

This. Yes.

I have an almost uncontrollable urge to want to pick up sleeping DD and just squeeze her and cover her in kisses. Sometimes I do and it reminds me why you let the baby fucking sleep

I don't think I've ever cried over DD (5 months), but I do get sudden explainable gushes of affection towards her where I have to just kiss her chubby cheeks over and over. Sometimes I nuzzle her cheek next to mine.

Also, I like to post endless pictures of her to show off how gorgeous she is. She's obviously the most beautiful baby, I sort of feel bad for those moms with subpar babies. Grin

Ok, I fibbed a little. I can't read that "I'll love you forever" book to her without welling up thinking about how she's not going to be my baby forever. Blush

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CheerfulYank · 27/08/2014 02:03

I don't cry overly much (though I do from time to time) but I do occasionally just have to squeeze them. I hug them tight and pat their heads and say "oh my babies, my babies!" Blush

DD is 15 months and laughs, DS is 7 and pats my arm absentmindedly.

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CalamityKate1 · 27/08/2014 01:37

Yeah I often well up. Just silly things set me off. For some reason doing 1-1 stuff makes me all soppy; for DS2 and me it's sitting together watching Dr Who. That's "our" thing. We can spend whole afternoons watching reruns on Netflix, cuddled together. Quite often he'll reach over and take my hand or lean over for a kiss.

For DS1 and me it's cooking programmes, especially GBBO. Same scenario re:cuddles :)

I hasten to add we do do other stuff besides watch TV! It's just that the stillness, the shared interest, the chatting about the programme, the snuggles..... it's lovely and I sometimes look at them and I want to freeze time.

I feel like I love them more each day and now they're both at senior school - or will be when DS2 starts year 7 in September - I'm struck more than ever how quickly they grow up :(

DS2 had to write a list of his favourite things for a school scrapbook earlier in the year. Number three was "hugging mum". That brought on the waterworks!

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popcornpaws · 27/08/2014 00:25

You will still be crying in years to come, for different reasons, my dd used to play the violin and learnt to play my favourite folk song The wild mountain thyme and when she played it to me i filled up, when she left primary school i filled up, when she passed her exams i blubbed, when she got into uni i howled.

She leaves home to go to uni in two weeks...

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MrsBigginsPieShop · 26/08/2014 22:27

I am clearly overtired as I'm welling up just reading this. DS's little coat and shoes in the hall hanging next to DH's huge work coat makes my throat lump.

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