to keep being so emotional over my son all the time?

[lomega]

I have an 8 month old baby boy and he's my world. He is such a good kid. I don't even want to go on about it too much for fear of sounding like I'm bragging and putting my PFB on a pedestal, that's not my aim, but obviously I am smitten with my LO. My DH and I think the world of him, he's such a light in our lives. Of course he has moments where he screams in our ears and throws food on the floor etc like all kids do as well, but he generally is very sweet and well behaved.

The trouble is, I keep getting stupidly tearful and emotional over him. I feel embarrassed and pathetic and fucking stupid if I'm honest (sorry for the language) because other parents who love their kids don't blub all the time (from what I can see.)
I just cuddle him sometimes and I well up, or we'll be reading/watcing TV together and something will just set me off. Is this normal? Do lots of mums have an emotional snivel in private over how overwhelming the love is for their babies? I never tend to cry if there are people around because I try to suppress it (and it makes me feel ridiculous), and I do try not to let my DS see me crying.

For example earlier today I was cuddling him and helping him (he's just learning to crawl so I'd laid a blanket on the floor) and he rolled over onto his back and said 'mama'. And that was it. It was meant to be a cute/special moment and all I could do was cry. :/ It just feels like I love him so much and it overwhelms me entirely.

I've recently returned to work from mat leave and I did have some mild PND (which was treated very quickly), so I don't know if other mums have had this and could comment on their experiences?

Sorry if this is long and/or idiotic. I just don't know if this is normal or not.

[Fabulous46]

My kids are all in their late teens and early 20s. I cherish every little memory of them when they were growing up. When they are little they rely on you so much. Then they grow up and before you know it they have lives of their own that you're only a small part of. I love when they come to visit. I often look at them and think "I did not too bad as a mum." I often choke back tears when a film comes on we used to all cuddle up together to watch or on Christmas Eve now they're not here to put stockings out for or sprinkle reindeer dust. Cherish the memories, the years go WAY too fast.

[HopefulHamster]

I cry like this over my four-year-old allllll the time. I think I did it today over dinner when I thought about him going to school in 10 days. I'm a total sap.

I'm pregnant with a second and in fact one of the reasons (a small one but nevertheless!) for having a second is so I can split the love/sappiness/crying over two children instead of being so focused on one. I know that will sound weird but there you go.

[TheRealAmandaClarke]

Bless you.
My ds (pfb) is nearly 4 and i have this too.
Not to say that is normal of course

Although i am given to crying/ being emotionally demonstrative anyway. And his delivery was horrible. So that might account for it.
I would be mindful of your pnd. Is someone helping you with that?
But imho. You're fine to gush.
Enjoy.

[500smiles]

I've tears in my eyes and a wee lump in my throat reading this.

I'm just the same with mine (10 and nearly 16)

[SelmaMacguyver]

Oh fabulous just your post made me teary

Op it sounds completely normal to me, I remember getting formal photos of my DS (now 13 and 10) when DS2 was a baby. I felt completely overwhelmed watching them being photographed and blubbed like a baby. I think the photographer thought I was unhinged.

For me it has become less intense as they've got older- thank god, but I still wipe away a tear now and then at school concerts or when teachers say nice things about them at parents evening.

[meglet]

eatshit don't worry, I rarely do either. I've had to toughen up a lot due to general crap over the years so it takes a lot to crack that.

I'm cuddly and loving with them, but I rarely cry, just a few times a year.

[BlinkAndMiss]

I am not an emotional person but my 21 month old has me in tears over the smallest things. He said "mammy" today instead of "mama", I blubbed like a baby.

My voice cracks when I sing to him and I usually cry before the end of his bedtime story. I'd think I was depressed but I'm fine in every other situation. Only my DH knows but he thinks it's funny :).

I think it's normal.

[VinoTime]

I have my moments with dd all the time. She's 7 years old.

Tonight when I was tucking her into bed, she pulled a card out from underneath her pillow that she had made me. She'd drawn both of us holding hands and written 'LOVE YOU MUMMY X X X X X' on it.

Tears streaming down my face before I'd even made it to the door

I'm naturally very sensitive but even more so since having dd. It's just that feeling of loving someone so much it literally hurts sometimes. It's very overwhelming. I mean, I feel like leaving her out with the recycle bin every other Tuesday night because she hasn't tidied up her bedroom, but then she does things that are so bloody sweet I completely melt.

[Hakluyt]

I went university shopping with my dd today and she said "I can't believe I own my own pillows. Surely pillows just ARE"


I had to go to the loo for a quick weep.

It doesn't get any better,

[fudgesmummy]

As well as being like this over my own dc's I'm the same with the children that I'm a childminder to. I often tear up when looking at them and thinking just how much I love them....

[MoreCrackThanHarlem]

You sound like a lovely Mum and your son is a lucky boy
My daughter is 13 and I count my blessings every day because she is so kind, sweet, bright and thoughtful.

[Slutbucket]

Blub away. I blub I got an extra child I didn't know I was having (a little twin) and I blub when I think how lucky I am. I lost my parents before my children and had many bereavements so I see it that somebody has decided I needed more family. They are my little gifts from god.

[TheFairyCaravan]

My 2 boys are 19.5 and 17.5.

DS1 moved out 7 weeks ago to join the Army. He wasn't allowed to come home for 6 weeks and he can't phone or text every night. It is hard. I keep having to disappear off to the loo for a cry.

When he was home last weekend, he jokingly asked if I miss him, so I said I did. He said just because he doesn't speak to me everyday doesn't mean he doesn't think about me, and the last thing he thinks at night is "love you mum". It made me cry.

At Christmas, DH was away with the RAF so the pair of them clubbed together and bought me Robbie Williams tickets because they wanted my Christmas to be special. I'd always wanted to see him. I burst into tears when they gave it to me.

I went to parents evening and DS2's teacher said she'd asked what the thing was in the world that made them the most happy. DS2 said, "just spending time with my mum!"

They make me well up all the time!

[MrsBigginsPieShop]

My DS is one at the end of the week. I cried wrapping his present because I felt so in love and blessed. How I'll get through the actual day I don't know. And that's after we had a code brown bath this evening. Yanbu!

[Floop]

I still do it with a 22 and an 18 year old!

[grumpasaur]

If it makes any of you feel better, I don't even HAVE kids and I am like this over kids!! And my husband.

Just yesterday I was at this family fun day (I was working, so you all don't think I am the weirdo who goes to family fun days with no family!).

Anyway part of the day involved these little sprint races. They had an Under 5 sprint, and all the little ones were so damned cute I actually cried!!! They were just so gorgeous in their innocence- none of them were standing on the line, one was facing backwards, one looked like he was surprised to find out where he was all of a sudden. Then they started running and none of them stopped at the finish line, so cute! They were so proud!!

So yes, I was crying. Just like I do at parades.

I think there is something about innocence that gets me going; children are so genuine and engaging and curious and funny and excited about life, and I guess I just find that being around that energy makes me experience the world in a more 'raw' kind of way.

Little bastards!

Can't imagine what I will be like with my own!!

[JeanetteDanielsBenziger]

Me and three year old DS picked 5 yo DD up from school, on the way back she walked with her arm round his shoulders and after 2 mins she called over her shoulder ''you crying yet mum?''

[JeanetteDanielsBenziger]

Oh bloody hell, fairycaravans DS just made me cry with his pre-sleep 'love you mum'

So you see OP , It doesn't even need to be your own DC. Totally normal.

[BertieBotts]

I don't get this at all :( It sounds lovely (if embarrassing!)

I'm really touched by this thread. I had no idea. How wonderful.

[NormHonal]

I was watching my 6yo engrossed in TV earlier and it set me off. Like this big emotional wave that comes over you.

Totally normal, OP. I remember sobbing my eyes out in that first year because song lyrics on the radio in the car, not good suddenly made sense and had obviously all been written about gorgeous little babies like mine.

[soppy cow emoticon]

[TheWholeOfTheSpoon]

I became an emotional wreck the minute I gave birth (almost 18 years ago!). I just welled up at Fairy's post, I well up at adverts and I well up at the mere thought of them all leaving home, especially as DC1 will be off next summer.

If I even think of GHMILY and, weirdly, Eat Your Peas by Nick Sharratt, I cry. GHMILY because it's a beautiful book and EYP, because I would read it for hours, doing silly voices and all the kids would ask for me to read it over and over again, even when they were far too old for me to be reading it to them. Being a mum is brilliant, but it's an emotional rollercoaster, for sure!

[TheWholeOfTheSpoon]

Reading that back, I sound either depressed or a bit of a tool!

[TheFairyCaravan]

Sorry jeanette.

[TheFairyCaravan]

Sorry spoon. Its made me well up again.

Kids are so lovely. We've all got so much to be thankful for.

[heraldgerald]

Yes I cry because I love him so much it physically hurts... And I was really pleased after bed time last night but then saw his little brown shoes and thought Ooo I can't wait to see him again in the morning. And then I cried.


Jesus wept! So soppy!